I am the worlds biggest jerk right now!!!!!

[Dakotah]

yes i did quit but turns out sometimes things just dont happen the way people think. We had more bills than expected and i had to go back for quick cash - turns out it was really good and i had a great night i made over 1000 dollars and i even got jewelry also


Yay me i didnt even have one drink and i didnt even want toi was too worried about making money and beating men up literally -- we had a bachelor party come in and there was 50 guys in the group and i was their favorite !!!!!!

 

[Dakotah]

I did forget to tell you Sassy thank you very much for the sweetest post

I do thank all the ladies who posted hugs to all of you goodnight ladies its my bed time now

 

[Daisy_Girl]

I have before come out of a addictive situation actually a few and i didnt get help doing it i quit on my own and i know i can do this - i just needed a awakening and that i got last night.

The problem I have with this statement is that you HAVEN'T been able to do it alone. You said it yourself, you have come out of an addicitive/bad situation a few times - this is showing a repeating pattern of behavior. You keep relapsing because you aren't dealing with the issues.

You NEED to talk to someone - a professional. Deal with the issues and move forward to a bright future.

As for going back to dancing - you need to do what is best for you. I would never judge someone for that. But you quit dancing for a reason .... going back to it, just for a night or two, or ten .... is putting yourself back into a situation you tried to get out of because it was destroying you. All the money and jewelry in the world does not make up for a shattered self-esteem and self-destructive behavior.

 

[Bikini Mod]

It is always hard to quit.... "Quick cash" is always seductive. But in the end, is it worth it?

You know I know what I am talking about darlin'... I'm a single mother w/ lots of little ones and legal bills out the wazoo.

I still want to go back some time, not even for the money (though that was ok) but just for a single set, to be every man's fantasy for a brief moment in time....

My ex and I just got back together and I told him that sometime I wish he had seen me dance. I had the most beautiful costumes and was a wonderful entertainer. I would have liked to have him see me "as the fantasy".... He quite emphatically said, "I NEVER EVER WANT YOU TO DO THAT EVER AGAIN."

Made me feel better than all the money and jewelry in the world.

 

[PaganPunkstress]

Im sorry to hear about that Dakotah,
the girls gave some awesome advice.
I wish you the best! *big hug*

 

[Raina]

I think that great advise has been given.

It's really hard to make changes in your life when you're putting yourself in situations and around others who tend to lead you back into whatever you're trying to stop doing. Easier said than done to cut ties, but deep down you know what you need to do.

I wish you all the support in the world that you're able to get through this and keep making your relationship stronger.

 

[SoKlueles]

I agree with Raina, everytime i was going to give some advice on this subject, someone else beat me to it lol
Sweety, anything that causes problems with you and ur man is not worth it. Trust me, money is always very tempting to do things that u know u shouldnt do. But in the end, its not worth it. You lose. You lose him, the money is eventually gone, and u could have the addiction back.
Plus, of course u were the favorite dancer your an Iron Angel

oh and ur hot too

 

[lilred]

Hello Hun! You sound just like me when I was younger! I think DaisyGirl said it best.It is an issue that is not resolved.Counseling helped me.I was a dancer and had a very addictive personality. I was sexually abused as a child. I think I was out to destroy myself. Many years of counseling helped me.I still have a hard time trusting men.Seek help in the form of counseling and get to the root of the problem! I know it is easy for everyone to say. I hope you let it all out! I promise you will feel much better.If u ever need a good listener let me know.