I've been cheating on my gf for 2 years - I need SERIOUS advice

[Buddy_Christ]

Wow. Is the 6 year relationship your first serious relationship?? Did you get a chance to sow your oats (i.e., get this shit out of your system) prior to the 6 year relationship? What's behind falling for all of this attention?

I'm not a man, so I'm sure my response will be different. I would want to know now rather then find out later (she will find out). I doubt you will have much of a relationship after, but who knows maybe the two of you will work it out. You should be honest about it.

If you are not going to end your 6 relationship, then stop the affairs. Be careful ending the affair with that 21 y.o., I see nothing but raging estrogen psychotic drama with that one.

That said, how have you been able to look at yourself in the mirror every morning?

I think the sowing the oats thing has a lot to do with this.

I never look at myself in the mirror, at least not at my own face. I havn't been able to since I was a kid, but that's because of some deep rooted self-esteem issues thanks to my mother.

 

[kills]

Because there are children involved, my advice to you would be to break off the affair...and for God's sake DO NOT TELL YOUR GIRLFRIEND!!! Talk to a counsellor, and see if there is a chance to salvage your current relationship with some work on your part (and hers, obviously, because you wouldn't be cheating all the time if you were entirely happy).

If not for the children involved, I'd advise you to walk, but it's just not that simple in this instance...you owe it to your children to at least try to fix the broken relationship. If you give it an honest effort, and you're still not happy, then by all means break up and move on.

We are on the same page here Canadian.

 

[HumorMe]

(she will find out). I doubt you will have much of a relationship after,

No doubt about that!

 

[Buddy_Christ]

Because there are children involved, my advice to you would be to break off the affair...and for God's sake DO NOT TELL YOUR GIRLFRIEND!!! Talk to a counsellor, and see if there is a chance to salvage your current relationship with some work on your part (and hers, obviously, because you wouldn't be cheating all the time if you were entirely happy).

If not for the children involved, I'd advise you to walk, but it's just not that simple in this instance...you owe it to your children to at least try to fix the broken relationship. If you give it an honest effort, and you're still not happy, then by all means break up and move on.

We've been working on our relationship for a while. We know we've had some problems in the past, and things were starting to get better but now they're back into the same rut they used to be in. I keep trying to pull us out, but we keep slipping back in. It's like, you get into that "comfort zone" where you think the other person isn't going to go anywhere. I think that's where she's at, but I need more.

And yeah, if it weren't for the kids, I would've been gone with the first affair.

 

[velvett]

Karma's a real bitch ... just remember that when it's your heart on the butcher block.

 

[Buddy_Christ]

HA no shit.....that could be entertaining.

i'm not really into their music or anything though....

great place to see a show...i can imagine the mayhem that will take place

Their first few albums were good, and musically, Scumdogs is AWESOME. It's a must-have album for any metal fan.

I was at the Electric Factory for Ministry many years ago and it was a somewhat rough show. I have a feeling GWAR is going to be a lot worse.

 

[Beachbum1546]

juiciest topic I've read in a while.

Doesn't seem like you have any respect for your gf and you don't care enough to stay faithful so why bother staying with her. Just go the hot chick that is 21, get tired of her in a few years, cheat on her with a hotter chick and start the cycle again.

legal/money wise, having a kid was the worst thing you coud do. enjoy child support up the yin yang.

 

[kills]

Their first few albums were good, and musically, Scumdogs is AWESOME. It's a must-have album for any metal fan.

I was at the Electric Factory for Ministry many years ago and it was a somewhat rough show. I have a feeling GWAR is going to be a lot worse.

Dude wtf you have a real problem here and you keep talking shit about some band. I say you cut the kid's and wife lose so she can find a guy that may actually care about them, come on.

 

[awittyusername]

Don't you ever make another fucking thread about how you helped yours or your gf family, or took the kids on vacation. Its fucking bullshit.

Forget counselling....It just boils down to you being a weak pussy. Everyone thinks I am an ass because I tell every guy I know to go out and bang chicks...then get in a relationship. But, you are to scared to be alone.

You are the reason kids are fucked up. Don't even get involved with a girl that has kids and "raise as your own"...then knock her up....then bang skanks.

I have 2 lifelong friends who did the exact same thing as you...I will tell you the same thing I said to them...Don't ever fucking talk to me again or I will kick you bitch ass!!

You got your choice...Be a man and be strong enough to separate now. (without having pussy lined up) or Be a man and stay with her and quit banging skanks. (if you love her...not skeered to be alone)

Because right now you are just a bitch ass pussy.

(if you are joking you still are a tool)

 

[Buddy_Christ]

Dude wtf you have a real problem here and you keep talking shit about some band. I say you cut the kid's and wife lose so she can find a guy that may actually care about them, come on.

You havn't been around EF long enough to see me post a lot.

Plus I knew Jerkbox would've wanted that info. I havn't seen him post in a while. He's like a brother to me that hates me but yet we're brothers or something. I think.