This is where I have issues with religion. So what does this mean exactly. My
Granddad who was a baptist preacher would say that "bastards" can't enter the kingdom of heaven.
To me that's a load of crap. Why should the son be condemned for the sins of the father?
It is a load of crap.
Every person is judged according to their own actions.
Just because someone is born fatherless doesn't mean they are condemned.
What I was getting at is that children should be raised in a two parent home that raises their children to have faith in God and live according to His commandments. Obviously, it isn't always the case and there are many circumstances that arise to cause single parent homes. Parents do the best they can, hopefully, but it's been well proven that two-parent heterosexual homes are the best environment for raising a child regardless of religious affiliation.
Likewise, saying an infant that dies without baptism goes to hell is completely wrong, a child born out of wedlock is not condemned. How unjust and merciless God would be to do that, and He is not.