Met with the attorney today

[AFeedz]

She'll be served in the next day or two and she'll have to respond within a given timeframe. I'm hoping to go to mediation instead of court so it goes smoother. Her family will get involved if I need them to, but I'm hoping to avoid all of that if necessary. I don't think she realizes what I can do to her if I really come at her, but in all honesty, that wouldn't do my daughter any good.

This is why you're a good dad, jnev. I have a few different friends going through stuff like this and in all cases, there's at least one party who's clearly in it just to fuck the otter parent as hard as possible with no regard for how that will affect the child.

Good for you for focusing on what's really important.

 

[zwhit]

This is why you're a good dad, jnev. I have a few different friends going through stuff like this and in all cases, there's at least one party who's clearly in it just to fuck the otter parent as hard as possible with no regard for how that will affect the child.

Good for you for focusing on what's really important.

what she said.

Good luck bro

 

[wootoom]

I've never denied her time with my daughter and as pissed at her as I've been at times, I always consult her before making any Q related decisions. She does not consult. I have my daughter 6 days per week and pay for her daycare while I'm in class 3 days per week. I also have her 6 nights overnight per week and have for close to 2 years now. She only has one overnight visit, Wednesday, and watches her while I work.

I've let her slowly hang herself, but this being Utah I could still get screwed if the wrong person handles my case. I just need to do this right.

You have her all the time it sounds like, i dont see what the problem is here....why are you the primary parent? you should be without the hassle.

 

[jnevin]

You have her all the time it sounds like, i dont see what the problem is here....why are you the primary parent? you should be without the hassle.

The hassle is that since she sees her for about 6-7 hours a day 6 days a week she thinks she's her primary parent. Her being a mom in Utah makes it a possibility the courts would side with her, even with limited time. If it was me or any other dad trying to make that argument to get custody, they'd get laughed out of court.

 

[wootoom]

The hassle is that since she sees her for about 6-7 hours a day 6 days a week she thinks she's her primary parent. Her being a mom in Utah makes it a possibility the courts would side with her, even with limited time. If it was me or any other dad trying to make that argument to get custody, they'd get laughed out of court.

ahhhh sorry i must have misread the post...i got ya now

 

[calveless wonder]

The hassle is that since she sees her for about 6-7 hours a day 6 days a week she thinks she's her primary parent. Her being a mom in Utah makes it a possibility the courts would side with her, even with limited time. If it was me or any other dad trying to make that argument to get custody, they'd get laughed out of court.

??? Didn't she used to have her for one day a week?

 

[jnevin]

??? Didn't she used to have her for one day a week?

She only has her one night overnight per week and all day one day. She basically watches her while I'm at work.

 

[wootoom]

that makes no sense to me....you should already be the primary parent....laws are whacked down there

 

[jnevin]

that makes no sense to me....you should already be the primary parent....laws are whacked down there

Since we weren't married when we had her and we don't have a custody agreement in place, what should happen is the courts will make their decision based on what Q is used to. That, and who the more fit parent is. I should be able to show that I've been more stable and have a good long term parenting plan in place. Plus, you know, I don't poison or neglect my daughter, leave her with random babysitters while I go out of town and ruin myself financially, or live in the basement of some goddamn party house that has people constantly coming and going at all hours.

 

[wootoom]

Seriously, i dont think you have to worry about not getting sole custody bro, im so glad i dont have to deal with this shit i would lose my mind...good on you for keeping it together man