He cheated with fairly good intention?

[Bikini Mod]

Blah, blah, blah....

Are you married? Do you have children? Do you share real estate and a bank account?

Darlin.... if you think so little of yourself that you will tolerate a man who cheated on you because "it was your fault because you weren't as available as you would have liked to have been because of your financial situation" then I will hold my tongue and wish you well.

 

[Hard-Bitten]

You answered your own question.


How long do you want him to step all over you?

I think I step on him more then he step on me..

 

[Hard-Bitten]

Blah, blah, blah....

Are you married? Do you have children? Do you share real estate and a bank account?

Darlin.... if you think so little of yourself that you will tolerate a man who cheated on you because "it was your fault because you weren't as available as you would have liked to have been because of your financial situation" then I will hold my tongue and wish you well.

LOL!
Easy up there (=
I was referring to the fact I was trying to earn a living on my own paying my bills/rent. I was working long hours and was rarely avaliable for him. He did not mind that, he was willing to be patience and bare with it the fact that I was able to see him 2x a week or less.

I do not think lower of myself. I don't tolerate for what he did. I don't understand why he would want to be with me if I wasn't the ' ideal gf' he wanted to be with.

 

[velvett]

I think I step on him more then he step on me..

Then you have bigger issues.
Try therapy.

And a mirror.

 

[velvett]

I do agree that people do change but why would take someone back if the person wasn't good towards you in the first place.?

People don't change, they could behave differently for a while and they MAY grow as a person but they don't change.

He either wants you back because he thinks he can't get better, it's just easier to go back to what you know even if it's bad, he wants to get you comfortable and then dump you or he has zero self-esteem.

I think that about covers all options.

Anyone else?

 

[krissy]

This sounds so crazy, he cheated because he wanted to cheat, not because you were not there. Even if you would have been there that certain someone would have still caught his eye, and he would have still cheated...point blank. Sorry, to have to say it like that.Move on!!

 

[Hard-Bitten]

People don't change, they could behave differently for a while and they MAY grow as a person but they don't change.

He either wants you back because he thinks he can't get better, it's just easier to go back to what you know even if it's bad, he wants to get you comfortable and then dump you or he has zero self-esteem.

I think that about covers all options.

Anyone else?

I think it's comfort.
Thanks!

 

[Gymgurl]

because he found out that the grass was not greener on the other side....

 

[Sassy69]

Maybe right now isn't a good time for you all to be dating anyway....

 

[blueta2]

People don't change, they could behave differently for a while and they MAY grow as a person but they don't change.

He either wants you back because he thinks he can't get better, it's just easier to go back to what you know even if it's bad, he wants to get you comfortable and then dump you or he has zero self-esteem.

I think that about covers all options.

Anyone else?

Not true! People can I do change! I am a good example. I cheated on my ex of 11yrs. Why? B/c he was NEVER around and neglected me. We are humans, we need food, shelter, love, water etc....so when you are lacking this, you go find it. I am not saying what I did was correct. It was wrong, stupid and immature, but I did it! I learned a hard lesson which I will never do again!
Now for taking him back. He may have changed, BUT you will never trust him again. Mistrust is the WORST torture on the planet. You will live in the "crazies" and always wonder where he is when you can't find him.
We do not know you or your boyfriend at all, so tough call, but even if you did take him back, even if he was very sorry and would never do it again, you will always have an element of mistrust!

Good luck