Fiance and other women...need help..

[Firehawk536]

Hey all,
My fiance knows about this and would like for me to ask this for her and myself. She is bi-couious and has been drawn to women for a long time. We have the same taste in women. She points out hot women before I even get the chance. She would also say "I would love to fuck her!!!" Of course you could just imangine the smile on my face. I told her that if that is what she wants to try then so be it (like I am going to argue).
Well, she is very shy when other women hit on her at any club we go to. Of course, I would help, but she doesn't need it. How would she go about getting the courage to do it. I told her that I would just watch. Engage in it when I was invited. I don't want to hinder her fanticies. Any suggestions from you women that have been there and done that?

 

[*MissFit*]

u r relationship will never be the same..

I havent ever done it nor would i consider it but i have heard of this happening.. once u share your partner things r different.. amke sure the two of you have seriously considered it before you take this chance

 

[nycgirl]

I totally disagree. If you don't allow insecurities to get in the way, be completely honest with what both parties can and cannot handle it can actually enhance your sex life.

You are fully aware your girlfriend is bi and you accept her. You want to make her happy & satisfy her fantasies. Nothing wrong with that, at all. That said, don't rush her.

Has she ever been to a strip club? Does she have any interest in going? Would she be open to lap dances? That maybe the easiest way to get her over her shyness.Usually the girls are really friendly to women that are there. When she has her first experience, she will want more and will want to share it with you.

Get her some lap dances in a private room. Leave her and the girl alone for awhile. She may finally have the experience she has always wanted.

 

[Firehawk536]

Yes we have considered it for over a year. We have been talking more and more about it. She has inciated the conversation. But, yes, I used to be a bouncer in a strip club in Indy. This was before she lost over 35lbs.
She was intreaged but very hesitant. This was when we first started dating. I just might have to take her back. I can get in free since I used to work there.

Also, any guys out there that have gone through this? Pros and cons.

 

[Megalomaniac]

Damn it I was hoping there was an extra woman involved and I was ready to give my number.

 

[nycgirl]

Yes we have considered it for over a year. We have been talking more and more about it. She has inciated the conversation. But, yes, I used to be a bouncer in a strip club in Indy. This was before she lost over 35lbs.
She was intreaged but very hesitant. This was when we first started dating. I just might have to take her back. I can get in free since I used to work there.
Also, any guys out there that have gone through this? Pros and cons.

The increase in confidence from the weightloss will help as well. Try taking her back there.

 

[david_diesel]

Honesty and trust are key in this type of relationship. My wife is bi and has been with other girls before and since we've been together. I know she is in love with me and that she's not going anywhere. I guess this is why it doesn't bother me. Last week she came home from being out with her friends and she whispered as she crawled into bed..."I met a girl tonite". As for the act of sex with two girls...make both girls feel comfortable but always treat your girl as number 1.

 

[nycgirl]

Honesty and trust are key in this type of relationship. My wife is bi and has been with other girls before and since we've been together. I know she is in love with me and that she's not going anywhere. I guess this is why it doesn't bother me.

Exactly. Communication is very important. If there is something that you or her can't handle then discuss that and lay down some boundaries. If you truly respect, care & love each other . . . those boundaries won't be crossed at all.

 

[Firehawk536]

Thanks all,
More inquires are welcome. She also has the usual 2 guys and her. I have been slowly warming up to it as well. I know SHE LOVES ME without a doubt. I asked my best friend who had done this on more than once with his woman.
He told me to look at it like "it is only her body not her heart. You have to take out your emotions or it will not work." It took him time but their relationship is still going strong. He is straight and she is bi.
Ok, for most of us men that is nonsince but I want her to have it all before we get married. Explore all opitions and we have seriously discussed everything but I am still hung up (no pun intended) on this area.
Like I said before, other women could pose a problem but so could the other.
She could fall in love with a woman just as easily as another man. It could happen. This is my problem of course.

Guys any help here is welcome also. Ladies, how did your man get comfertable with it?

 

[nycgirl]

She's comfortable with two men. But shy about being with another woman. That's very interesting. Not judging at her, at all. Just surprised.

I disagree with the taking out your emotions. It can be done, I guess if that works for some couples. But, I think if both parties are secure & care for each other, they will be there. You love her and want to see her pleased. Look at it that way. If this is about fantasies & enhancing your sex life as a couple, I doubt she will fall for another woman.

Are there things you are not comfortable with? Does she know?

I could not be with another man. Never. I wouldn't do anything without my mate being there.