Kind of a funny double standard...

[needsize]

There isn't a man alive that doesn't want a threesome with his woman and another hot girl, but when anyone mentions the thought of a threesome with another guy, they get all wierd..."No way am I letting another man bang my woman", "Getting naked with another guy there is just gay", etc... Are that many people that insecure about their own sexuality?
If you would like to bang two girls at once, what are the odds your woman would like two men to spoil her?

 

[TEXgrl]

this is a classic double standard, in my opinion, it takes a very secure man to have another man with his woman in a threesome. and there is also the homophobic thing you mentioned.

 

[Zerxes]

I actually had this same convo with my gf a few nights ago bro. I threw the scenario at her that say perhaps... "we are in Las Vegas, and you(we) see a hot guy in a club that you might want for a one night 3-some (including me of course). We would never see him again and I would be totally cool with it as long as he is a nice dude, and is respectfull to both of us." She told me that she would feel like too much of a whore doing that. She has had FFM threesomes and said that there is an element of gentleness that comes with being with another woman that makes it ok, that being with me and another guy would lack. I guess that the actual penetration is what would really bother her if it were two guys inside her. I definitely think that the idea intrigues her, but that she already knows what the outcome would be for her emotionally afterwards, so it is best left as a fantasy. I would be cool with something like that though, but the guy would definitely have to meet my standards. I don't want some sweaty, hairy-backed apeboy, Hells Angel biker dude gettin' off in front of me. Dude would have to be hot!

You're right about the double-standard that many guys have towards this though.

 

[b fold the truth]

I'm not sure if I could EVER do a 3 some. It would have to be something that SHE wanted badly and realized that it might ruin our relationship...and I'd TRY to accomodate her.

B True

 

[TEXgrl]

She told me that she would feel like too much of a whore doing that.

sex is sex, doesn't matter who is there, male or female. hmm, gentleness with a female? most of the girls i've had the most fun with were as agressive as any man.

that being said:

bfold---threesomes and swinging arent for everyone, the biggest part of understanding is being able to seperate love from sex. i think it is something some people can do, others can't. you also usually see it with people who have been together for a pretty long period of time, not in the early stages of their relationship where insecurity might be present.

i never thought i would do it when i met my husband. never say never. it can be quite fun

 

[sermon_of_mockery]

this is a common question in my relationship.My girl and I are very open to having another girl join us,but we have a hard time finding one.When I ask her if she wants another guy(like I would allow it),she is very accomidating to tell me I'm all the man she need's she rocks

 

[b fold the truth]

I'm not saying never...I don't guess I'll ever say "never" to anything with the woman that I love.

It would just take a lot of caring, loving, patience, and understanding. My woman would have to be very caring in the situation to my nervousness...and we would have to always be touching...in some way.

B True

 

[needsize]

B, you are probably the biggest gentleman with the biggest heart I've ever seen, that being said I cant see this kind of lifestyle ever being for you (and that's definitely not a bad thing)

Zerxes, the "whore" thing I totally understand, or at least my wife does. We've talked about this stuff a fair bit, and for the longest time that was her response, even if she did want some other guy, we're married so it's just not right. Women really look at the world differently than we do though. If within the context of a threesome I was allowed to have sex with a hot woman, why should it be any different for my wife if she's so inclined.

The typical responses on here just made me laugh, guys want it one way but the other isnt cool. I love my wife and trust her more than any human I've ever known, as a result I think anything in the bedroom is pretty much fair game. You have to trust your significant other a whole lot, and being able to separate love and sex would be pretty important too

 

[b fold the truth]

B, you are probably the biggest gentleman with the biggest heart I've ever seen, that being said I cant see this kind of lifestyle ever being for you (and that's definitely not a bad thing)

Thank you...but those are not necessarily good traits that women look for in men these days...

B True

 

[starfish]

Thank you...but those are not necessarily good traits that women look for in men these days...

B True

Yes, it is...


I would NEVER have a threesome in a committed relationship. And I personally think the sex is sex and love is different is BS.