Got this piece of advice last night...

[lucidblue]

I think people probably find each other, most likely when you're not looking.

 

[MissJanet79]

I think especially after a "break-up", thinking about another guy to get over the one before isn't a good idea. Rebound guys never work & you'll end up being the one hurt again. Time to think about YOU & make yourself happy... You do not need someone to do that for you. Once you are feeling good again, then they'll still be around & available for your dating pleasure. Just take it easy...one day at a time!

 

[jenscats5]

I think Werd makes a valid point.....after my first marriage ended ( he was manipulative) I realized I had never lived alone...after some therapy, etc...I realized that being alone wasn't too bad and was enjoying it....

It seems that after all that dating was easier, more "productive" and more fun....

 

[lil'tangerine]

I believe that when your not lookin' is when you'll find someone. I think your atitude, the way you carry yourself becomes more appealing when we're not out lookin' for it to fall into our laps. We may think we are not being any different than normal, but there's that sense of confidence or maybe it's something else others pick up on, but just like they say...when your with someone, guys come out of the woodwork and are suddenly interested. I have found this lately since my bf is away, while its flattering and all, it makes me feel good to know I have a good man who loves me and I don't have join the search anymore!

 

[Sassy69]

You definitely have to be happy w/ yourself and equivalently, at a good place in your life. It is an interesting study to see how people react to you relative to how you see yourself. Me personally, I spent many years focusing on my education and have also relocated a lot. This becomes isolating, though I have a very rich "internet life" (e.g. IM, email, etc.) and keep up w/ a lot of my friends from the various places I've lived over the years. I have also had the challenge of working in primarily male-dominated fields, which becomes an issue when you feel like "one of the guys", yet they often don't treat you that way (you become too much "one of the guys" and then they feel that they can toss all the "rules of propriety" when they decide they want to go beyond a friendship... may be confusing to you, but from my standpoint, I get lots of guys I work w/ hitting on me which can f*** up my working relationship with them, or they if they are involved w/ someone, the wife or g/f will get jealous and then I lose both a friend / co-worker AND the opportunity to gain the wife / gf as a friend. Very frustrating. Anyway, still at the end of the day, not just men, but people in general are attracted to people who are happy with themselves.