Husband and on/off with sex

[wifeofhotbod]

Hi Girls! I am new here and looking for info in regard to my husbands sex drive.
He is a big workout guru and uses stuff to heighten his performance.
Sometimes he is interested in sex and sometimes he acts like he is not interested in me at all. I would say we have sex about once a week. Have any of you experienced this with your man? Any solutions? Any thing you can help with would be appreciated.

It's like if we even have sex it is at about 3 am when we are sleeping.

 

[Gymgurl]

Well....how old is he..how long married...what does he take?? How do you guys get along......need more info! But Welcome!!

 

[wifeofhotbod]

Married for 3.5 years. New baby...11 months.
He is 34. He takes a lot of things. He gets horny....but we don't do it that much. I just feel like he isn't into me sexually.

 

[Sassy69]

When you say he takes a lot of things - AAS? Guys can get horny as hell on that stuff, but on some of it or during PCT or with improper PCT, men can have trouble "getting it up" (e.g. "deca dick") and can also get really emotional because just like we get emotional rollercoaster rides during that time of the month, men can go through all sorts of emotional moments & mood swings when they are fiddling w/ their hormones.

And just a random thought -- maybe the new baby is throwing some new emotions & stresses into the equation??

I don't understand men for the life of me, but I do know that women tend to take the burden of every little problem onto themselves personally when at least explore some of the potential issues first.

I don't know if he thinks he has a problem -- have you talked about it? Does he even acknowledge that you see a problem? Or at least feel an uncertainty? Is he certain of all of his cycling of various chemicals & is his PCT spot on? If possible, you could get him to post up on the AAS board or PCT about what he's doing?

 

[SoKlueles]

You know, whats sad is we say we dont need a man, but yes we do......for our own self esteem. I have low self esteem anyway and if a guy that im with even acts like hes not wanting sex or whatever, it hurts my feelings and my self esteem to no end. I mean, your together for a reason and of course, sex is a big part of a relationship.
Im sure hes going thru a stage or something and everything will be ok......roids can do weird things to a body.....good luck

 

[Sassy69]

Especially when it comes to the sex because we give so much of ourselves there. Well most of the time ... I know I personally have full-on therapy sessions with myself and all the other people in my head and drive myself to pure misery anticipating situations and second-guessing responses. That's where a relationship with almost nauseatingly open communication is a must for me. But my thought is if you can ask the hubby what he wants or doesn't want at those questionable times and let him know that it makes you wonder.

And not to rag on him about the hormonal reaction to his cycles or PCT, but it isn't out of the realm of impossible that its part of the issue. I've seen it in certain people I know when they weren't even aware of the problem.

 

[Ulter]

You say he uses performance enhancers so I am sure he can get Proviron. Tell him it will give him a really hard look if you need an excuse or he doesn't know what it is. Have him use 50mg/day. By the end of the week your problem is solved.

 

[wend]

I'm sure the AAS complicates things, but I have a feeling that being a new father probably is a bigger issue. You really need to open the lines of communication with him in order to sort this out. Try to listen to him and not get defensive. I know it's hard, but it's worth it. I've been married for almost 14 years & have a 5 & 8 year old. And we have sex a few times a day! It can get better, but it takes some work, first. Good luck!

 

[wifeofhotbod]

I have been very open with him throughout the marriage.

By the way, I went to the gyno today and she thinks it is Chlamydia. The doctor is sending it to the lab. I have been completely faithful to him.He is nervous.....I can tell. We will get the results on Fri or Monday. If he has in fact been cheating on me.....and has brought home a disease....he will be in a world of hurt.

 

[Gymgurl]

This might be the answer to all your questions that you have been having......good luck and hang in there