girl w/ no sex drive... help please

[PlayaPimp]

So i've been talking to this girl for about 6 weeks now, I am a personal trainer and in pretty damn good shape, she says she has never dated anyone who is in as good as shape as myself. I also am consistently being told that i am a "hot" guy.... really not trying to be arrogant, just trying to see if i can really get some help. I love to please ladies, especially in the bedroom and I really need help with this.(not being cocky, just hoping someone can help). So she says she is extremely physically attracted to me but very self concious and nervous when having sex w/ me, we have only had sex once, i was drunk and she was sober. She says she has really low sex drive, she says its not me, but that she has alwyas had low sex drive. She also is not sure if she wants to be with me, She says she has way too many feelings too fast and doesn't wanna be hurt, She totally loves some things about me, and totally hates my temper and "moods" i tend to get in. Is that enough to turn her sex drive down?? She is also on birth control, I dunno if this affects anything. Is she just physically intimidated by me, or is it more emotional... I live to please ladies that i really care about and this is constantly hanging over my head, please someone shed some light on this for me. thanks

 

[Gymgurl]

Well...maybe she is just not that into you since she is making up excuses...but on the other hand...low self drive can be caused by many things like meds, past history, hormones...ect...take it slow with her and see what happens...Just remeber if the drive is low now....just think about in a couple months to a yr,....yikes

 

[pintoca]

I read somewhere that when girls are with guys they perceive to be hotter than them, a problem may arise... seems like girls feel insecure or not appropiate when with a guy who is in better shape...

then again, that would not be the case if your girl has high self esteem, but how to know in only 6 weeks...

she might be thinking "imagine the other girls this guy has been with, I might be the ugliest/fattest whatever"

 

[KillahBee]

lol @ "not trying to be arrogant" when you username is "playapimp"

 

[pintoca]

lol @ Killah doing his yearly BTS round...

 

[KillahBee]

lol @ Killah doing his yearly BTS round...

 

[Colonel Ingus]

My advice is to move on. I know this is a challenge, and you probably think that there must be a way to get her to be a bit more interested in sex, but that probably won't happen. In the end, you'll wind up frustrated and resentful.

Don't ask me how I know this.

 

[aandd]

She should talk to her ob/gyn. Low sex drive in women can be brought on by a number of factors, from hormones to thryroid problems to depression, etc... She needs to rule out a medical reason first. The FDA approved the testosterone patch for women this year (I think it was approved - she needs to check with her dr.). When I read about it, they were saying it increases desire up to 74%.

 

[pintoca]

She should talk to her ob/gyn. Low sex drive in women can be brought on by a number of factors, from hormones to thryroid problems to depression, etc... She needs to rule out a medical reason first. The FDA approved the testosterone patch for women this year (I think it was approved - she needs to check with her dr.). When I read about it, they were saying it increases desire up to 74%.

We gotta get GG one of those patches

 

[PlayaPimp]

lol @ "not trying to be arrogant" when you username is "playapimp"

Well I am cocky, but not trying to be this way in the post, or maybe i am, I dunno, but thanks for the advice so far. By the way, she also told me to give her time to get comfotrable and warm up to me.... not sure what that means???