moving with no help

[heatherrae]

I HATE packing.

We still have to get rid of all my stuff back in Jersey. I finally gave ALL of my kids' clothing to them a few months back. I will have to sell their beds, linens, give them any toys that I got for them, pack up ALL of their trinkets, etc... I have been putting it off for months but I have finally accepted that my kids havent lived with me for over a year now and I need to just move on.

When we finally find a way to live together again, we will just buy new stuff. Or not...

We will be back there for 2 weeks and will have to sell/donate/throw nearly everything away....

It's ok though. I have a life with my husband. Someday we will be a family. For now I have to try really hard to move on so that when my girls can be with us they will come to a happy healthy home. "Stuff" is not important, but it is all I have from them and it is VERY difficult to let go of it.... but I will find a way.

You can do it too darlin. Dont think about the past. Think about how you've grown and been made stronger by this experience. You get a clean new start - NOTHING to tie you to negativity.

THat is terrible. I would want to kill my ex if he did that. Keep faith.

 

[healother]

ekks, i kinda know how that is. thankfully i didnt have to move any furniture or crap. heaviest thing i own is a 20" tv, which i can carry short distances.

I did move all my posessions from one dorm to another by myself back when i was in college, that sucked! new place on the 4th floor of another dorm hall, car loaded to the gills, had to go up stairs, yuck.

 

[Bikini Mod]

don't give up.
i mean, keep fighting to get them, at least a little.

We would never 100% give up. We have a plan. But the day to day backn'forth courtroom bullshit... One of the reasons why I have been so paralyzed to do ANYTHING with my life. No matter what I did or didnt do, my kids got taken from me. Now it is the fear that no matter what I do or dont do will keep me from EVER getting them back <---- THAT is what I have to let go of.

I am not the first person (mother OR father) who has been through this and sadly, I wont be the last. I have to find a way to finally pull my head out of my ass and just do whatever it is that I WANT to do with my life. Getting married was a big step. Hey, I allowed myself to trust another human being 100% again, so the rest should be a piece of cake.... right?

 

[ksharp01]

You really learn who your TRUE friends are when you have to move. I gave my so called friends a months notice, told them I was buying lunch and beers and STILL NO ONE showed!!!
Good luck!

 

[healother]

so heatherrae where are you moving to? Did you find an apartement that takes pets?

 

[heatherrae]

so heatherrae where are you moving to? Did you find an apartement that takes pets?

I'm going to put my stuff in storage here in Fl and go to my dad's house for x-mas. I will decide from there what to do. =-)

Well, I got the two really heavy tables on the truck. Now I just have to get my bed. I gave away all my other furniture when I came to live with him. Oh well. Damn, those tables were so heavy that I pulled on them for 2 hours to get them in the truck, and I had a hand truck.

MuscleMom was right. I should have been doing less cardio and heavier weights. Sure as heck would have come in handy today.

 

[healother]

I'm going to put my stuff in storage here in Fl and go to my dad's house for x-mas. I will decide from there what to do. =-)

Well, I got the two really heavy tables on the truck. Now I just have to get my bed. I gave away all my other furniture when I came to live with him. Oh well. Damn, those tables were so heavy that I pulled on them for 2 hours to get them in the truck, and I had a hand truck.

MuscleMom was right. I should have been doing less cardio and heavier weights. Sure as heck would have come in handy today.

dang, so you dont think some neighbors might want to help or something? or somebody from your job?

 

[heatherrae]

dang, so you dont think some neighbors might want to help or something? or somebody from your job?

I dont really know many people down here in fl. Anyway, i've gotten the heavy stuff now, anyway

 

[Cutiebaby]

oh hun that sucks...I got help when I moved for all the heavy furniture. I had to move my table and all the boxes and stuff basically on my own, and it was not fun.
If I were there I so would have helped you!!!!
Just think, now you are free from that shit bag! That should be enough strength to move mountains with.

 

[stilleto]

We would never 100% give up. We have a plan. But the day to day backn'forth courtroom bullshit... One of the reasons why I have been so paralyzed to do ANYTHING with my life. No matter what I did or didnt do, my kids got taken from me. Now it is the fear that no matter what I do or dont do will keep me from EVER getting them back <---- THAT is what I have to let go of.

I am not the first person (mother OR father) who has been through this and sadly, I wont be the last. I have to find a way to finally pull my head out of my ass and just do whatever it is that I WANT to do with my life. Getting married was a big step. Hey, I allowed myself to trust another human being 100% again, so the rest should be a piece of cake.... right?

yup. my father was where you are and he kept pushing and pushing till he won. which he did- against HUGE odds. he had an endless supply of money, which helped, but he had a lot of other HUGE negatives.
he didn't work either, and i didn't understand why he wasn't getting a job- he kept saying that he couldn't fight this fight AND work.