On sexual purity...for women

[Bar Room Hero]

I made a conscious decision 5 or so years ago to resist the temptation to have sex. I've done everything but have sex, but I try to avoid sexual contact unless it is with a girl with whom I am serious. I always thought that my virginity is something that I would have to give to my wife (if I ever do get married) and I always hoped that she could have the same to give to me (highly unlikely). Well anyway, my question is, does it even matter? The more I look around at the society we live in, the more I see that women probably don't give a shit whether or not a man is sexually pure. Been thinking about this lately. Any input from women or whoever would be cool.

 

[sfbebe]

You'll probably get flamed for this thread, and be labeled as gay or corny or whatever...but that decision should be made for yourself, not for society...if the woman you marry loves you it shouldnt matter if youre a virgin...it's nice to see someone with some kind of morals since it's so rare nowadays...

 

[Sassy69]

BRH --

I read this and started thinking about it -- I think some people will "give a shit" -- but it also occurred to me that "sexual purity" is only part of it--- I'm not "sexually pure" in the sense of being a physical virgin, but I think that my morals are pretty high and my expectations of both myself and whatever guy I (HOPEFULLY....PLEEEEEEEAAAAAASSE!!!!) eventually find - so just the act of being a virgin doesn't really complete the picture. If anything I want to "know" what sex is and also know what I like and what my own "sexuality" is all about -- this provides a lot of "sense of self" for me as well as having helped me overcome so many of those fears that I think we see a lot of younger (< 30) women deal with -- becausel they dont' really have a sense of themselves, they are confused by what society says, what their peers say, and what they feel.

You have chosen to avoid the temptations of society by remaining a virgin -- I've chosen to identify those things that society has made me fear or be tempted by, educated myself about them, combined what I've learned with my own morals and belief system and gone from there - I'm very clear in what I want, what I'm willing to put up with and what I expect from both myself and my partner. I think it makes me a stronger person.

OK off the soap box.... but also understand when you read the stuff on this board and on the internet, that it is stuff on this board and on the internet -- LOTS OF BS'ing HERE LOL!

Congrats on your viriginity! The gift you can only give once!

 

[satanic goatslayer]

Rape isn't considered sex.

Something to chew on.

 

[smallmovesal]

i admire you for your convictions.

that said, i had intended to remain a virgin until marriage until i met my current boyfriend... we talked about it and i decided that i loved him and wanted that for the both of us. i don't think, for me, that sex is something i could ever take lightly because it means too much to me.

 

[KBgrl]

Rape isn't considered sex. Something to chew on.{Quote}

what does that mean????? thats right, rape is not sex!! im pretty new here and ive seen lots of ur posts...im not sure what any of them mean. are u kidding cause some of the stuff u say is really disturbing. just wondering what you are all about. there are just some things that shouldnt be joked about. im not sure if i understood that statement correctly or if i want to but...nevermind --

anway... i think thats cool that u chose to stay a virgin. dont worry about what others think...keep doin what ur doin!! a friend of mine would always preach about how we shouldnt have sex before marriage and all especially cause we are so young (20 now). then she started to have sex and now shes a little sex junkie. we always bust her chops about how she used to be and she says... "yea..i said all that stuff because i didnt know how good sex was!!" LOL. its true..its some good stuff but i guess its worth waiting for. i remember when i said i would be a virgin until i was married. i really wanted to but its just soooooo hard...especially if ur fooling around and stuff.... sometimes there is only one way to finish ya know. i couldnt handle the heat!! congrats on handling urs. i could never!! once u get me going u know ur gonna score cause i cant be stopped! lol.
well... i think if u really love someone and share everything else..its nice to share yourself in that way too. its pretty cool. casual sex is not worth it...its not even good compared to sex with someone u love, knows u and ur body. sex in a relationship gets better every single day!!! so if ur gonna go for it...do it with someone u really care about and it will be worth it. if ur holding out for religious beliefs then thats another story. either way... good for u!!

 

[fiatconspiracy]

oral virgin, vaginal virgin and anal virgin, and uh maybe sheep? I love ewe?

 

[SeXKiTTen_CanDy]

It didn't bother me really, the only thing I thought of was "shit, you know, I hope he is disease free'

Well I waited about 3 1/2 months before I let him screw me, by that time, I got to know him really well, and about his sexual history, and let him pop my cherry. ahhh bliss.

Why in the hell wait until you're married? What's the point, if you love someone, go for it.

 

[maxmuscle66]

OK.. so I am no woman but here is my thoughts

I tend to feel that women in todays society do not necessarily value the guy who is virgin but rather a guy who will be "sexually pure" in the sense that when he commits to being with her, she is the only one he has sex with.... am I right ladies? Now, that is not to say they don't value a virgin but thats a different story for another thread.

 

[FrankRizzo]

The woman I married was "untouched" when I met her. I wished I had been for her. But, she is eight years younger than me, so come on man.

You should hold out dude. You probably feel like you want to fuck yerself silly, but waiting will be worth it IMHO.