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MichaelScott
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u need to dump that u dont need that aggravation there are plenty of wominz who like to fukky fukky out there bro
Girlfriend dosent want sex, any suggestions?
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bigrob215
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She may like you for other reasons....maybe status, you have money, you look good by her side, her friends may think its cool that shes dating an older guy....but she might not be sexually into you. sounds to me like she is just using you and is afraid to tell you she sisnt interested. i think you need to move on and find a girl thats is more your age and more mature. like another member said she may have sexual issues in the past too or maybe you are way too BIG for her and it hurts her too much. if she cant talk to you and tell you the truth on what is bothering her you need to break up and move on. the stress and the worry of this unfulfilling relationship will eventually negatively affect other aspects in your life.
Sassy69
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This is an interesting situation -- first mega props to BTS67 -- good overall statements.
But there are other things that have impact here:
1) she's 18 - IMO most women have no sense of themselves or what they want (and the self-confidence to not worry about what they think other people expect from them) until they are well into their late 20s / early 30s.
2) if she did actually have a last relationship that was all about sex & you said you've treated her badly in the past -regardless of drugs - she may have bad associations w/ sex - meaning if that is what her past relationships have consisted of and she is looking for more than just sex (as most women do & are wired for) then she may find sex to be something that indicates the relationship is only about sex, which she may find very empty emotionally and also may make her feel used. Which contributes to her lack of self-confidence & self-respect as a female who is in touch w/ what she wants.
3) Women go often go thru phases of just not wanting sex - sometimes there's just a mental turn off for no apparent reason, sometimes its a really subtle association w/ some part of the whole thing (relationship) that is unfulfilled or is nagging her, then she will be less interested to give up her sense of control of her body -- this is a very confusing point in how men & women "work" -- men are so all about the physical, and that can translate in so many different ways to women and, along w/ where she is mentally w/ herself or her life may be interpreted as something that can only result in her setting up a wall on the physical aspect.
But there are other things that have impact here:
1) she's 18 - IMO most women have no sense of themselves or what they want (and the self-confidence to not worry about what they think other people expect from them) until they are well into their late 20s / early 30s.
2) if she did actually have a last relationship that was all about sex & you said you've treated her badly in the past -regardless of drugs - she may have bad associations w/ sex - meaning if that is what her past relationships have consisted of and she is looking for more than just sex (as most women do & are wired for) then she may find sex to be something that indicates the relationship is only about sex, which she may find very empty emotionally and also may make her feel used. Which contributes to her lack of self-confidence & self-respect as a female who is in touch w/ what she wants.
3) Women go often go thru phases of just not wanting sex - sometimes there's just a mental turn off for no apparent reason, sometimes its a really subtle association w/ some part of the whole thing (relationship) that is unfulfilled or is nagging her, then she will be less interested to give up her sense of control of her body -- this is a very confusing point in how men & women "work" -- men are so all about the physical, and that can translate in so many different ways to women and, along w/ where she is mentally w/ herself or her life may be interpreted as something that can only result in her setting up a wall on the physical aspect.
The highlighted sentence is key here.omega529 said:
If she's tight, but wet and still in pain, you guys are not physically compatible.
If she's tight and dry, she has a problem, either mental or physical.
Trust me on this, pain down there makes it impossible to enjoy sex. Feels like being skinned alive from the inside out.
needtogetaas
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what about a lot of lubemusclemom said:
A gallon of Astroglide won't fix lack of enthusiasmneedtogetaas said:what about a lot of lube
If she was INTO him/sex and hurting, I'm betting she'd be beating the doctor's door down trying to find an answer.
It's been my observation than when a woman has a sex problem and it's a legitimate physical problem, they'll say something to the effect of "I don't know what's wrong with me," or "something's wrong." HOWEVER, when it's psychological, they are rarely motivated to do anything to fix it and will do anything except say "I need to talk to someone and get some help," in fact they usually resent the implication that something ain't right. If they're OVERsexed, they tell the guy there's something wrong with HIM for not screwing their brains out 24/7. If they're UNDERsexed, again, it's the guys fault, this time for wanting it TOO much.
There's a very GOOD reason for this. When a woman has a sex problem 90% of the time it's because she's had a negative sexual experience with a man previously, she may have even forgotten or repressed the incident, but subconsciously, she transfers her sexual problems to her current relationship. In a sense, it is a "man's" fault she has a problem ... just not the man she's involved with.
needtogetaas
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witch is why there so dumb.lolmusclemom said:A gallon of Astroglide won't fix lack of enthusiasm
If she was INTO him/sex and hurting, I'm betting she'd be beating the doctor's door down trying to find an answer.
It's been my observation than when a woman has a sex problem and it's a legitimate physical problem, they'll say something to the effect of "I don't know what's wrong with me," or "something's wrong." HOWEVER, when it's psychological, they are rarely motivated to do anything to fix it and will do anything except say "I need to talk to someone and get some help," in fact they usually resent the implication that something ain't right. If they're OVERsexed, they tell the guy there's something wrong with HIM for not screwing their brains out 24/7. If they're UNDERsexed, again, it's the guys fault, this time for wanting it TOO much.
There's a very GOOD reason for this. When a woman has a sex problem 90% of the time it's because she's had a negative sexual experience with a man previously, she may have even forgotten or repressed the incident, but subconsciously, she transfers her sexual problems to her current relationship. In a sense, it is a "man's" fault she has a problem ... just not the man she's involved with.
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