I want your thoughts on this

[nycgirl]

See, I don't think a person's self-esteem will necessarily increase when they lose weight/bf. And someone whose self-esteem is low before & after weight loss may place more into those comments from strangers as they may need more affirmation to see themselves in a new light....the new, thinner them.

Now, those women who are already hot, etc may still seek affirmation from others to try to offset their insecurity or reinforce their narcisscism.

I think it's totally dependant on the person....

Exactly. Good post.

 

[SoKlueles]

I agree that you have a right to your opinion.

I've seen girls with low self-esteem (including me at one time) that did not giggle and walk through crowds and went home and cried alone. So, the giggle and blush argument doesn't make sense to me.

Well like i said, this is a debate and i want to hear both sides of the story. I want to know what other people think about the subject.

 

[alien amp pharm]

What do you see when you look in the mirror?

Every ladies dream

 

[jenscats5]

Exactly. Good post.

I may not always be right, but I'm never wrong....

 

[nycgirl]

I may not always be right, but I'm never wrong....

Hee Hee.

 

[SoKlueles]

Soklu, you are awesome. No matter what you look like.

OK now... Being confident is in your mind. You see overweight people everywhere and some of them are the most confident people you'll find. Why is that? They don't have perfect bodies. That says they don't need perfect bodies to be confident. They know what they're capable of in their mind. They know what they have...

There are many different aspects to self confidence. Not only physical but stuff like the relationship you may be in, your family and how they treat you, how well you're doing at work and if you're financially stable, how smart you are... etc... All these thing together can make up a person's confidence IN ADDITION TO how fat one is. If you have all the rest, but are overweight, you might be better off than other "fat" women who don't have it. Confidence is a lifestyle. Look at a confident person and you're not only looking at a "nice" body, but a LIFE that is filled with good or "happy" or whatever stuff. Surround yourself with the above things AND get into better shape and you'll never go back to being unconfident.

You rock. I so agree with this post I have other issues with my body besides weight as a child I think(but i dont hate them) taht my parents hsould have taken me to some therapy or something. I agree, if you fill yourself with love and postive karma, and know that those around you love you, you should have high self esteem. maybe i should red hammy everytime he calls me a plumper?
I myself think that actually having self esteem is awesome....ive came along way from what i was before, but i dont think we all totally get there. I may be wrong and this is what this thread is about.

 

[SoKlueles]

While the outside shell and how people treat you affects your self esteem in a way, the bigger influence is what is going on inside you. What do you see when you look in the mirror? or how do you feel about yourself?

I , personally, hate looking in the mirror. Hammy says im too worried about how i look. I think its from low self esteem.

 

[Cutiebaby]

No im not wrong, its my opinion. This is a debate of sorts and everyone has their right to their opinion. and that is mine, just as your opinion is yours.

amen lol......

 

[SoKlueles]

See, I don't think a person's self-esteem will necessarily increase when they lose weight/bf. And someone whose self-esteem is low before & after weight loss may place more into those comments from strangers as they may need more affirmation to see themselves in a new light....the new, thinner them.

Now, those women who are already hot, etc may still seek affirmation from others to try to offset their insecurity or reinforce their narcisscism.

I think it's totally dependant on the person....

I you jenny
I do think that a persons self esteem gets higher when they lose weight. Ive saw people that couldnt fit into amusement park rides because they were big and all the people around them look at them and either make fun of them or feel sorry for them.
Then when they lose weight they want to go back to the amusement park just so they can ride the rides

 

[strangebrew]

It's all in their mind, no matter what they look like.

A lot of it will have to do with the environment they grew up in.

I was painfully shy and had zero self-confidence between the ages of 5-18. All it took was me getting completely fed up with my life and a simple change of mindset.