My hubby just asked me....

[Werd]

You should write a book Ms Puddles... LOL

I guess that I dont understand this complaint. Even though I am female, my drive is VERY high... Not a nympho, but when I am in a committed relationship (I was with my ex for 13 years - had several kids so I know all about life's ups and downs) I want sex practically 24/7. Heck barring illness I like to have sex no less than 6 out of 7 days.

My men dont have to initiate sex as I am the one 9 out of 10 times and I almost NEVER say no unless I am VERY ill. I'm a freak LOL

 

[brunette]

you know what Jen, are you eating any sex foods? like sunflower seeds? zinc rich foods?

if you are lacking, you're libido may suffer! maybe 'let's do it baby" may have garnered an enthusiastic response if you had the sex sex sex mindset. something to nibble on anyway.....zinc is KEY.

 

[jenscats5]

you know what Jen, are you eating any sex foods? like sunflower seeds? zinc rich foods?

if you are lacking, you're libido may suffer! maybe 'let's do it baby" may have garnered an enthusiastic response if you had the sex sex sex mindset. something to nibble on anyway.....zinc is KEY.

I can't eat sunflower seeds -- I'm not good breaking the shells apart with my teeth!! LOL What else has zinc in it?

No, it was the the way he asked that I didn't like......later on that evening we snuggled & hugged & kissed --> then did "it"

 

[Sassy69]

Hmmm. I used to date a guy who ran a Scuba charter. We usually told everyone we were late to the BBQ because we were "washing our gear".

Don't laugh. If you want your life support system to work correctly, you have to maintain your gear.

Ahhhhh. Thank God for high Oxygen compressed air mixes!

 

[wend]

my honey says" lets play" or he will stick my hand on his area and smile coyishly

he has many methods of trying to get me to play.
recently i was put on an antidepressant and it has made both orgasming and the want to play kind of diminish or difficult. sucks actually

i get so frustrated the next time around thinking that it is going to take forever for me to cum so with that thought in mind and the pills doing their thing it becomes quite the tedious task on my mind.

Dakotah, have you told your doctor about this unfortunate side affect? You might consider switching antidepressants. Psychiatrists usually know more about the various ones than family docs or ob/gyns (I don't know who wrote your script). Good luck. (How the hell are you supposed not to be depressed when you can't enjoy sex?!?)

 

[the wife]

I have the same scenarios with my hubby jenscats....I think that most men just think that if they swing their 'stuff' around we automatically get aroused. or if they make a 'suggestive' comment that we will immediately fall on the bed with our legs wide open. this is very frustrating for me because I need more than that. Maybe some sweet whispers in my ear, etc.

Dakotah.. I too had the same problem with antidepressants. I started with Zoloft and not that my libido was off the charts to begin with, but I had absolutely no intrest in sex or even just being around my husband. Then I switched Doctors and he switched me to Levellen, the side effects were not as bad but it took FOREVER to have an orgasm. This was not only frustrating for me but my husband as well. He thought he was doing something wrong, he wasn't! This frustration went on for about 2 years. So, i decided to get off the anti depressants all together. The decision was a good for me. However I lack the drive. All anti depressants have some effect on your libido, some worse than others and it depends on the individual as well.

A few years ago I was on a cycle of Deca, and I couldn't get enough...if only I could have that without taking a supplement like that!!!! Then it wouldn't matter how my husband approached me!!! I think I'll look into Zinc, anything at this point is worth a shot!!! I know it's frustrating for my husband and it's really frustrating for me!!!!!

 

[Dakotah]

Dakotah, have you told your doctor about this unfortunate side affect? You might consider switching antidepressants. Psychiatrists usually know more about the various ones than family docs or ob/gyns (I don't know who wrote your script). Good luck. (How the hell are you supposed not to be depressed when you can't enjoy sex?!?)

Well i havent had the time to really get back to the doctor and say anything.
But i have been kind of focusing better during the intimate moments; Im not having the troubles as much anymore. It does take some serious mind setting though. I like the fact that my mood swings are down to a minimal now and that when my sweetheart leaves for work i dont feel like im losing my mind and fall into this depressed slump.
Things are looking up.

 

[MandieG]

I had to re-read this thread today, cause at about 3:00 am I got the poked with hubby asking me if I was awake...LOL

 

[FigureSkater]

the whole "do it" phrase just reminds me of my high school kids I teach and the conversations I overhear them having...lol.