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Hard-Bitten
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I don't blame him for cheating on me, but now he wants me back? Why?
He cheated with fairly good intention?
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Bikini Mod
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Please forgive me for being blunt... the answer is plain as the nose on your face simply by the way you phrased the question.
"It is because he actually thinks that you are dumb enough to take him back so he can keep doing it."
Prove him wrong for heavens sake.
"It is because he actually thinks that you are dumb enough to take him back so he can keep doing it."
Prove him wrong for heavens sake.
nokaoibeachgirl
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I totally disagree. It totally depends on the situation...cheaters can change, people do make mistakes!!! And some never do, it's a leap of faith on your part as to whether you feel that he can earn your trust back.
Hard-Bitten
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I don't really necessarily 'blame' him for cheating on me because I was never around and quite frankly I wasn't the ' good girlfriend' towards him either.. I was never around or made avaliable to him.
He knows this but why does he still presisting this situation. I do agree that people do change but why would take someone back if the person wasn't good towards you in the first place.?
He knows this but why does he still presisting this situation. I do agree that people do change but why would take someone back if the person wasn't good towards you in the first place.?
Not being around or available does NOT make it okay to cheat.
A grown-up would TALK about the situation - and try to remedy it - not go out and cheat. Adults discuss a situation.
A grown-up would TALK about the situation - and try to remedy it - not go out and cheat. Adults discuss a situation.
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heatherrae
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Too many fish in the sea to take back a cheater.
make him work for it. beg for it, and take full advantage of the situation for a while. make him prove to you that he's sincere in making up for what he did. set some ground rules, what you expect, and what is acceptable and not acceptable (re: what makes you uncomfortable/nervous...), etc. If he's truely sorry for what he did and wants to make good on his fuck-up, then he'll bend over backwards to make you happy.
nokaoibeachgirl
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Sometimes people aren't so good to us at the start for whatever reasons, and sometimes only after truly screwing up and learning what they stand to lose do they change. I agree with Daisy however, there is no excuse he should have talked to you about your unavailablity. I guess right now you guys hve a lot to talk about and you should definitely milk the situation in the meantime! Good luck with whatever you decide to do.
Hard-Bitten
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nokaoibeachgirl said:
I have thought about this scenario as well. I do still keep in touch with him, it weird when we are dating I would rarely talk to him but since we broken up we talk more then we use to :s
He did not talk to me about my unavaliablity issues because he was being patient with me about my finianical situation .he didn't want to bothersome.
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