If you knew your child was sexually active, what would you do?

[danielson]

if you gave her the condom tutorisl and brought in a banana I'm sure it would trouble her so much she wouldnt have sex for years

I dont think there is anything you can say to stop them doing it, as at that age im sure they would do it anyway and hide it more

 

[theoak01]

give them the talk to ensure they are safe,because there is no way you can stop them short of locking them in a room

 

[hanselthecaretaker]

There was an article on Joe Perry of Aerosmith in the new Men's Health, and he talked about the right time to talk to your kids about sex. His answer?
As soon as they are able to talk.

 

[biteme]

I think that may be why my daughter doesn't want to live with me now. Not on my watch. THe opportunities will be seriously limited. No cursing and no rap music with cursing and talk about sex and drugs. I don't think that's asking too much.

 

[hanselthecaretaker]

I think that may be why my daughter doesn't want to live with me now. Not on my watch. THe opportunities will be seriously limited. No cursing and no rap music with cursing and talk about sex and drugs. I don't think that's asking too much.

Sure, but just remember that when they feel restricted too much is when they start lashing out and getting into more serious trouble.

 

[Buddy_Christ]

So what do you suggest

Something along the lines of this -

yep. Start spreading more condoms that an anti-HIV festival

this -

That's why I said make sure she has the knowledge to protect herself. Being in denial and locking her in the house will not stop her from having sex. Be upfront and honest with her. Talk about sex with her. Trust me, if she wants to have sex she will do it, you are not with her 24/7.

and this -

if you gave her the condom tutorisl and brought in a banana I'm sure it would trouble her so much she wouldnt have sex for years

I dont think there is anything you can say to stop them doing it, as at that age im sure they would do it anyway and hide it more

Buy her condoms in bulk and say "if you need more, let me know." Tell her she's getting tested for STDs every 6 months and beg her to let you know if something seems "funny" down there so you can make an appointment to get her checked out. Encourage abstinence but not in a way that scars her for life, because, after all, you do hope to be a grandparent one day so you can laugh at your children and say, "and you were that bad too!"

And then, of course, come the "horror" stories. Our daughter will get told that the one time her mother had sex without a condom, she was concieved. She will also be told that her younger brother was concieved while mom was on the pill. Both children will hear those stories, not to tell them that they are unwanted, but to let them know just how easy it is to get pregnant.

Then comes the talk about what happens if they accidentily become a parent while they're still teenagers - we will not raise your child, YOU WILL. You will finish high school and you will apply for aid to help support your child. We are not here to "fix" this problem for you, you will "fix" it yourself. If you don't like that, then good luck surviving on your own while raising a child.

 

[Cutiebaby]

i think it would depend...i intend on giving all 3 of them the talk at about 11 maybe 12 years old..no older than that..my daughter will go on the pill at 13 reguardless..call me mean but i would love to enjoy watching my children graduate and be as good as they can be without having to fend for an infant also...i guess i will explain to me what i did when i was young and how i struggled to become who i am and all that great stuff...i cannot tell my kids what to do because they will do the opposite but i can be here to warn them of pregnancy and infections.so i guess the talk then help protect them......

 

[biteme]

Times have changed. I didn't have sex until I was 18. I sure wouldn't encourage it for my 13 year old daughter by putting her on BC pills.

 

[Austin316]

tell them not to expect me to raise their kid for them if they get knocked up or vice versa (although in the case of a boy Id also kick the living crap out of him if he does the deadbeat dad thing)

Thats way too fucking young I honestly don't know how I would handle it without blowing up

 

[Austin316]

actually after rereading it (depending on if I have the financial capability) the boot camp (all male or female including staff type) would prob work

I could share my own personal stories and what it feels like to lose a baby and how excruciating the guilt over abortion is even if its one of the "ok" reasons. Tell my son how hearing the words "I think Im pregnant" when your not prepared makes you want to stab yourself in the gut repeatedly and die. but then again at 12 I dunno if its cool for a parent to dump that kinda crap on a child, god I don't want a daughter unless she has a protective older brother to watch out for her first, thats all I know