NEED ADVICE.Hell is about to break loose HELP

[dutchman063]

Don't take this wrong, but it makes me feel less victimized when I know that I am not the only one that was fucked over. How did you deal with it brother? I mean I would go insane.

ALL guys have been fucked over at one time or another..some more than once...this sounds like your first one..dont worry though, they get easier to deal with the more it happens.

 

[Ox-Sandra-Loan]

I've gotta disagree with my good brothers here suggesting you start messing around with her friends, or keep her around and start fucking her over they way she has done to you.
Be the better man, tell her its over (whether you tell her because you aren't interested or because you found out...doesn't make much difference imo), and move on.
It hurts, it really does. And it will be hard..very hard...you will likely second guess yourself, and think maybe you should try one more time...don't make that mistake.
Sometimes (very often) the hardest/most difficult things we do are also the best for us, and the most important in the long run.

Be strong, enjoy your life, and when the time is right, I'm sure you will find someone worthy of you.

 

[captainahole]

Just let her go and move on. It will hurt like hell for months so dont let anyone fool you.
You will feel like shit and lost and lonely. But you will come out stronger and wiser. You will find someone that is far better then you left.
It's not worth anything at this point to brood or get yourself in shit over her. No woman or man is worth it.

 

[Phiba Optik]

Sorry folks I couldn't find this thread and I thought it was deleted (it was moved)!

 

[Phiba Optik]

you need to keep pretending you know nothing man. Then do everything in your power to meet as many of her girl friends as you can and smash all their pussies to shit. Her friends are all dying to jump on your dick man trust me that is how all woman are lmao. What ever you do do not let it get you down.. I know exactly how you feel right now times 1000k my friend. When your heart is broken it can hurt. Choice to let it go and have some fun with it.. Its the best you can do. `

Hey Nate, thanks for for your response brother. As much as I want to do that, I feel like shit will escalate more if I do anything with her friends. The problem is I do want her to taste her own medicine...but if I dump that bitch, I want it to be solely because it was her fault. I want her concious to haunt her (granted if she has one). I was thinking if I give her an excuse, it will be easier for her to forget me. I need to start looking out for me, myself and I. Appreciate the post brother

 

[Phiba Optik]

I feel ya man to, Keep your head up and keep kicking ass in the gym and school, dont let her take anything else away from you. It sucks it really does but just keep on keeping on it will get easier. I found out in Feb that my wife of 4 1/2 years was having and affair and has been for 4 months, bitches lie thats all there is to it. I am like you and i'm a softy when it comes to women, I let her tell me it was over and I believed it a month later shit it the fan again... same guy that bastard needs run over, has a wife and 2 kids. We have no kids, and well bitches lie thats all I can say about it ( i'm still in the bitter stage if ya couldnt tell) I do like the idea of banging all of her friends like people have suggested.

Hey straightshot thanks for sharing this. I will try my hardest to focus in school but it's hard to keep that when all I can think about is this shit. The gym is my only haven and I vent my anger there (I've dropped all my vices a long while back). I feel you though, I would be bitter too! If I am going nuts over my girlfriend, I can't even begin to imagine what a person goes through when it's their spouse. I am trying not too, but I just feel beat. She has already used my up and taken everything from me, so what can I hold back? She's a skank, she'll be changing guys in no time without any worries. I don't think I could ever forget this.

 

[bigpokey]

she's cheating on you!

 

[Phiba Optik]

you have no business being in a commited relationship at your age. you are still in college. have fun and date around. you should be dating 3 or 4 chicks at one time in your spare time and focusing on finishing your education.

once you establish yourself in life and save up money, have a house, and a career/business in your 30's or 40's you can worry about getting married.. in 10 years you will look back and laugh at yourself for crying over this slut and wonder how you could of ever dated her in the first place. i guarantee she will have 3 kids by 3 different fathers..

in the mean time don't dump her and don't mention shit UNLESS you live with her then yeah you both need to go separate ways. good lord if you are living with her this is a huge blunder of mega proportions, you should never live with a girl if you are as young as you are cause you need to have the option of just breaking up and not being homeless or vice versa. if this is the case then start looking for another place NOW and go put down a deposit and then get a friend to help you pickup the UHAUL and move out this weekend. tell her straight up you were under the impression you were in an exclusive relationship and she hasn't been faithful so you are gonna move on. thats it.

but if you don't live together and can keep her around start treating her the way she is treating you.. ignore her calls/texts.. and go have fun with other chicks the same way. if she wants to go out and stuff then have fun with her but don't take things seriously. she is actually doing what she should be doing and that is not commiting while young and she considers your relationship a joke and finds it okay to party with other guys and flirt. if a girl is gonna seek attention from other men then that is automatically a no-no for someone you want to have an exclusive relationship with. so you should do the same.

Hey Steve, thanks for the response brother. That's the thing, I am angry at myself too. I wish I would have never given her the chance the first time I caught her lying and doing shit behind my back. I trusted her again and now this shit. I wasted my whole undergraduate term being committed only to find out that at the end of it, I get fucked over. It's too late for me to enjoy that experience again. It's research labs, being a teacher's assistant, and doing my specialty from here.

It's funny too, I attend a D1 school. I would go to so many frat parties and football tailgates and all these college folks would be fucking around like horny rabbits. And here was my stupid ass, cockblocking myself and turning down women left and right....for an ungreatful bitch.

I don't live with her so thank god on that haha. I know she loves to go out and stuff, but shes not focused at all when it comes to her professional life. She has no balance. Hopefully it all comes crashing down on her and she realizes that she's a fucking failure. That's when she'll realize what she lost, afterall, none of those one night stand fuckers at bars want anything more than "hittin and quittin." I haven't spoken to her since yesterday and I when she knocked on my door I didn't bother opening it. I will confront her when I feel I can handle myself in a calm and collective manner.

Just a random off topic thought: I wonder how I would deal with this shit if I was on tren or halo..!?

 

[Phiba Optik]

Dump that Hoe

In the process brother..!

 

[Phiba Optik]

Sketchy and really dishonest, but not an uncommon situation for people who go into college maintaining their high school relationship.

College is the place you explore your personal boundaries to figure out what kind of person you are going to be. It's impossible to do that if you are still bound by something from your high school years, and inevitably, 999 times out of 1000 either one or both are going to do that exploration behind the other persons back, or one or both will grow to resent the other person.

I fully support people staying single at least the first couple of years of college till they get some of that out of their systems. Even longer, for most people, though I know that's not always realistic. I think it's good to have the freedom to choose the direction your life is going to go, the place you are going to start your career, etc without having to make sacrifices for another person that early in life. Those years should be about you, your personal growth, and having the freedom to make choices based on what YOU want for your life. Then you open yourself up to someone who's on a similar track.

I'm sorry you are going through this, it must hurt like hell, and it sucks when people you love don't give to you what you give to them...but at least you found out so you won't waste any more time on someone who isn't committed on an equal level.

Hey nefertiti, thanks for the response! I agree but I wish I didn't go into college tied in a relationship (hind sight bias I guess). As I mentioned earlier, I lost the "fun years" at a university already. My undergraduate term is almost over so I will be out of the date game for a while (that and the fact that I dont trust anyone now). I hope i grow stronger out of this. I know one thing though, this situation is a crazy "preworkout" for me. Nothing I've taken comes close to the rage I get in the gym when I think about this. That combined with the test-e in taking...Im tossing weights like it's nothing! And you're right, better find out now rather than some of the less fortunate people that posted here who found out once they were married for years.