My teenage son

[sterolizer]

I have a good relationship with my son. I know all about his first kiss and other things kids don't usually tell their parents.

And he is my oldest but not the first boy I've raised. I took another boy in and I knew right away when he lost his virginity. There is a noticeable change in attitude and demeanor.

My first kiss was in gr.1 then later that week she died in a fire.

 

[sterolizer]

Wow now that I look at that again, way for me to be a downer

 

[just...v]

14?? you should have said.. but son, is she into anal??

jk..

so your son is sexually active at 14 yrs old?? and you are ok with that??

There is a male birth control pill but it's in human trials still, so I'd suggest you get him signed up for "take a baby home" program so many of the high schools have, where he takes it home for the weekend, it cries and makes a mess 3x at night while they are suppose to be sleeping..

Or you could have said

"Really?? that's the most fascinating thing about her is her sexual preference/confusion?? "

He is not sexually active yet, but it's going to happen soon. And he is extremely responsible for his age. He knows he doesn't want a baby, we talk ab out this a lot.

And I am not going to say that to him. My judgement is the first thing that will push him away. That's not at all what I want. I've been thru raising a teenager before, I just havent run into the bisexual girlfriend thing yet.

 

[caligirl85]

He's 14. And my oldest and I have always been really close. I try not to be that kind of mom that freaks out about things, but I can't help but wonder if this girl uses that to get attention. I'm really trying to be open minded, heck, my sister is bisexual. But she never advertised it. Then again, we grew up in very different times.

For what it's worth....I work in child psychiatry and we see a lot of "bisexual" teenage girls and the occassional boy. It's become a label, almost, like being a "headbanger" was when I was young. They are no longer "emo", they are "bisexual". I'm not saying some of them aren't really bisexual or experiment with it a little bit but most of them really have no idea what it means it's more of a statement for them. It's become almost common place and a lot of them talk about having gf's and bf's at the same time but when it comes right down to it, they aren't out sleeping with everyone. A generalization but you know what I mean.

That being said, I'm not sure how I'd feel about it either with my teenage son. I'd like to think I've seen just about everything and yet, when it follows you home, it's different. I've gone the route that hitman talked about...education, education, education.

 

[just...v]

This is a good point.

And if he's not, stressing about it is not going to help matters. Preaching abstinence is a fool's errand, too; if he's gonna, he's gonna. Best thing you can do as a parent is to throw him a 12-pack of condoms and tell him you'll kill him with your bare hands if he knocks a girl up, so he'd better be using one EVERY SINGLE TIME (speech about how oftentimes girls that say "relax, I'm on the pill" are LYING, how people can have STDs and look perfectly healthy, ect comes in at this point too). At that stage, you've done your job as a parent...then you have to trust that he's not a fool.

I try to tell him to be a kid and enjoy life. Sex comes with complications. All three boys are the good with babies types and I tell all of them that girls see that, get all stary eyed and get knocked up.

I put condoms n his drawer a while ago and I check regularly to see if he needs more. He hasn't yet. If they need anything our system is to leave me a note in my medicine cabinet, that way he doesn't have to work up the courage to talk to me face to face.

 

[A Soft Koala]

WHo are you the kids father? STFU ngr

Strongbow you remind me of this insecure girl who I went to elementary school with back in the day. She got a sex change......wait what elementary school did you go to?

 

[just...v]

For what it's worth....I work in child psychiatry and we see a lot of "bisexual" teenage girls and the occassional boy. It's become a label, almost, like being a "headbanger" was when I was young. They are no longer "emo", they are "bisexual". I'm not saying some of them aren't really bisexual or experiment with it a little bit but most of them really have no idea what it means it's more of a statement for them. It's become almost common place and a lot of them talk about having gf's and bf's at the same time but when it comes right down to it, they aren't out sleeping with everyone. A generalization but you know what I mean.

That being said, I'm not sure how I'd feel about it either with my teenage son. I'd like to think I've seen just about everything and yet, when it follows you home, it's different. I've gone the route that hitman talked about...education, education, education.

Thanks Cali, I was trying not to make generalizations but they come to mind. I have a feeling that part of it is for shock value on his part and on hers.
This makes me feel a little better thou.

 

[smurf2]

I try to tell him to be a kid and enjoy life. Sex comes with complications. All three boys are the good with babies types and I tell all of them that girls see that, get all stary eyed and get knocked up.

I put condoms n his drawer a while ago and I check regularly to see if he needs more. He hasn't yet. If they need anything our system is to leave me a note in my medicine cabinet, that way he doesn't have to work up the courage to talk to me face to face.

I like this idea. I may try it with my son when he is a little older (he'll be 14 next month).

 

[EarthRider]

this thread sucks without pics

tell the boy good luck with the three some, most men just dream of the oppertunity

 

[SpyWizard]

He is not sexually active yet, but it's going to happen soon. And he is extremely responsible for his age. He knows he doesn't want a baby, we talk ab out this a lot.

And I am not going to say that to him. My judgement is the first thing that will push him away. That's not at all what I want. I've been thru raising a teenager before, I just havent run into the bisexual girlfriend thing yet.

I know what ya mean, it's different with girls.. i've raised 3 to adulthood.. good times..