For the guys over 30

[chesty]

I like that one

 

[ceo]

I'm 29, and i can be aggressive but find need a man to put me in my place .. in bed at least

see...now that's what I mean.

 

[ceo]

Of course, when I am ready I will become the aggressor. How much depends on what she is willing to accept.

So, she calls all the shots then? She tells you how much, when, how high, how far, where, why, etc....?

Not for me. I'm not trading in my pants for a skirt.

 

[chesty]

When I am in the bedroom I read her mood and que from that. In the running of the house I prefer to rule equally, no one has a greater say so than the other. Compromise is the best. Spent too many years fighting and such.

 

[Ulcasterdropout]

Thankfully my man likes me that way

Told you, you wouldn't be single long....

not 50 years ago.. no

Most insecure men want a woman that is not aggressive. Its intimidating to them in alot of ways.

I think people are to quick to use the insecure card to push a position. Just like using immaturity.
Does this mean that guys like short girls, are insecure? No. It means they like what they like. Aggressive women seem less feminine to me. Like tom boys that grew up, got bachelors degrees, and grew a penis and the attitude to go with it. Maybe it's the way I am, was brought up, and where I'm from. I'm crazy old fashion and the world changed around my woods.

 

[chesty]

they can still be quite feminine, I think the degree and such kinda scares a man. not that he is insecure, just that he might be intimidated that he won't perform to her expectations.

 

[Ulcasterdropout]

I need a time machine....

 

[ghettostudmuffin]

When I think of a submissive girl several things come to my mind.

A. I let it be known, and she understands that the only one wearing a pair of balls in the relationship is me and that's the way it always will be.

B. I don't mind a girl being agressive so long as she knows that I am letting her. Refer to A.

C. She will only be agressive as long as I feel like letting her be agressive. When I grow tired of her trying to be dominant, then I let her know who is the dominant one.

D. I am in control. Not the other way around. I find relationships tend to work better this way for me. If you think I'm wrong then start watching the discovery channel more. The alpha male rules the roost and always maintains the dominant position.

E. Girls tend to say they like to be dominant, when in fact, if they sense they are more dominant than their male partner they quickly put his balls in a vise, then grow bored and dump him for a more dominant male. The only safe way a guy can stop this from happening is to maintain the dominant position at all times. In the end the woman will be happier this way and so will the man.

F. I am not saying that the man dictates or controls everything the girl does. Just that when actually in each other's company the man takes the lead.

Right or wrong, that's how I look at it.

 

[Lumberg]

B. I don't mind a girl being agressive so long as she knows that I am letting her. Refer to A.

C. She will only be agressive as long as I feel like letting her be agressive. When I grow tired of her trying to be dominant, then I let her know who is the dominant one.

E. Girls tend to say they like to be dominant, when in fact, if they sense they are more dominant than their male partner they quickly put his balls in a vise, then grow bored and dump him for a more dominant male. The only safe way a guy can stop this from happening is to maintain the dominant position at all times. In the end the woman will be happier this way and so will the man.

Right or wrong, that's how I look at it.

I like your attitude. I agree with B and C, but it goes the other way too. The woman is also making a choice to let me lead. She chose me just like I chose her, and at any time she can say "see ya." So while it's true I take the lead most of the time, whenever either of us is being dominant, it's only with the permission of the other.

With E, I tend to disagree. I see lots of relatively meek males with very vivacious females. I think this tends to happen a lot with very smart/intellectual people. And I am talking about strong, lasting marriages. In many cases a marriage of a relatively meek male and a dominant female can work.

Finally, I like your last line. That's the way you approach life and it works for you. In the end that's all that matters.

 

[Ulcasterdropout]

In many cases a marriage of a relatively meek male and a dominant female can work.

Gotta suck to be that guy...