need some advice-about a boy...:)

[flexygrl]

Hey all,

So, I've been seeing this guy for 3 weeks. We met right before Christmas. He still lives at home-he's 24-so I met his parents already. I really like him and he really likes me.

Here's what I need advice about...

January 1st he found out his best friend died in a snow mobile accident. He was crushed. That night I went over and I brought him a small bouquet of flowers and a card and this really cute "blue book". We spoke every day since Saturday but I didnt' go to the wake or funeral. I felt it wasn't my place to be there yet and he said he wanted to do it alone, which I can understand.

Yesterday I saw him for the first time since it happened. He buried his friend yesterday, but he still came to see me. I saw that he was visibly upset and he actually cried.

Bottom line, I feel horrible. I want to do something for him and his family but I don't know what. I'm planning to take him out to eat and to a movie tonight but I want to do more.

I was thinking of sending like a bouquet of sunflowers or something to his house. What do you all think? Is it too much, too soon?

 

[WODIN]

A steak and a BJ would do wonders for the guy.

 

[hamstershaver]

yes too much too soon

 

[PatsFan34]

Tough situation, I'd say just try to be there as much as you can, he's definately gonna need a shoulder to cry on!!!

Good Luck!!!

 

[Carmen]

its a nice gesture, but probably too much. If you're taking him out tonight, that sounds nice.

 

[flexygrl]

thanks all!

 

[awittyusername]

Flowers etc is too much. But, it sounds like everything you are doing is great!

Let him decide how much he wants to see you. But, definately let him know your are there for him. (I know you already have) He may want to see you to escape this or he made to be alone for awhile.

Take the relationship slow. You don't want him to latch onto you just to replace his friend.

 

[OldSchoolEliteGuy]

gifts are nothing right now. sometimes just someone to take his mind off of things and going out and doing fun things might help.

oh and wodin. classic. lmao

 

[Meantime1]

Hey all,

So, I've been seeing this guy for 3 weeks. We met right before Christmas. He still lives at home-he's 24-so I met his parents already. I really like him and he really likes me.

Here's what I need advice about...

January 1st he found out his best friend died in a snow mobile accident. He was crushed. That night I went over and I brought him a small bouquet of flowers and a card and this really cute "blue book". We spoke every day since Saturday but I didnt' go to the wake or funeral. I felt it wasn't my place to be there yet and he said he wanted to do it alone, which I can understand.

Yesterday I saw him for the first time since it happened. He buried his friend yesterday, but he still came to see me. I saw that he was visibly upset and he actually cried.

Bottom line, I feel horrible. I want to do something for him and his family but I don't know what. I'm planning to take him out to eat and to a movie tonight but I want to do more.

I was thinking of sending like a bouquet of sunflowers or something to his house. What do you all think? Is it too much, too soon?

Well first and foremost your heart is in the right place, U have already given him flowers and a card and that is sweet, the best thing u can do now is just be there for him, dont talk about his best friend, let him be the one to bring it up and most importantly JUST LISTEN, believe u me u can do more with silence than you can do with words, So just be the kind of friend u would like to be, if you were in his shoes
Best of Luck and Please keep us informed
xxxx Meantime1

 

[Ulcasterdropout]

You're a sweet women, flexygirl
When I lost my best friend, I was crushed.