no support from parents

[ck2006]

being excited about going to start training for my first bodybuilding competition, I told my mom. She blasted me, told me that I shouldn't spend time doing stupid things like that and I should concentrate on my family. So very frustrated right now. My husband is supportive right now, but I haven't started training yet, though he does get pissy with me when I tell him I don't want to go out to dinner, and I haven't even started. I am feeling guilty and I haven't even started. I work out 6 times a week now, and nobody said anything until I told them about the competition. Anyway, just wanted to vent...

 

[scorpiogirl]

being excited about going to start training for my first bodybuilding competition, I told my mom. She blasted me, told me that I shouldn't spend time doing stupid things like that and I should concentrate on my family. So very frustrated right now. My husband is supportive right now, but I haven't started training yet, though he does get pissy with me when I tell him I don't want to go out to dinner, and I haven't even started. I am feeling guilty and I haven't even started. I work out 6 times a week now, and nobody said anything until I told them about the competition. Anyway, just wanted to vent...

I'm so sorry! It's so hard to try to do something important to you when the people you're depending on to support you let you down.

One VERY important thing I heard here was that your MARRIED...meaning... all that REALLY matters is that your husband learns to "deal" - and hopefully more than that - with your new livestyle. You CAN still go out to eat, you just need to learn how to order things and WHAT to order.

As far as mom goes....she needs to know that HER priorities will be different than YOURS. Keep your chin up. sometimes it's just better NOT to talk to some people about certain issues.

Stick with it...if you really want it and it's important to you, you can do it!

 

[ck2006]

Yup, I am taking your advice, ignoring her comments and telling her nothing. The whole eating out thing is hard, especially when I don't know exactly what to eat now. Been reading a lot of posts, and I know I have to fit in more protein, and get some protein shakes.

Thank you very much for your words of support.

 

[nikkita]

We are here for you. Many of us have passed throught the exact same thing, and it is really difficult when no-one close wants to support. I think that the most important thing to remember is that you're doing it because you want to, that will make you feel fulfilled. Some people may think it is weird our diet habits, that is waste of time or $$, but you cannot change other people... changes for them may be hard but they do happen at really slow paces

I went through a lot of resistance in my family. It took a lot of time for them to get the idea that this is really important for me.

Any advice you'd like come here, even just for venting!

 

[amore]

ck, do what's right for you always and you will be happy in life. If you don't do this maybe you will regret it for the rest of your life. Your familly will learn to support you perhaps only when they see how well you have done once you win that trophy!

 

[Gymgurl]

We are here for you...I don't get any support from my family or friends outside of ef they think I am nuts....but the girls here are great and they understand that drive

 

[momsgettinfit]

being excited about going to start training for my first bodybuilding competition, I told my mom. She blasted me, told me that I shouldn't spend time doing stupid things like that and I should concentrate on my family. So very frustrated right now. My husband is supportive right now, but I haven't started training yet, though he does get pissy with me when I tell him I don't want to go out to dinner, and I haven't even started. I am feeling guilty and I haven't even started. I work out 6 times a week now, and nobody said anything until I told them about the competition. Anyway, just wanted to vent...

Vent away sometimes that just what we need to feel better.

Just do what is best for you and we are hear for you if you need us.

 

[ck2006]

Thank you, my husband told me my mom is jealous, I hope not and if she is I wish she would handle it different, but like all of you have said. People don't like change and I can't change people.
Thanks for the support and letting me vent!

 

[wlmcrae]

Yup, I am taking your advice, ignoring her comments and telling her nothing. The whole eating out thing is hard, especially when I don't know exactly what to eat now. Been reading a lot of posts, and I know I have to fit in more protein, and get some protein shakes.

Thank you very much for your words of support.

For a competition program that is easy to understand, pick up a copy of the e-book Burn the Fat, Feed the Muscle by Tom Venuto. It covers the basics in nutrition, cardio and weights for beginner to advanced competition. AND best of all, it is all in one place, not spread all over the board!

Good luck in your quest!

 

[ck2006]

Is it for men and women, will it have specific diet and programs for both?
Thanks for the suggestion!