How is your partner awful in bed?

[nangiggles]

You'd be surprized there is a board in ivillage FULL of women with men like mine....

 

[goin on 4T]

well i am more interested in meeting more woman like you, who wants to meet someone who doesn't want sex?

 

[KD1]

I am VERY open about sexuality, he knows we can dirty talk, anal, tie up, bondage, S&M, etc and he has no interest, not even in just blow jobs, he doesnt like to be touched directly if he doesnt seem in the mood,,

If your guy wont take blow jobs from you at the drop of a hat he has something wrong with his sex drive. Is he on anti depressants or something?

 

[NinjaTurtles]

Does he masturbate? This is quite odd that someone at 28 isnt a sex fein. Maybe i'm just a sex fein and everyone else is average. But every time I see my gf we have sex. Her car was in the shop last week so I picked her up from work brought her to my house and brought her home. We have a great relationship outside of the bedroom so its not just sexual.
Have you tried watching porn together? It's hard to watch some good porn with the ole lady next to you tugging on your stuff and not get ready for pounding! What kind of hours is he working, what is his diet like and does he smoke/drink/drugs?

I went limp at like 20 for about 5 months and it completely killed me emotionally. I did a ton of research and figured out that smoking/drinking/fast food and a lot of good bud and cocaine wasn't a good sex coctail. Changed all of that and very shortly afterwards If I wasn't having sex I was wanting to watch some porn.

 

[nangiggles]

no odd diet no drinking or smoking, no porn together, only rarely if I insist, no medicaation, no blow jobs, he doesnt seem to like to get turned on, he does enjoy the physical act of sex though, I really dont know what it is, it's not biological Ill tell you that...

 

[NinjaTurtles]

thats craziness! does he get off when he's alone though?

 

[Underwraps]

thats craziness! does he get off when he's alone though?

Yeah, good question. I think on average guys his age need to either have sex or do a "load" on their own at at least 2-3 times a week.

How is he about homosexual content in movies and such? Any really strong feelings could actually be an indication of his insecurity about his sexuality- or bring back bad memories of a pedophile (who are not necessarily gay). gay doesn't equal pedophile.

I'm stumped if it's not biological. What was the longest you went w/o and you not asking for it? Have your tried not ever asking for it to see how long you could go w/o and to see if he'd instigate it? Does he like watching you play with yourself? Does he think that's perverted or unclassy? Does he like to look at vaginas at all? Lingerie?

My college FWB was BI and I remember being the one to always instigate the sex. Once I got him going he'd be into it, but he never instigated it. He did go down on me out of the blue once, but it's cuz he had a perverted streak in him. It was the 1 night his sister came through town and was in the bedroom next door. Not sayin he had a think for sis, but that he was being NAUGHTY while sis was around was the turn on I think. There's all of attitudes when it comes to sex.

 

[gorillahung]

. I was hoping for responses from guys since it seems they stray more for physical reasons than emotional ones .

Sometimes guys just feel the instinct to have a new partner. We are wired to spread our genetic code to as many women as possible for species survival. It's hard to get around your biological instincts. That's why so many men cheat.

A man could have the most perfect beautiful wife that he totally loves everything about her and he will still be thinking about other women sometimes simply because she's a new partner. Your man could be perfectly satisfied by you and he might still cheat, especially if a woman pursues sex with him. It's hard to turn down easy sex.

 

[imafuturebodybuilder]

I am lucky if I have sex 3 times a month.... is it good? yes it is, but having to almost beg for it isnt

Wow wtf.. really? lmao.. Me and my crazy ex-girlfriend once went 27 times in one month lol.

 

[gorillahung]

no odd diet no drinking or smoking, no porn together, only rarely if I insist, no medicaation, no blow jobs, he doesnt seem to like to get turned on, he does enjoy the physical act of sex though, I really dont know what it is, it's not biological Ill tell you that...

I cannot even imagine turning down a blow job. Even a "bad" blow job feels good.