Have you ever been judged negatively because of your size?

[IronLion]

yes.....in fact, i went golfing saturday and the guy i golfed with said i sucked cause i was muscle bound....lol

lol....i am about an 8 handicap, if I play more than once a week i get pretty close to scratch golf....I wish this guy would play me for money...lol


i guess being bigger has effected my swing but I have just learned to work around it, I am still flexable and still have plenty of snap so about the only thing that has gotten hard is to find shafts that can handle my clubhead velocity

 

[tuc biscuit]

Casavant recently said that he finds that some people believe that body mass and intellegence are inversely correlated, I also find a lot of people that believe this. Yet for every situation I have been treated badly in there will have been ten situations where I was treated much better because of my size. I tend to find that people are a lot less dismissive of you (whether it be in the workplace or not) and your ideas when you are of a certain breadth.
Papucho was saying about people in bars trying to rile you; I found at a certain size of about 175-225# people will try and score points with their buddies of of you, but then when you are hitting 275-350 people leave you the fuck alone again.
Lastly I totally agree with Ironlion aout the golf thing, the only thing that changes as you get bigger is the amount of funny looks and double takes that you get.

 

[JOKER47]

Someday I hope to be big enough that this happens......

 

[makedah]

I am graduating college in December with a degree in marketing and many people including my parents are telling to get smaller because people will not want to hire because I am big. I am not freakish big, but still bigger then most people. Non the less, I am wondering if people have experienced this in professional fields or in life in general. I must admit that I myself have been guilty of stereotyping large people as being dumb meatheads only to find out that they are doctors or something like that. This is just something that I have had on my mind for a while and just wanted to see what other people have experienced.

I knew a biochemistry postdoctoral researcher who called himself "Dr. Meathead" because people would assume that because he was built, he was a dumbass. And he wasn't freakishly big, either. Just more a lot more buff than the average guy.

In fields like marketing, your image can be very important. If I were you, I would see what reactions I got from firms before I counted myself out. You could be an asset to some firms, depending on the vibe there and who their clients are. Also, you can try to fend off any intimidation you think they might feel by doing all you can to present yourself as an intelligent and gentle person.

 

[RusPA81]

Re: Re: Have you ever been judged negatively because of your size?

I knew a biochemistry postdoctoral researcher who called himself "Dr. Meathead" because people would assume that because he was built, he was a dumbass. And he wasn't freakishly big, either. Just more a lot more buff than the average guy.

In fields like marketing, your image can be very important. If I were you, I would see what reactions I got from firms before I counted myself out. You could be an asset to some firms, depending on the vibe there and who their clients are. Also, you can try to fend off any intimidation you think they might feel by doing all you can to present yourself as an intelligent and gentle person.

Thanks for the advice. I think I will do that. I did manage to get an intership this summer, so things are bad yet.

 

[makedah]

Go for it Rus!

One more thing: You may want to see if you can get a brief chat with someone in the athletic director's office of a local/nearby college. They can tell you about the non-sports post-college careers of their athletes and maybe give you some advice about this very topic. I had a student who was a lineman for our football team (Big 10 university). He was HYUGE! and just as sweet as he could be. He wanted a career in marketing. However, I haven't seen him since that class so I don't know how things panned out for him.

Good luck!

 

[JollyRogers]

75 more pounds to go ..lol

 

[Toozee]

ok then....moving on

I remeber seeing studies that show taller, better looking (and this includes body) people usually do better in business and get promoted more often. i mean if you were going to hire someone and the two candidates had similar resumes and or experience wouldn't you pick the one who was more physically presentable (provided they both had decent personalities).

I remember seeing this study as well. A healthier person presents attention do detail and shows off your work ethic.
So actually you may do better than the average "donut eating" office worker.

 

[bigstve12]

people say i look like a dumd jock...they are usually surprised when i tell them i dont even play any sports. I dunno though, im in school to be a chiropractor, and if people continue to judge my intelligence based on my size....i will go bankrupt right out of school....so im a little worried.

 

[Exodus]

my life has presented this........ people as a general are quite ignorant......... so i could either try to live my life and cater to it, or have it cater to me. ie....... the world will not lay down and change for me. but people will tolorate me, get use to me, like me, love me, or hate me. but i could live life for someone else.

what i do in the gym, its not something i do, its part of who i am. i couldnt just throw that away for some bonus........... that may be silly, but i wouldnt ask you to give up something you love for a bonus or a job, so i dont expect people expect me too either. if they do, then i would look for another job. thats just me.

i hope nobody does this too you though Rus..... i just makes me loose more faith in people.............. aint that a shame.


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