I FUCKING GIVE UP! Haven't gotten laid in 3 weeks!

[Sexual Mustard]

Why is my girlfriend never in the goddamn mood?! I thought I had squared away the "returning the favor" issue a couple of weeks back....

Guys, this is really frustrating. My girlfriend has NO sex drive (ya I know, "give her some juice!" posts are expected). I can only jack off to so much internet porn...
I had to fucking sniff her dirty smelly panties in her bathroom last night when I went pee because that's the most pussy I can get from her at this point in my life!

GAWD, chop off my balls now...at least I'll be happier with no sex drive.

Well, here's where I beg for help, especially from the ladies: How do I bring up this issue with the ultimatum of breaking up with her if I don't get it at least once a week. Because I'm seriously thinking about it. I need a girlfriend who wants to pleasure me as much as I enjoy pleasuring. I just don't want to sound like an asshole (or maybe I should) when I talk to her about this. And I have to delicately work in the "breaking up if no booty" angle.

Thanks in advance. There are not many people I can go to for honest advice. The girls I know in my life always side with her.

By the way, I'm currently holding auditions for women to be my next g/f, so post pics if interested ladies. There will be a talent, swimsuit, evening gown, and nude round at the Sexual Mustard Classic. Winner gets to relocate close to me (no expenses paid) to hang out and have sex.

 

[Kakdiesel]

Maybe your foreplay skills are bad...I know I can always get a girl in the mood by doing the right things...just kissing sometimes doesnt cut it for a girl (in the contrary to most guys)...you gotta come at her in a suprising way..maybe lick her neck or kiss her on the neck or do something other than just making out and rubbing on her...trust me, sometimes when they least expect sex is when they get the horniest

 

[Diablo's Xstasy]

I don't think Mustard's foreplay skills are the issue here from his other posts.

How to go about bringing up the issue.

Best way to deal with it is to be straight forward and upfront with a little sugar coating cause us females are always a bit catty.

Don't be blunt and completely honest, like don't tell her about the dirty panty incident, of course.

One night take her out to a nice dinner and during dinner tell her that you two have to talk about your relationship... But that's a little done.

Really the best thing to do Mustard is to sit her down when she's calm and relaxed, this way she doesn't have a bad day at work on her mind and she's not upset/frustrated about anything else and then she can't take those things out on you. That's very important.
Make sure you're calm about it, and I know this is going to sound really corney, but use feeling words.

The best way to get her to understand you and what you're going through is to get into how her own mind works and combat the problem from there. It's almost like manipulating.

Just sit her down basically and say, "Honey we really have to talk about our relationship. I love you and I really care a lot about you, you are a wonderful girl and person, but I am not happy about a few things. I want to discuss them with you and hopefully work this out to both of our satisfaction and if it can't be worked out I'm sorry, but I'm not happy and I can't live with being uphappy. If you were unhappy I wouldn't want you living that way."

Just a suggestion, but make sure whatever you do, don't raise your voice stay cool calm and collected... Even if she raises hers or starts crying or anything, the calmer you remain the easier it will be and the quicker you'll resolve the problem.

Hope i helped.

 

[Big Johnson]

Dude, say it like it is. Don't feel bad because you have a NORMAL sex drive. Fucking say it like it is - "Okay, listen...I'm not with you because I want a female friend. I'm with you because I want a lover. If you can't give me what I need from a lover, why should I stick around?" Bro, you may be happier dating several girls than just one. I get more sex now being single than I did with my ex.

 

[fiatconspiracy]

the relationship has ended a long time ago and you just never caught on, when a woman "checks out" sexually she is done, time for you to salvage your pride and pack your bags, dont bother giving her a ultimatum, cause maybe she will start banging you again, but she wont be into it, just cut your loses and move on

 

[Sexual Mustard]

Kakdeisel--as Diablo's said, it's not my foreplay skills...I get her off easily. But I might try the "surprise" angle...thanks for your suggestion.

Diablo's--another great post. Very thoughtful of you--yet another characteristic I want in a girl. Come on over, baby..! But seriously, that's also a great idea....problem is, she's never in a good mood anymore. Always tired and cranky and crabby....

Big Johnson--you have a good point. It's not my fault I have a NORMAL sex drive and she has NO sex drive (at least not anymore).

fiatconspiracy--an interesting angle.. I wonder if you're right.

 

[velvett]

SM,

Have other aspects of her life or daily habits changed?
Could she being going through a depressed or confucsed about her future phase? If she's always had a different sex drive than yourself it will always be problem.

Your best bet is to talk about it, especially in a climate that neither of you are starting the conversation on the defensive.

Fiatconspiracy does bring up an interesting point and you shouldn't let that get you down, relationships aren't forever and the long lasting ones take a lot of work and communication. So, talk, talk, talk about it.

Good Luck

 

[Rico]

Same thing happened between me and my now "ex". The biggest turnoff for her is you pressuring her to have sex. It makes her want it less. Start acting like you could care less about sex and she will come around (If she doesn't it's time to move on). Sex is a lot like going in to the bank for a loan.....If you really NEED it, you are never going to get it. If it is something you could use but don't need you will get it 9 out of 10 times.

I know it's a fucked up game, but that's life. It's so easy to get laid when you're indifferent about it, but when you go out with the attitude that you absolutely HAVE to get a piece of ass tonight, you end up with nothing.

 

[YellowD]

My girlfriend usually requires some sentimental shit to get in the mood. Ie. flowers, poem, dinner and a movie. Also, if you study her mestrual schedule, you can usually determine when her sex drive is highest. For most women, including mine, the few days prior to, during and after ovulation are the peak days for sex. Good luck.

 

[IwanaStrut]

This is just a girls opinion, but I would bet she's getting the cock some where else. My advice. Dont let her get away with it. Go out and do a little cheating yourself......have fun, if she isnt going to give it up for you, what does she expect you to do. Now go get um tiger.