Past loves (serious thread)

[sterolizer]

Ok I'm going to do some venting so bare with me. Please don't flame or make a joke about it. It's a rather sensitive topic for me right now.

I had dated this girl for 4 yrs. She was the first person I had ever really loved, and became very attached to. I was young and immature at the time. I had cheated on her, she found out and we then broke up. I never did get over my feelings for her. And I regret ever cheating on her in the first place. It's been kind of like a fucking curse, knowing I hurt someone I cared about so much and having to live with that feeling.

We haven't talked for years, and just the other week she started talking to me again (for some unknown reason), which has totally began to tear me apart mentally. I still have feelings for her. And she says she misses us but she can't ever trust me again. I've changed since then, I'm a different person now. I'm not that same immature kid that I was when we were dating. But she seems to think that people don't change. It's just really frustrating hearing that she misses "us" being together, but at the same time hearing she doesn't think we can ever be together again. It's just really been a huge mind fcuk for me. I really wish she would give me that chance. And if she doesn't I feel it would almost be easier if we didn't talk again, because I have too much feelings for her still, to still talk and not be apart of her life, I'm finding that really hard to handle.

I just wish she was able to see what I'm willing to do for her, and that she could see through the blinding pains of the past, and see that I really have changed.

Any suggestions? it's really been tearing me apart mentally so please try to be sensitive to the subject

 

[machine23]

Keep talking to her. Ask her if she wants to get some coffee. Somewhere quiet where you guys can talk and not be interrupted. Let her know how you've change but tell her how you actually haven't gotten over her and that you really regret what you did. Guys are stupid when they are young. Just ask her if you guys can take things really slow. Really slow! You will have to be really open with her though. And be aware if you have Facebook that might make her a little uncomfortable.

 

[machine23]

You will have to work really hard though dude.. Good luck!

 

[EnderJE]

How about you talk to her about these feelings? If she misses you, then it might work out (although the trust will take a long time). Try not to keep on telling her how you've changed. Show her how you've changed.

Or...turn gay.

 

[cindylou]

Cheating is very painful, and she seems to have not forgiven you yet. Until she forgives you she will have the perception that people can't change and will continue to do so while she struggles with her inability to forgive. Although what you did was wrong, she does not have any right to continue to punish you and make you feel like a piece of shit while you're not in a relationship with her...lol. If she thinks she can't be with you again then tell her that you can't talk to her then and move on. Just my .02

 

[PICK3]

Please don't flame or make a joke about it. It's a rather sensitive topic for me right now.

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Inserting [serious thread] does knot make you exempt from the rath of viciousness of C&C


just sayin'

 

[PICK3]

please try to be sensitive to the subject

sorry, bro

just couldn't do it

 

[PICK3]

dick move?

 

[wootoom]

Are u sad??

 

[wootoom]

I got cheated on when I was married with 2 kids...understanding her stand point, trust is a huge thing to have in a relationship and once you break it, it's really hard to get back, if ever...I would never trust my ex again...ever...