How do you know when you REALLY love someone?

[KillahBee]

dude, everything we do in life is to fill a void or fulfill a need.

like when I feel a void in my tummy, i eat a cupcake. same thing.

Yeah, but eating a cupcake isn't quite a fucking lifetime commitment, now is it.

Well, for you it is

 

[EnderJE]

Love is a second hand emotion.

Who needs a heart when a heart can be broken?

 

[nefertiti]

I understand what you are saying but for a minute sit back and play the advocate on what you wrote. Everything in there is about you making a decision in your own mind. All those things could be brain washed into your mind using the right techniques so I have to honestly say that isn't LOVE, merely decisions to change you change the way you behave.

You aren't quite getting what I meant. it wasn't the choices that defined the way i felt...it was the way I felt that led me to make the choices. And how I felt was most definitely love (just trust me on that). As I said...that's only happened to me once, but I've been in several pretty serious relationships that lasted over a year where I can't say I was ever in love.

I guess that's what I'm talking about anyway...the act of being IN love, which is what that first stage is when you are first realizing how you feel. The kind of love that lasts, and what goes with it, well that's another story entirely.

 

[ballet gal]

killah, you kill me. You make my doo dah dance. love your attitude.

 

[Smurfy]

Yeah, but eating a cupcake isn't quite a fucking lifetime commitment, now is it.

Well, for you it is

so lifetime commitments people make are to fill the void in their life?
crap, why didnt I think of thAt!

 

[Bikini Mod]

You dont choose a mate based on love... love is what happens along the way.

Why do people always seem to get defensive when this topic is brought up?

Friendship, mutual respect, kindness and geuinely LIKING your partner is what keeps people together. Lust is what brings you together and love is what you find along the way.

For me it isn't all that complicated.

 

[Smurfy]

You dont choose a mate based on love... love is what happens along the way.

Why do people always seem to get defensive when this topic is brought up?

Friendship, mutual respect, kindness and geuinely LIKING your partner is what keeps people together. Lust is what brings you together and love is what you find along the way.

For me it isn't all that complicated.

I think I agree with you here.

 

[jestro]

Get your tissue, and your, waaaah factor because I'm about to share my soul. I'm adopted and have alot of abandonment issues. Stupid, but true. Biteme alleviated all that. 40 years of that. He loves me like your parents are supposed to.

wait, he loves you like your parents are supposed to? Is that before or after he blows his load on you?

 

[ballet gal]

"Had" them? Come on Spart. You bury people for a living. Your sentences begin with, psssst. I know a guy.

 

[H_T_]

how gf's has bm had join elite? i'm glad my gf isn't this far up my ass as to join the same fucking websites as me.....