Help for the Wife!!!

[Daisy_Girl]

I guess that's the catch - we all are in the state we are in because of our goals, our time constraints, our habits... and then can't figure out why we can't accomplish our goals....

If she is a cardio / aerobics instructor and training for a marathon, then she needs to eat like that's her goal. If she doesn't I can guarantee she won't be prepared for her marathon in the way she could be, she will always be exhausted and will never change her shape if she doesn't change her diet. Period. How do you get around it? Other than change your expectations to match your lifestyle.

Daisy_Girl can speak to the 'how do i do this while teaching & have a baby" -- she does it every day as well. The cardio classes - fine - but fuel for them. The marathon - fine - but then fuel for it. Not to beat the subject to death, but is there any reason that makes it a good enough reason to spend a few minutes figuring out a way to get in an optimal diet if what you are doing isn't working?

That's why I said -- it APPEARS that her diet could use a lot of tweaking - its not bad - its clean, but but its not optimal and obviously she's not getting the results she wants from it. Since we don't know the portion sizes, can you either list the portion sizes for me or load up www.fitday.com w/ that meal plan and run the numbers so we can see REALLY where the diet is right now? Then we can probably help make a few really easy tweaks so she has some options vs getting caught up in the whole "she does this and this and this and this and this and doesn't have time for all that eating". Let's see what she CAN do.

Sassy hit it here.

We are ALL busy people. Kids, no kids, job, no job - doesn't matter. We all have demands on our time, but if losing the weight or reaching a certain goal is important to her (or any of us) then she needs to sit down and PLAN for it.

I bet she did not start training for a marathon without a running plan.

Well, she can't lose the weight without a diet plan.

Planning a good diet will be the cornerstone of losing weight AND reaching her running goals. If she can't find the time to plan and execute a good diet - then she needs to accept the fact that she may never reach her goals. Plain and simple.

 

[Daisy_Girl]

BTW - my post is not meant to sound negative or bitchy. I know exactly what she is going through, with trying to reach goals with a baby. It is tough. Honestly, if she does not have to teach classes at the gym, I would drop those. With all of the things going on, when does she spend relaxing, quality time with the baby and you?

Babies are only babies once. Those extra 10 lbs or aerobics classes can be tackled later. I would rather be fat than miss out on time with my little one.

 

[T-Cake]

A-ha! I knew I smelled a WeightWatcher!

I just read the post from the other day and I can vouch for WWers experience!

I lost 80 lbs with WWers and kept it off for years... but the last 2 years I followed it, NOTHING happened. I didn't lose ANY more weight, and I was eating very simliar to how your wife is losing or not losing now. VERY similar.

I basically had to be dragged into weightlifting by people who were telling me THAT was the change my body was changing. On the other side, I still went to WWer meetings -- though I was eating more protein and eating a little more food than they told me to -- and when I'd talk to WWer women, they said the same thing your wife did: Why are you weightlifting? You'll bulk up! You'll be so big! OMG, you're eating too many points! You'll gain!

And one month later... I was 5 lbs smaller, losing inches like crazy like I had in two years... and I was beginning to believe in the FitDay and higher-protein and adding-weights way of life. But that WWer mentality tells you otherwise! That was the flaw in their program -- they have all this emphasis on cardio and cutting calories and avoiding temptation... but they don't stress strength traning nearly as much as they shoudl, which further fuels the "I'll bulk up!" fear women have.

I've been lifting for a year now... I don't look like a man I look more curvy and lovely as ever.

Wow, I just TOTALLY empathize with your wife! I didn't have a baby, so I would listen to Daisy and GG with their comments especially on that... but I KNOW what those WWer points can do to you!

Lastly -- I don't eat 6 meals a day -- I eat 3 main big meals (B, L, D) and an evening snack (all protein and good fats, before bed). On the weekends I'll have a midday snack... but you don't have to eat frequently to get all the fuel.

I'm a school teacher too. I KNOW what the daily timeline can be like!

++++ vibes to your wife. I hope y'all can figure out a convincing plan for her.

 

[the-short-one]

A-ha! I knew I smelled a WeightWatcher!

I just read the post from the other day and I can vouch for WWers experience!

I lost 80 lbs with WWers and kept it off for years... but the last 2 years I followed it, NOTHING happened. I didn't lose ANY more weight, and I was eating very simliar to how your wife is losing or not losing now. VERY similar.

I basically had to be dragged into weightlifting by people who were telling me THAT was the change my body was changing. On the other side, I still went to WWer meetings -- though I was eating more protein and eating a little more food than they told me to -- and when I'd talk to WWer women, they said the same thing your wife did: Why are you weightlifting? You'll bulk up! You'll be so big! OMG, you're eating too many points! You'll gain!

And one month later... I was 5 lbs smaller, losing inches like crazy like I had in two years... and I was beginning to believe in the FitDay and higher-protein and adding-weights way of life. But that WWer mentality tells you otherwise! That was the flaw in their program -- they have all this emphasis on cardio and cutting calories and avoiding temptation... but they don't stress strength traning nearly as much as they shoudl, which further fuels the "I'll bulk up!" fear women have.

I've been lifting for a year now... I don't look like a man I look more curvy and lovely as ever.

Wow, I just TOTALLY empathize with your wife! I didn't have a baby, so I would listen to Daisy and GG with their comments especially on that... but I KNOW what those WWer points can do to you!

Lastly -- I don't eat 6 meals a day -- I eat 3 main big meals (B, L, D) and an evening snack (all protein and good fats, before bed). On the weekends I'll have a midday snack... but you don't have to eat frequently to get all the fuel.

I'm a school teacher too. I KNOW what the daily timeline can be like!

++++ vibes to your wife. I hope y'all can figure out a convincing plan for her.

this is a really good post.


After the birth of my son in 2000, I weighed 180. lolol I'm 5'1, people. fortunately for me, I don't have any pictures of it. I did join WW, tho. within 3 weeks of giving birth. I lost 55 lbs, in 6 months doing the WW thing, breast feeding, and walking.

I'm not knocking WW - their plan does work, but you eventually find yourself in the same situation you do with every diet/weight loss plan. It only works for so long. You have to be smart enough to realize this and make changes.

 

[T-Cake]

this is a really good post.Thank you!


After the birth of my son in 2000, I weighed 180. lolol I'm 5'1, people. FUNNY! fortunately for me, I don't have any pictures of it. I did join WW, tho. within 3 weeks of giving birth. I lost 55 lbs, in 6 months doing the WW thing, breast feeding, and walking.

I'm not knocking WW - their plan does work, but you eventually find yourself in the same situation you do with every diet/weight loss plan. It only works for so long. You have to be smart enough to realize this and make changes.

SO TRUE! You know, when I started with them... I never had a moment where I thought I wouldn't finish what I started. Somehow, I knew I would get to goal because they made me believe I could do it as long as I kept working at it.

9 years later, I'm still working on it -- but I think it WAS smart of them to release the CORE (more like clean-eating) plan a couple year ago, because they realized people were plateuating -- just like you said -- left and right on Flex. It'll only take you so far until you have to 1) change your diet to cleaner foods and less processed foods and/or 2) change your activity level and/or 3) eat MORE.

But regardless -- it's so helpful to have EF and other places to get new ideas because when the body gets tired of what you're doing... it's going to get tired of burning those cals too.

I'm with ya' sister! HIGH FIVE! (We need an emoticon for that, btw!)

 

[Sassy69]

this is a really good post.


After the birth of my son in 2000, I weighed 180. lolol I'm 5'1, people. fortunately for me, I don't have any pictures of it. I did join WW, tho. within 3 weeks of giving birth. I lost 55 lbs, in 6 months doing the WW thing, breast feeding, and walking.

I'm not knocking WW - their plan does work, but you eventually find yourself in the same situation you do with every diet/weight loss plan. It only works for so long. You have to be smart enough to realize this and make changes.

Double props as well... !

 

[the-short-one]

Double props as well... !

I was a fatty, but not for very long.

 

[Sassy69]

I was a fatty, but not for very long.

Hell girl, you had a kid. I never had that excuse. I've been up near 190 a few times... Nothing like a few 50 lb weight swings every year....

 

[T-Cake]

Hell girl, you had a kid. I never had that excuse. I've been up near 190 a few times... Nothing like a few 50 lb weight swings every year....

Cute!

 

[bgdaddy123]

You gals have made really good posts on this subject... Daisy: she teaches all those classes in the morning ( tues, thurs, and sat) @ 5:30 am. So she doesnt miss time with the baby. However it takes a toll on her time sleeping.
I believe totally what you guys are saying about the Whole cardio/wts.. Me personally I hate cardio ( never do it) but I play competitive sports to replace it.. And I lift my ass of 5 times a wk.. She is so caught up on the wwers mentality of points, and cals in to cals burned mentality.. We had this argument last night... She says how the cardio be soo bad for me??? It is hard for her to believe the drop the cardio and pick up wts is going to work for me, because the cardio has worked so long for her in the past.. She has also read woman say that it takes a year to loose that " baby Fat" thst you got from the pregnancy.. I will have her read the rest of this thread.. I hope
it will sink in. And will have her post on here tonight so she can talk to you gals herself.. Thank you ALL!!!