Jealous of my ex

[riverrock]

I have a feeling that my Mrs is a little jealous about the fact I had a few different GF's before her that were serious relationships. She was in different relationships too, but I couldn't care less.

However, with her, it seems to be a case of "Well, you finished with them, so how do I know you won't eventually finish with me as well". I never want to do that. I think she's especially jealous about a particular girl I was with a few years ago and only knew about her when I stupidly answered a series of probing questions.

How can you convince someone not to be jealous as she shouldn't be? I love her

 

[H_T_]

most women aren't cool with the fact that another woman had what she's having now. lots of complex feelings going on there. maybe if you just asked her "why"?

 

[riverrock]

most women aren't cool with the fact that another woman had what she's having now. lots of complex feelings going on there. maybe if you just asked her "why"?

I kind of prefer to leave it. It rarely becomes an issue, but when it does its generally a big one. I couldn't dare speak with my ex as it would spark a guaranteed row later on.

 

[theoak01]

best not to talk of past relationships,because if there is a postive thing in a past relationship that just isnt in this particular one,she may grow to resent she isnt getting that from you.

trust me Ive had this happen,its fucking bullshit

 

[Dial_tone]

She finished with her ex's too. How do you know she won't leave you? Trust is a two way street.

 

[riverrock]

Yes, I know that. You guys are right, any knowledge of before is a bad thing. Just best to concentrate on the present.

 

[Hiatussin]

If she asks just answer honestly. She shouldn´t be asking, but not lying is even more important

dont ask shit you dont want to know

if you ask how many before me it doesnt matter if she says 312 or 1, its gonna bother you that you´re not the first.

 

[HiDnGoD]

I know how many my wife had , & she know's how many I'd had. It's no big deal, we're together now, that's all that matters.

 

[jnevin]

Buy a dog.

 

[SoKlueles]

I dont like hearing about his exes especially one