Looking for some Input from the "Younger Crowd"

[Faizakafez]

I didn't mean specifically that.

Sex feels great, and that's why people like it so much that it consumes a very large portion of people's daily thought and desire. But, I also feel that it shouldn't be something done between people who don't have any level of commitment to each other. Having a standard and following that is a good idea for everyone.

Sex has the physical component of pleasure for oneself, but should also the consideration of that for the other person. Just looking to get off is selfish. It's about yourself, not someone else, and looking for that from someone you just met can almost never have a selfless approach to that type of activity.

Having a legitimate positive emotional attachment and connection should be present so that sex brings you closer in that regard to each other in commitment and love to one another. You don't have that with a stranger, I don't think it's possible.


I'm not an expert, but my perspective has been enhanced since last week.

The closeness and love on an emotional level I have for my wife has increased dramatically. She feels the same way. That is much more important to me than an orgasm. That's why I believe that "it's just sex" with a stranger completely lacks any real meaning or significance other than getting off and feeling good for a short period of time. That, to me, is almost inherently selfish.

I agree with Afeedz

there is a difference between intimacy and having sex.


it also depends on how you "value" sex in your lifestyle, you have it as the final step to bring you closer or whatever.. while others it may rank lower.

 

[sexyMFer]

I didn't mean specifically that.

Sex feels great, and that's why people like it so much that it consumes a very large portion of people's daily thought and desire. But, I also feel that it shouldn't be something done between people who don't have any level of commitment to each other. Having a standard and following that is a good idea for everyone.

Sex has the physical component of pleasure for oneself, but should also the consideration of that for the other person. Just looking to get off is selfish. It's about yourself, not someone else, and looking for that from someone you just met can almost never have a selfless approach to that type of activity.

Having a legitimate positive emotional attachment and connection should be present so that sex brings you closer in that regard to each other in commitment and love to one another. You don't have that with a stranger, I don't think it's possible.


I'm not an expert, but my perspective has been enhanced since last week.

The closeness and love on an emotional level I have for my wife has increased dramatically. She feels the same way. That is much more important to me than an orgasm. That's why I believe that "it's just sex" with a stranger completely lacks any real meaning or significance other than getting off and feeling good for a short period of time. That, to me, is almost inherently selfish.

Get your love making ass out of here

 

[AFeedz]

I didn't mean specifically that.

Sex feels great, and that's why people like it so much that it consumes a very large portion of people's daily thought and desire. But, I also feel that it shouldn't be something done between people who don't have any level of commitment to each other. Having a standard and following that is a good idea for everyone.

Sex has the physical component of pleasure for oneself, but should also the consideration of that for the other person. Just looking to get off is selfish. It's about yourself, not someone else, and looking for that from someone you just met can almost never have a selfless approach to that type of activity.

Having a legitimate positive emotional attachment and connection should be present so that sex brings you closer in that regard to each other in commitment and love to one another. You don't have that with a stranger, I don't think it's possible.


I'm not an expert, but my perspective has been enhanced since last week.

The closeness and love on an emotional level I have for my wife has increased dramatically. She feels the same way. That is much more important to me than an orgasm. That's why I believe that "it's just sex" with a stranger completely lacks any real meaning or significance other than getting off and feeling good for a short period of time. That, to me, is almost inherently selfish.

It's not like I go around banging everyone.

But even with someone I love, sometimes I'm having sex with you cuz I love you and sometimes I'm having sex with you cuz I want to fuck you.

 

[WoodyO]

I didn't mean specifically that.

Sex feels great, and that's why people like it so much that it consumes a very large portion of people's daily thought and desire. But, I also feel that it shouldn't be something done between people who don't have any level of commitment to each other. Having a standard and following that is a good idea for everyone.

Sex has the physical component of pleasure for oneself, but should also the consideration of that for the other person. Just looking to get off is selfish. It's about yourself, not someone else, and looking for that from someone you just met can almost never have a selfless approach to that type of activity.

Having a legitimate positive emotional attachment and connection should be present so that sex brings you closer in that regard to each other in commitment and love to one another. You don't have that with a stranger, I don't think it's possible.


I'm not an expert, but my perspective has been enhanced since last week.

The closeness and love on an emotional level I have for my wife has increased dramatically. She feels the same way. That is much more important to me than an orgasm. That's why I believe that "it's just sex" with a stranger completely lacks any real meaning or significance other than getting off and feeling good for a short period of time. That, to me, is almost inherently selfish.

How would you know?

 

[AFeedz]

How would you know?

Meet me on the roof?

 

[sexyMFer]

my wife just wants to be fucked on the kitchen counter or randomly in my office most of the time. not much emotion involved

 

[WoodyO]

Meet me on the roof?

I'm actually thinking of climbing up there for a break soon.

 

[musclemom]

there is a difference between intimacy and having sex.

I don't think that's true for everyone. What I was trying to say awkwardly in an earlier post is that I cannot separate emotional intimacy from physical intimacy.

And to think of it that way it sort of brings around what my thread is about, emotional intimacy vs. physical intimacy. It seems that people are more connected in a superficial way, more information is being exchanged at a higher rate than in all of history, but how much of that information carries weight? People seem to be engaging in more sex and more openly than ever but increasingly the sex is beyond casual. It has no value, it's release, nothing else.

I personally have no feelings about these matters, no true opinions, just an observation. I'm just glad I'm permanently out of the dating pool

 

[dabuffguy]

my wife just wants to be fucked on the kitchen counter or randomly in my office most of the time. not much emotion involved

I understand that, but being married is different than doing that with a stranger/first date.

 

[dabuffguy]

It's not like I go around banging everyone.

But even with someone I love, sometimes I'm having sex with you cuz I love you and sometimes I'm having sex with you cuz I want to fuck you.

Of course not, I was speaking in general, not to you specifically.



I get that to. But, people do not have sex ever with a first date because they are in love with them. It's always to "fuck them" not "love them" as you put it, and doing that with someone you just met is just not a good decision, period. IMO, the first time you should have sex with someone is to love them, not just to get off.