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I've been cheating on my gf for 2 years - I need SERIOUS advice

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superqt4u2nv said:
Dude she is going to find out. One of my gf's is going through this BS with her so called husband. Cheated on her once and got caught swore he would never do it again well it appears he is. Have some balls and tell her what you did you owe her that much. If she is willing to work on it seek councling if not move on with your life and figure out what the hell it is that is causing you to be such a lying cheating bastard.
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She has a very good point. A secret can only be kept with one person. People like to talk too much. If you decide to tell her, your kids are going to be the ones to save your ass here, if at all possible.
 
Thanks God you are not married. That lethal signature really make things worse.
 
damn crak, I've been in your shoes though...i've done bad things in the past and felt terrible. my advice, don't fess up and try to patch things up, for the kids sake
 
crak600 said:
Yes they have, and I've been in contact with almost all of them in PMs just like I was with you.
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Ummm you never pm,ed me is this a bullshit thread or do i just continue to not like you for the way you are treating your lady and kids. Hit me up yo
 
kills said:
Ummm you never pm,ed me is this a bullshit thread or do i just continue to not like you for the way you are treating your lady and kids. Hit me up yo
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You havn't had any input into this thread that lets me know that you are already biased in whatever opinion you might give me. Plus I don't even know who you are.
 
crak600 said:
We've been working on our relationship for a while. We know we've had some problems in the past, and things were starting to get better but now they're back into the same rut they used to be in. I keep trying to pull us out, but we keep slipping back in. It's like, you get into that "comfort zone" where you think the other person isn't going to go anywhere. I think that's where she's at, but I need more.
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Dude, when you are in a LTR, there are ruts. You can't always pull out, you sometimes have to just ride them out. IMO you made a conscious or subconscious choice to get into these chickas because you were too self important to care. You weren't getting what you want from the G.F. so you went looking for the magic elsewhere.
I think you need therapy for your philandering, for your relationship, & for your self esteem issues. These issues could be driving you to seek affirmation from all these other women.
Just imagine how fucked up your G.F. is gonna be if you guys split. Single mother with 2 kids. You could just put a gun to her head, it'd be quicker.
Imagine how fucked up the kids are gonna be. "Nobody wants us, we're worthless." You think you have self esteem issues? You wanna do that to these kids?
Stick by your woman. You owe it to her & the kid.
good luck. I hope you do the right thing.
 
It's obvious that your relationship with your "girlfriend" is over(you have given enough examples of why). One question I have: What is your true motive for posting this question? Obviously, there's an element of vanity involved. You are bragging about your exploits while attempting to make it seem like you did none of the chasing. Innocently driving a girl home every day? Go inside suspecting nothing and get jumped? If you want to act like you're "baring your soul", why not tell what's truly in there? Another question: Is there a concern about paying for your own place and child support and still being able to go to college? You're not allowing your "girlfriend" to help support you and your double life? Are you? Also, I have to say(well, I choose to say), your responses to some of the replies to your thread are just plain "lame" and self-absorbed. The excrement about not being able to look in the mirror because of your mom? It wouldn't be suprising to hear that you used this sort of pseudo-pschological self pity to try "picking up" women. You need to examine yourself and truthfully deal with what you find. I suppose your "troubles" will end no time soon. You don't appear to have even begun to solve your problem and maybe don't really want to.
 
Face it, men come from the factory wired to spread their seed. Philandering is part of the human reproductive strategy, as is cuckolding.
 
You won't change. Not because you don't want to, you may decide that you so want to, but you won't be able to. It's true, men cheat. (As do women.) It's also true that once you've cheated, you will cheat again. My advice, tell her. She deserves to know the truth. Have you considered that perhaps she won't care? Yes, most women would be pissed, but if you have an addiction maybe she'll be understanding. Personally, I'd drop your ass like nothing, but give her the chance. Maybe you guys can figure out some ways to keep you more staisfied. Maybe couples therapy would help. She deserves to know what's going on....there's alot between you two, give the respect she deserves and tell her.
 
RottenWillow said:
I'm only posting because I havent seen anyone else write what I've been thinking.


2) You are not ready to be in a monogamous relationship with anyone and it wouldnt matter if your gf had superpussy and was perfect in every way; you'd still cheat.

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My point exactly. Why do you think women like halle berry & Carmen Electra (or whoever) get cheated on. Some people just can't be with one woman. If that's you, realize it and stop bringing others down with you
 
You obviously don't respect your girlfriend or the children you have with her (or are raising with her), and that's a horrible example that you're setting for the children...for her sake (and the sake of your children), break up with her and let her move on with her life. I'm assuming she's doing most of the work raising your kids while you're at school supposedly getting an education (which would lead to a better career and better life for your family)...and in the meantime you're fucking every girl you come across? Wow. That's low.

Women would rather be dumped than cheated on (even if there are kids in the picture). I'm honestly surprised that she hasn't figured it out by now, but she may be in denial.
 
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samoth said:
as long as you're not violating your ethics code, your fine.
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I disagree. If you are deceiving someone else & violating their ethics code, then you need to rectify it. It's not all right.
If you are in a relationship with someone, you take on the burden of their code too, IMO. You either live with it, or give up the relationship.
 
Lestat said:
I don't think you are an asshole for cheating. I don't think it is right, but its tough to blame someone. You have been in a relationship a long time, its routine and probably mundane. You love your GF, and your kids, and your life, but at the same time, you crave attention from other women, new pussy excites you. newsflash, you are human.My advice, get counseling, let this out to someone professional. Talk to superdave about sex addiction as well. Who knows, I am not sure I believe in that, but it may be a starting point.
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I gotta call bullshit. I've been with my wife for 25 yrs. We've had some ups & downs, but we have never 'cheated' on each other. In fact the past 10 yrs, when I've had the most opportunity, I've been least inclined. Unless you have an open relationship, there should be no one else except your hands. If you are inclined to cheat, then you shouldn't be together. By being in a monogamous relationship you both agree to a particular paradigm. You break that, you are a liar & NOT a man, IMO.
I'm a little hot on this subject because I see so many couples separating because of selfish attitudes. Crak, you are essentially married without the paper. Treat it as such.
RottenWillow said:
1)You gf is not meeting some need(s) you have and you would be happier and wouldnt want to cheat if you were involved with the right girl.
2) You are not ready to be in a monogamous relationship with anyone and it wouldnt matter if your gf had superpussy and was perfect in every way; you'd still cheat.
My feeling is you definitely need to break up with your gf, but you also need to figure out which of these two possibilities is the case with you before you get involved with another girl.
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I can't agree with number one. He cheats period. If he cared about her enough & it was afault of hers, they should have communicated. Number 2 is more likely. He'll have to decide
 
Holy Shit...I wish I would have seen this sooner...

Man, ummmmn not man...boy, you are a child. You are not a man! You have 2 freaking kids! What the hell is your damage?!?!

Grow the FUCK Up!!!!

If you are going to be a piece of shit leave your girlfriend so you can screw whoever you want and let her find a real man!!!

My ex did the same thing to me. When I found out I left his ass! He lost everything...his wife, his friends, his house....

I saw him about a month ago and he is half the man he use to be. He is destroyed and I am happy about it!

You better hope you didn't give her some disease. You are sleeping with sluts and then bringing it all home to your loyal girlfriend!

You need some serious therapy.
 
flexygrl said:
Holy Shit...I wish I would have seen this sooner...

Man, ummmmn not man...boy, you are a child. You are not a man! You have 2 freaking kids! What the hell is your damage?!?!

Grow the FUCK Up!!!!

If you are going to be a piece of shit leave your girlfriend so you can screw whoever you want and let her find a real man!!!

My ex did the same thing to me. When I found out I left his ass! He lost everything...his wife, his friends, his house....

I saw him about a month ago and he is half the man he use to be. He is destroyed and I am happy about it!

You better hope you didn't give her some disease. You are sleeping with sluts and then bringing it all home to your loyal girlfriend!

You need some serious therapy.
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What kind of shitty friends did that guy have?
 
hidngod said:
I gotta call bullshit. I've been with my wife for 25 yrs. We've had some ups & downs, but we have never 'cheated' on each other. In fact the past 10 yrs, when I've had the most opportunity, I've been least inclined. Unless you have an open relationship, there should be no one else except your hands. If you are inclined to cheat, then you shouldn't be together. By being in a monogamous relationship you both agree to a particular paradigm. You break that, you are a liar & NOT a man, IMO.
I'm a little hot on this subject because I see so many couples separating because of selfish attitudes. Crak, you are essentially married without the paper. Treat it as such.

I can't agree with number one. He cheats period. If he cared about her enough & it was afault of hers, they should have communicated. Number 2 is more likely. He'll have to decide
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In response to RottenWillow,

When my ex was cheating I was in the best shape of my life. I got married at 23 and left him when I was 26...

We had sex ALL the time. I am nooooooo prude! He had everything he needed at home, me, my body, my love, my care...he like this poster was an immature ASSHOLE!!!!!!!!!

RW, as a woman...how could you say such a thing!?!?!?
 
HS Lifter said:
What kind of shitty friends did that guy have?
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They loved me to death. I only knew them for 7 years where as he knew them his whole life. They felt a loyalty to me instead of him. My ex was an asshole period...to everyone, including his friends. He was a know it all SOB! I learned this too late in life.

I still talk to a few of his friends wives.
 
and you know what else....

Because I am sooooo upset over this thread...I have more to say...

Can I tell you what it felt like to find out?!? I will try to explain the pain...

"He" was my whole life. I loved him. I grew up with him. I met him at 18. When I found out I was crushed. I wanted to die. My life to me was over. I felt betrayed, ugly, I worried that there must be something wrong with me. I spent 3 days not eating, sleeping just crying for THREE days. Finally when I started to come back to reality I had to deal with these horrible thoughts running through my head. I thought of killing myself. I wanted my pain to end!

The sad part of it all was I knew...and I have spoken to other women who've been cheated on and they knew too. Deep inside, we know what your doing...we may even accuse you of it as you stare us right in the eyes and DENY!!!!

I'm sorry to unload all of my shit on you but you have made me completely pissed off. I'm lucky I didn't have any children. I could walk away. It's not that easy for her.

You should be ASHAMED! You betrayed the mother of your children and DO NOT FORGET THIS...you betrayed your KIDS TOO!
 
flexygrl said:
and you know what else....

Because I am sooooo upset over this thread...I have more to say...

Can I tell you what it felt like to find out?!? I will try to explain the pain...

"He" was my whole life. I loved him. I grew up with him. I met him at 18. When I found out I was crushed. I wanted to die. My life to me was over. I felt betrayed, ugly, I worried that there must be something wrong with me. I spent 3 days not eating, sleeping just crying for THREE days. Finally when I started to come back to reality I had to deal with these horrible thoughts running through my head. I thought of killing myself. I wanted my pain to end!

The sad part of it all was I knew...and I have spoken to other women who've been cheated on and they knew too. Deep inside, we know what your doing...we may even accuse you of it as you stare us right in the eyes and DENY!!!!

I'm sorry to unload all of my shit on you but you have made me completely pissed off. I'm lucky I didn't have any children. I could walk away. It's not that easy for her.

You should be ASHAMED! You betrayed the mother of your children and DO NOT FORGET THIS...you betrayed your KIDS TOO!
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Are you done yet Crak????????
 
Getting some Strange is good in the beginning, both physical and non.
That's why it called that..

Eventually the newness wears off though and something else must be there
to keep you happy in a relationship.

3 months vs 6 years...

Which relationship is stronger ?
Which woman do you know more about ?
Which one do you trust and have the most invested in ?
Which one can you count on to have your back ?
How will this decision effect the children that have no say ?
 
awittyusername said:
A little late for that.

I asked him to do that 2 days ago. And, he told me to get out :supercool:
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I think I am more upset that I had to go back into a place that is so dark and scary just so I could answer him honeslty because he needed "serious advice". I know this is only a fitness board...but come one...how can you be so insensitive?!? I just don't get it.
 
Instead of making subtle hints (even though it is clear that something is fishy about this thread when Crak clearly says he is PMIng everyone that post), why don't you just say the following:

Please don't post. The intentions of this thread are not genuine.

Thanks.
 
awittyusername said:
A little late for that.

I asked him to do that 2 days ago. And, he told me to get out :supercool:
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You must spread some Karma around before giving it to awittyusername again.

Maybe a mod in the know should do the honours. :)
 
y'all kill me.....this is the damn internet, maing.
 
flexygrl said:
I think I am more upset that I had to go back into a place that is so dark and scary just so I could answer him honeslty because he needed "serious advice". I know this is only a fitness board...but come one...how can you be so insensitive?!? I just don't get it.
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I did to and so did others. (although not as bad as you) I asked hime to stop it. Everyone knew this would happen and called him a fuck head. But, wouldn't do anything because he is a k buddy or something :rolleyes:
 
Dial_tone said:
y'all kill me.....this is the damn internet, maing.
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You think I am pissed now Dt!!!!! If I find out you are not banging that hot chick with the big booty in your avi....I will red you everyday you are still here!!! :mad:
 
awittyusername said:
You think I am pissed now Dt!!!!! If I find out you are not banging that hot chick with the big booty in your avi....I will red you everyday you are still here!!! :mad:
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Imagine how pissed I'd be if *I* found out I wasn't bangin her. :)
 
Dial_tone said:
Imagine how pissed I'd be if *I* found out I wasn't bangin her. :)
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Thank god!! All is right in the world. :heart: My world would have been turned upside down if I found out my man DT wasn't hitting that big booty :p
 
crak600 said:
It..........
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alright bro first off, you fucked up by posting this here. shell find it.


im not gunna go off telling you your a fuckup for cheating, because your a good guy. i like you, and uv been good to me, so im not gunna type out my judgements

my advice is that you either need to STOP THE CHEATING. im not saying stop for now maybe start up later. you need to STOP fucking around on your girlfriend, thats not cool and even close to fair to her... (if you wanna keep going after strange pussy then leave your gf and continue)

if you DO think you have feelings for this new chick (more than for your gf) then be with her. but i dont mean be with her for 4 years and then cheat on her for 2. be with her, and dont cheat on her.

thats my advice, goodluck bro,
 
SublimeZM said:
alright bro first off, you fucked up by posting this here. shell find it.


im not gunna go off telling you your a fuckup for cheating, because your a good guy. i like you, and uv been good to me, so im not gunna type out my judgements

my advice is that you either need to STOP THE CHEATING. im not saying stop for now maybe start up later. you need to STOP fucking around on your girlfriend, thats not cool and even close to fair to her... (if you wanna keep going after strange pussy then leave your gf and continue)

if you DO think you have feelings for this new chick (more than for your gf) then be with her. but i dont mean be with her for 4 years and then cheat on her for 2. be with her, and dont cheat on her.

thats my advice, goodluck bro,
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Hey Junior!! You must not be doing to well in reading comprehension class. :lmao:
 
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