guys.... how important is a girl's past to you?

[Christopher X]

What's all this talk about virgins? How old is everyone here? Last time I slept with a virgin I was 17. I don't think they've been on my radar screen recently.

Much more important that the number of partners, it seems to me, is how she has treated her partners in the past and whether she has been faithful when in a supposedly committed relationship.

 

[KillahBee]

What's all this talk about virgins? How old is everyone here? Last time I slept with a virgin I was 17. I don't think they've been on my radar screen recently.

Much more important that the number of partners, it seems to me, is how she has treated her partners in the past and whether she has been faithful when in a supposedly committed relationship.

bro- I recently ended some sort of a "relationship" with what I believe to be the last 24-year-old hot, socially-functioning, VIRGIN! I didn't believe it at the time. It was cool, but the sex wasn't that great. However, now I am sleeping with a girl who has 2 kids and is a FREAK in the sack. It sucks b/c I am the type of person that judges you on your past performance- it made you who you are today- and I know she has slept with at least one other guy at our work, and I know she has really been into guys in the past for the first few months, but then ended up hating them.

 

[Christopher X]

... I know she has slept with at least one other guy at our work, and I know she has really been into guys in the past for the first few months, but then ended up hating them.

All you can do is enjoy it while it lasts! What's the alternative - end it now: and what would be the point of that at this stage?

 

[KillahBee]

All you can do is enjoy it while it lasts! What's the alternative - end it now: and what would be the point of that at this stage?

I hear ya, bro!

 

[Deleted member 33117]

I agree with the case by case thing, but the scary thing about a virgin or less experienced chick is that one day THEY WILL wonder. Chicks talk and all you need is all of her friends sitting around talking about shit their guy does and it could be something you don't, she'll wonder what it would be like to be with another dude. Then the former sluts may have a relapse and want to get gang banged again, remeber its like AA there is always a relapse in every recovery.

Yep, I've known girls like that. They have little experience, and even though they are in a relationship with someone they love, they wonder what it would be like with another man, and how good their man ranks up. Alot of them cheat just to find out.

As far as her past, if boils down to how she feels about you now. If she loves you and will stay faithful, it is not a big deal if she had alot of partners in the past. It means she like sex, has a strong libido, and probably has some decent skills by this point. It all boils down to who she is now. Just my 2 cc's.

 

[Nihilist]

as anyone who pays attention to my signature knows, im not a big believer in the greater good of humanity.

as such, if you ask her about how many ppl shes ran through her gash, which i dont, shell never tell you honestly. if what she tells you is a relativly large number, like 10-20, your looking at a fucking porn star.

this is saying you want something long term with her, which is IMO equally as ignorant as asking for her magic number.

 

[joltman]

Unless her past will get in the way of you future I think its ok.

I would be more scared by the latter.

I had have both kinds and I tell you the one with no experience is the worst. At least what I know of.

what if she was a freak and now she wants to settle down... lets say she had sex with 15 guys before she met you. but she will be totaly faithful from now on.... ? do you care?

On the same token... I have been with my lady since she was young (teens) I have been the only man she has ever been intimate/in love/everything with. all she knows is me and swears I'm all she ever wants to know..... should it worry me that her lack of being "out in the world" will inspire her to want to experience and get wild later on??

 

[shredawg]

I think the age of the person is very important, I know a lot of chicks that went a little crazy during HS and collage just like us guys did. I wouldn’t judge a person on what they did when there young. Now if they are in the middle of their wild stage you may have a problem lol.

I have been married for years now and my view on cheating is this. If I did something to mess up the marriage then I would feel horrible knowing I lost my wife and best friend because I fucked up. If I caught her cheating then I would know the whole thing was a fucken joke to begin with and it wouldn’t care if I ever saw her again. You can’t worry about the shit you can’t control.

 

[drgoodbody]

It's very important to me, as it reflects on a person's (either male or female) underlying character traits. These patterns of behavior are things that I believe are very hard, if not impossible, to change.

JMHO,

DrG

 

[b fold the truth]

It's very important to me, as it reflects on a person's (either male or female) underlying character traits. These patterns of behavior are things that I believe are very hard, if not impossible, to change.

JMHO,

DrG

I agree. Compatability must be present and as I posted before...it often tells a lot about their character, morals, and judgement. Of course...this is just a generalization.

I have dated a few people in the past. 3/4 of them had been with VERY few men and we were VERY compatable and had VERY similar morals. The other 1/4 of them had been with about 10x more men than I had women...and we had LITTLE in common. Our morals were WAY different from each other and so were our lifestyles...

I'm not saying it was her fault...we just weren't compatable.

I still stand by the thought that maybe women who have been with a lot of men aren't screwed up...but that maybe they are screwed up because they have given a small piece of themselves to so many people that they don't have a lot left to give. Sometimes they need to spend some time getting to know who they are again, rediscover themselves, and slow down their life a good bit before they can get a large part of themselves back.

I hope that makes some sense without offending anyone...

B True