my bf and I have been fighting visciously b/c of his grandmother

[RottenWillow]

pardon my language please, but I truly hate that vapid old bitch. She petty, racist, infantile and manipulative. I really, really want to hurt her.


It makes me furious all over again if I go into any detail but suffice to say I'm not good enough for Josh. Every single fucking thing she says to be is some kind of jab.

the anger and anxiety is making me sick. I taken far more shit from her than I would anyone else in the entire world. If her visiting is going to be even a semi-annual thing he and I are not going to make it, seriously.


She's going home next Monday thank God.


thanks for your time ladies.

 

[starfish]

Awwwwwwww.....that was venting. I've been there with my Father's wife. She's the poster person for being a vapid old bitch....

I finally told her where to go.....but you have to do what is best for you and that is your bf family.


Don't let someone else upset you to the point of getting sick.

Maybe, he can go see her?

 

[velvett]

That's horrible.


I feel for you and it's unfortunate that you would have to experience that and have it effect your relationship with the beau.

 

[RottenWillow]

Starfish, Vel: part of the problem is he gets defensive when I get angry with her. Being old is NOT an excuse for being a horrendous bitch, you know?

Partly she's just a bitch, with everyone, but it's also because I'm "that little Mexican girl". And after almost 2 years she still pretends not to remember my name or purposely mispronounces it.

God, my stomach is getting upset just thinking about her again.

 

[Miss24k]

Starfish, Vel: part of the problem is he gets defensive when I get angry with her. Being old is NOT an excuse for being a horrendous bitch, you know?

Partly she's just a bitch, with everyone, but it's also because I'm "that little Mexican girl". And after almost 2 years she still pretends not to remember my name or purposely mispronounces it.

God, my stomach is getting upset just thinking about her again.

Goodness she's an azz, best of luck to you.

 

[Sassy69]

VAPID (vpd, vpd)
adj.

Lacking liveliness, animation, or interest; dull: vapid conversation.
Lacking taste, zest, or flavor; flat: vapid beer

That's a great word. So appropriate sometimes.

I feel for you. I often wonder how I would handle something like that where it just comes with the person you care for. The goal is to not inflame the relationship between you and your SO. He's probably in a tight spot because he's related to the grandmother & cares about you. Does he at least acknowledge that she disrepects you? Perhaps you shoudl both treat her as a vapid old woman who is slightly senile and just laugh her off?

 

[RottenWillow]

Does he at least acknowledge that she disrepects you? Perhaps you shoudl both treat her as a vapid old woman who is slightly senile and just laugh her off?

he does, yes. I would've totally walked by now if he didnt see that. She and I had a little confrontation in his kitchen last night and afterwards she stayed out of my face....hopefully this will be a trend.

wow.....I wish I could just "laugh her off" and not allow her bullshit to enrage me as it does, but that's just not my coping style. I'm assertive and confrontational by nature. I always let people know what I think LONG before I actually start to feel really angry. However, in this case I feel like I've had to keep quiet to please Josh and his parents.

 

[PinkPanther]

Ugh...that's horrible...I'm sorry to hear that you have to deal with that. I can't stand people like that, and it's even worse when they are old and people give them the benefit of the doubt because of it...such a joke!! It's even harder when it's the SO's family, so you feel like you can't/shouldn't give her a peice of your mind. Just remeber, she leaves soon!! You can make it!!!

 

[jenscats5]

That sucks girlie..... maybe start drinking heavily?? lol not real advice, but hang in there!

 

[Sassy69]

Maybe you can slip some valium in her milk or something. That sure kept my cat mellow when we drove cross country. Imagine what it could do for her!