We were talking on the phone tonight and she said something on the lines about doing anything to make me happy.
After she said that, I kind of got a smirk on my face and said anything huh,,, she replyed with anything but anal sex.
I then said why no anal? (we've been together for almost 1 and a half yrs and shes recently let me try a very little bit a few times)
She then said because she dosen't like it, and I said we never even have done it, and she then went on to tell me she dreds the fact when ever I ask her to try it because it is so uncomfortable and gross. (She has had anal sex a few times with a guy she used to date in high school, at the time of there sex and anal sex he was dating some other girl and banging my girl at the same time, KEEP IN MIND THIS IS BEFORE I KNEW HER)
I then said to her then how did you do it before, she said it was different because she didn't remember it hurting so bad with him and probably being drunk helped numb it quite a bit which yes I can understand. She also said he wasn't as nice about it as I was, he basically just jammed it in, while here I am doing everything you guys have said and told me to do except sticking my toung in her butthole.
I've talked to her the hole time asked how she is feeling, is she ok, I've gone slow with tons of lube on my pinkey working up to two fingers, putting the head in and then thats it, she calls it quites and we then quite and she won't try again for a long time, weeks or a month or so.
Its almost like I have to fight with her or nag her to get her to try it.
Anyways she says why is this such a big deal to you, I feel like this is so important to you,,, and then she says: I don't think this should be something that important or even something to be getting upset about.
I said to her its not that this is all that matters to me, but it does kind of matter, I would like to try it, seeing as I never have done it before.
She then said well obviously it is extremely important to you otherwise you wouldn't bring it up so often. ( I really don't think I bring it up often)
After she said that I said: Yep, nice guys finish last. She went on and said Oh don't even say that, thats stupid! Well if it means that much to you I'll have to do it for you then.
That right there pisses me off,,, thats like saying Ohh I'll do it out of pity for you.
This whole thing bothers me the most because here I am committed to her for almost a yr and a half treating her like she has never been treated before, spending time with her, listening to her ect much more.
And here a guy spends a week using her while his girlfriend is out of town and gets farther in a week than I ever have with her in 1 and 1/2 yrs.
Anyone else gone through this?
What would you do?
After she said that, I kind of got a smirk on my face and said anything huh,,, she replyed with anything but anal sex.
I then said why no anal? (we've been together for almost 1 and a half yrs and shes recently let me try a very little bit a few times)
She then said because she dosen't like it, and I said we never even have done it, and she then went on to tell me she dreds the fact when ever I ask her to try it because it is so uncomfortable and gross. (She has had anal sex a few times with a guy she used to date in high school, at the time of there sex and anal sex he was dating some other girl and banging my girl at the same time, KEEP IN MIND THIS IS BEFORE I KNEW HER)
I then said to her then how did you do it before, she said it was different because she didn't remember it hurting so bad with him and probably being drunk helped numb it quite a bit which yes I can understand. She also said he wasn't as nice about it as I was, he basically just jammed it in, while here I am doing everything you guys have said and told me to do except sticking my toung in her butthole.
I've talked to her the hole time asked how she is feeling, is she ok, I've gone slow with tons of lube on my pinkey working up to two fingers, putting the head in and then thats it, she calls it quites and we then quite and she won't try again for a long time, weeks or a month or so.
Its almost like I have to fight with her or nag her to get her to try it.
Anyways she says why is this such a big deal to you, I feel like this is so important to you,,, and then she says: I don't think this should be something that important or even something to be getting upset about.
I said to her its not that this is all that matters to me, but it does kind of matter, I would like to try it, seeing as I never have done it before.
She then said well obviously it is extremely important to you otherwise you wouldn't bring it up so often. ( I really don't think I bring it up often)
After she said that I said: Yep, nice guys finish last. She went on and said Oh don't even say that, thats stupid! Well if it means that much to you I'll have to do it for you then.
That right there pisses me off,,, thats like saying Ohh I'll do it out of pity for you.
This whole thing bothers me the most because here I am committed to her for almost a yr and a half treating her like she has never been treated before, spending time with her, listening to her ect much more.
And here a guy spends a week using her while his girlfriend is out of town and gets farther in a week than I ever have with her in 1 and 1/2 yrs.
Anyone else gone through this?
What would you do?