personally i prefer being with a woman that can communicate with me
she tells me what she likes either verbally or in response
and i do the same
an openmind and willingness to try new things are always a bonus
as for dry hands and dry coozes, well a good hand job wet or dry is good foreplay but not a replacement for the real thing
and from experience i know some girls don't get as wet as others no matter how turned on they are but i always lick the kitty during foreplay so it's a bit of a moot point although there is always some vanilla flavoured lube nearby