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Lumberg
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oh damn...it's been happening more and more recently.
OK I will try to retype it.
I have a coworker friend who is really thin and pretty. She has this kind of mild inkling to work out but just doesn't like it much. I have explained the immense benefits of weight training to her but she doesn't have any mptivation.
We have discussed it and we agree guys have way more of a reason to lift due to society's norms of beauty.
She prefers outdoor sports but I am trying to think of ways to motivate her to lift.
Any suggestions?
JC
OK I will try to retype it.
I have a coworker friend who is really thin and pretty. She has this kind of mild inkling to work out but just doesn't like it much. I have explained the immense benefits of weight training to her but she doesn't have any mptivation.
We have discussed it and we agree guys have way more of a reason to lift due to society's norms of beauty.
She prefers outdoor sports but I am trying to think of ways to motivate her to lift.
Any suggestions?
JC
wateengedoe2
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She will get even prettier when she does, is that good enough then? 
Seriously, many women don't want to work out with high weights, because they're afraid they'll start looking like men, too muscular etc. The truth is, they will look more feminine, because muscle on women looks great as well! Women do not develop huge biceps etc. w/o AS, but they'll look leaner and fitter when lifting.
What do you mean by 'thin' anyway .. it doesn't sound very good to me. I was 'thin' once, my ribs showed on my chest above my breasts .. That, and the extremely thin arms that came with it, is NOT pretty!
Seriously, many women don't want to work out with high weights, because they're afraid they'll start looking like men, too muscular etc. The truth is, they will look more feminine, because muscle on women looks great as well! Women do not develop huge biceps etc. w/o AS, but they'll look leaner and fitter when lifting.What do you mean by 'thin' anyway .. it doesn't sound very good to me. I was 'thin' once, my ribs showed on my chest above my breasts .. That, and the extremely thin arms that came with it, is NOT pretty!
This picture of Kelly Nelson (age 70+) convinced me weight lifting is definitely good for the body:
The old adage "use it or lose it" holds true for muscle. Once a woman nears 30+, being very thin makes you look older than you really are. That's because as the muscle goes, there's nothing left but saggy skin, or worse, it gets replaced by fat, because lost muscle = lower metabolism.
Another thing, this picture made me no longer fear heavy weights. Kelly is a professional bodybuilder and has been lifting for 20-some years. She's not "big", but her body's better than most 20 year olds.
The old adage "use it or lose it" holds true for muscle. Once a woman nears 30+, being very thin makes you look older than you really are. That's because as the muscle goes, there's nothing left but saggy skin, or worse, it gets replaced by fat, because lost muscle = lower metabolism.
Another thing, this picture made me no longer fear heavy weights. Kelly is a professional bodybuilder and has been lifting for 20-some years. She's not "big", but her body's better than most 20 year olds.
makedah
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joncrane said:
I'm sorry if this sounds abrasive, but it's only based on my impression of what you've said here.
What she looks like and how she exercises is her biz. You can't "give" anyone motivation, and personally, I'd get tired of someone often offering unsolicited info/advice/motivation on how they work out - even if it had been prompted by my mild interest in the subject.
Give her some websites to check out (this one and www.stumptuous.weights/html ), answer questions if she has them. Other than that, leave her alone.
Lumberg
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yeah I know the post sounds like I am being pushy.
I forget how we got into the topic but it is not like I am badgering her into working out. I even made sure she knew I am not trying to push her into it and she saucily replied not to worry, if she doesn't feel like doing it she won't.
I think the topic came up when I said I was going to go work out later and she said something like "I should work out more" or something.
Just trying to help out.
JC
I forget how we got into the topic but it is not like I am badgering her into working out. I even made sure she knew I am not trying to push her into it and she saucily replied not to worry, if she doesn't feel like doing it she won't.
I think the topic came up when I said I was going to go work out later and she said something like "I should work out more" or something.
Just trying to help out.
JC
JJFigure
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Well, you know beauty's in the eye of the beholder. Some people just don't like muscle - even a small amount - when that muscle is on a woman.
I had a guy come up to me in the gym not too long ago and tell me he wished his girlfriend could see me because she doesn't think muscle can be attractive and sexy. The problem is even if she saw me, she probably wouldn't change her mind. This seems to be a pretty black and white area, unfortunately.
I was talking with a male co-worker (who lifts) about going to the Arnold and mentioned Timea was competing. I flip to a picture of her I'd just seen in his Men's Health, and he says "she's too muscular - you can see her triceps". I personally think Timea has an incredible physique and would love to have her fullness of muscle. Like I said, you either like muscle or you don't. If you don't like the look, you'll never be incented to lift.
I had a guy come up to me in the gym not too long ago and tell me he wished his girlfriend could see me because she doesn't think muscle can be attractive and sexy. The problem is even if she saw me, she probably wouldn't change her mind. This seems to be a pretty black and white area, unfortunately.
I was talking with a male co-worker (who lifts) about going to the Arnold and mentioned Timea was competing. I flip to a picture of her I'd just seen in his Men's Health, and he says "she's too muscular - you can see her triceps". I personally think Timea has an incredible physique and would love to have her fullness of muscle. Like I said, you either like muscle or you don't. If you don't like the look, you'll never be incented to lift.
Sassy69
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Listing reasons for someone to do something is sorta like "Less filling / Tastes great". Especially for people who aren't really into it -- the biggest challenge is making gym time fit into their lifestyle if its going to become a regular thing or a "habit". In order for it to become a habit, particularly if she isn't seeing any really specific reason to do it (i.e. her doctor didn't tell her if she doesn't lose 100 lbs she will die), why don't you just invite her to go through one week of training w/ you - instead of just a one-shot deal, show her different things on different days and see if she feels any different after a whole week / one cycle of all muscle groups and maybe she'll find something about it that she likes. There is the start to your "habit".
If that doesn't work, then just tell her she's a wuss if she can't take a measly week of training w/ you.
As far as providing a list of reasons -- I refer you to the stickie at the top of the board - "Simple reasons women need to lift" --- print it out and give it to her -- or just call her and read it -- make it sound like you are pulling all these reasons just off the top of your head. She'll be really impressed w/ your training knowledge !
If that doesn't work, then just tell her she's a wuss if she can't take a measly week of training w/ you.
As far as providing a list of reasons -- I refer you to the stickie at the top of the board - "Simple reasons women need to lift" --- print it out and give it to her -- or just call her and read it -- make it sound like you are pulling all these reasons just off the top of your head. She'll be really impressed w/ your training knowledge !
I can relate to this problem. I have gone through the whole workout lesson with 2 coworkers and 3 sports team members all at different times in my life. I have yet to have anyone stick with their workouts. They all seem to want to work out because they heard they should or something. I usually spend all my time showing them how to do excercises and writing up a routine that they say they will do.
I think that a couple of the reasons that people workout is that they force themselves to make it a habit because they want to see a certain goal reached or they acutally like training. None of the people I worked out with had any of those reasons. I spent my workouts with them trying to contantly motivate them or at least get them to stop flirting ( they were all girls) or looking at their hair in the mirror.
If you can get your friend in the gym for a week like the other suggested, it may work. If not maybe a class of some sort like a circuit or something fun. Sometimes it's easier to get in the habit getting to the gym when it is at the same time everyday and you are in a group. Then maybe ease her into lifting and stuff. That's just my opinion. Good luck.
I think that a couple of the reasons that people workout is that they force themselves to make it a habit because they want to see a certain goal reached or they acutally like training. None of the people I worked out with had any of those reasons. I spent my workouts with them trying to contantly motivate them or at least get them to stop flirting ( they were all girls) or looking at their hair in the mirror.
If you can get your friend in the gym for a week like the other suggested, it may work. If not maybe a class of some sort like a circuit or something fun. Sometimes it's easier to get in the habit getting to the gym when it is at the same time everyday and you are in a group. Then maybe ease her into lifting and stuff. That's just my opinion. Good luck.
circusgirl
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2 more hours of work and I can go lift..... I've tried getting my husband to go to the gym and do 40 mins of light cardio 3 times a week. No dice, he's just not interested. Many people make vague noises about working out (a bit like those "I shouldn't really drink so much beer weekends" statements) but aren't really interested.
It means that the gym memberships of those of us who show up are kept cheaper by all the people who flake out and never show up.....
If your coworkers just wants some fun cardio, jazzercise and the like will keep her happy. These classes are fun, and can be quite difficult from the cardio endurance side of things.
It means that the gym memberships of those of us who show up are kept cheaper by all the people who flake out and never show up.....
If your coworkers just wants some fun cardio, jazzercise and the like will keep her happy. These classes are fun, and can be quite difficult from the cardio endurance side of things.
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