Overbearing parents have taken the fun out of childhood and turned it into a grind

[needtogetarmy]

Re: Overbearing parents have taken the fun out of childhood and turned it into a grin

because not everything is about our pocketbooks.

how are we to know if we live in a decent society?

people think they are so smart and great because they dont care about others. they wear it with pride.

i dont think its so smart or so great.

I never said I do not care. I simply do not care for people that do not care for themselves. I do not see the purpose of cleaning a person if they are going to go right out afterwards and roll around in shit again.

 

[ceo]

Re: Overbearing parents have taken the fun out of childhood and turned it into a grin

I never said I do not care. I simply do not care for people that do not care for themselves. I do not see the purpose of cleaning a person if they are going to go right out afterwards and roll around in shit again.

human beings are the only species that lets its idiots live full lives.

 

[jnevin]

 

[jnevin]

When I was a kid I was allowed to go around the city, limited areas though. I'd ride the bus to UPENN and go to the museum or would be allowed to go to movies. I had my boundaries, but I had quite a bit of range.

Why do people think that there were never child molesters a few years ago?

 

[blueta2]

When I was a kid I was allowed to go around the city, limited areas though. I'd ride the bus to UPENN and go to the museum or would be allowed to go to movies. I had my boundaries, but I had quite a bit of range.

Why do people think that there were never child molesters a few years ago?

I was going to say the same thing

I live in a very large city. I was taking the bus and subway alone at 10 yrs old. Going into the city to see a movie.
I would walk alone to friends houses at 6, 7, 8 yrs old.
My parents were not overprotective. They let my sisters and I make our own decisions and they would guild us.

The world was a lot less safe 15-20-30 yrs ago because molesters or child obsessed freaks didn't have the outlet of the net back then and would roam the streets looking for kids.
Kids are also educated and made more aware of the dangers out there.
So the way I see it, it's a hell of a lot safer these days
The media is what perpetuates the fear in parents.

Parents today are creating a nation of wimps.
http://psychologytoday.com/articles/index.php?term=20041112-000010&page=1

Kids today are guarded like royalty and cannot fend for themselves, make decisions for themselves and have no creative minds because they are not given the freedom.

Being overprotective is all about the parents fears and as we all know fears= irrational.
You create fear in kids and then they develop crippling fears of their own.

 

[crew9]

When I was a kid I was allowed to go around the city, limited areas though. I'd ride the bus to UPENN and go to the museum or would be allowed to go to movies. I had my boundaries, but I had quite a bit of range.

Why do people think that there were never child molesters a few years ago?

Because they were blissfully ignorant when internet news and Datelines To Catch a Predator weren't around. Newsflash: Perverts existed before the invention of the internet!!

 

[needtogetaas]

Re: Overbearing parents have taken the fun out of childhood and turned it into a grin

lol SIlver, i recall when my guy was little I struggled with letting him go out of my sight in the neighborhood. I remember the first time I let him go 3 houses down, in fact i believe I posted about here in this forum. He was probably about 5 yrs old at the time.

Anyway, i think it also depends on what type of neighborhood you live in. I am lucky in that we live in a secluded little subdivision of townhomes. There are no through streets here and there are speed bumps. The neigborhood is small and there are LOTS of kids. The kids pretty much go outside and are free to roam unsupervised. I like it because I dont worry about traffic etc. And when its time to come in, I can easily find my child- in the middle of the neighborhood is a field where they tend to congregate for soccer, etc.

Yes this matters big time.

 

[Razorguns]

Perverts existed before the invention of the internet!!

No they didn't. In fact just for saying that, I'm going to beat you up. Come here.

r

 

[AztecWarrior]

Care and wanting to control them are too different things. Many middle class losers want to combine the two (usually in the guise of 'this is best for you' or 'it's for the children').

And I'm not my brothers keeper. I got my own life to live. Do you think people in south central are caring about people in vermont today?

r

I can see. Shouldn't not be about who's not but who is. I know good people from wealthy family's that did there best, but there kids are some of the worst I know. Look, I can't make you see things the way I do, but I'm sure there is a better way to be in life then controling, being bitter about things in life we can't change, and looking down upon other's. How about doing things for people that wanna better themselves? Right off the bat you make the notion that I'm talking about the deadbeat dad, who refuses to be productive. You seem to have a distorted outlook on people as awhole in general. No one's perfect.

 

[puddlemonkey]

When my parents divorced I got to do whatever I wanted. Drove my father nuts.