ummmm I forgot to tell you that the neighbors stopped by that day while you were at work and asked me to give you a request. They wanted you to do that daily. i told them to forget about it! You were too shy to put on a show for them daily but that you'd maybe willing to do it like once a week instead. They passed!
In my experience women make themselves the victims, even when everything was their fault. Its their way of dealing with bad experiences and failures. It passes the buck and at the same time gets them sympathy from others. Simple eh?