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Do you think kids should be allowed to choose their own friends?
- Thread starter cindylou
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I don't recall anyone ever picking my friends for me. If i had friends my parents were suspicious of, they might tell me that but they never told me i wasn't allowed to be friends with anyone.
Likewise, my son has always chosen his own friends. Now, there have been one or two that i have said can't spend the night bc they're too hyper/obnoxious. When he gets to HS, i'll keep an eye on who he is hanging out with. If i really think someone is a bad influence or a bad kud, i'll tell him what i think. The kid would have to be up to no good/criminal/dangerous/using drugs for me to ban him as a friend. I guess we'll see how it all pans out
Likewise, my son has always chosen his own friends. Now, there have been one or two that i have said can't spend the night bc they're too hyper/obnoxious. When he gets to HS, i'll keep an eye on who he is hanging out with. If i really think someone is a bad influence or a bad kud, i'll tell him what i think. The kid would have to be up to no good/criminal/dangerous/using drugs for me to ban him as a friend. I guess we'll see how it all pans out
My best friends mom banned her from being friends with me in 8th grade. We stayed friends secretly for like a year. Had a falling out. Became friends again in college and now were Besties again.
That was ridiculous and for a ridiculous reason
I don't think parents should have a say unless a friendship actually becomes harmful.
That was ridiculous and for a ridiculous reason
I don't think parents should have a say unless a friendship actually becomes harmful.
Mine did, or tried. I never picked friends that were good enough for my father. When I was picking up Abby yesterday my Dad made a comment that kids are not developed enough to make good choices until they are 20 (!) and that parents should have a major role and be able to control who they spend their time around because one bad influence could ruin their lives. I completely disagree, and we kinda got in a small argument over it lol. Just curious if I was the only one that thought that kids and teens should be free to choose who they spend time with outside of a major bad influences, and even then I'm not sure how much control a parent has over it.
That's partly true.
But it doesn't matter because you can't shelter a kid. I think sometimes if you don't let your kid make mistakes early in life, they'll make them later...usually with worse repercussions as an adult. Just my opinion. I don't have kids yet but that's how I think I'll play it.
I agree with you! That being said, I really hope my kid doesn't want to be one of those obnoxious atheists, and I say that not trying to disrespect anyone on the forum, but I think the chances of that are slim. If she turns out to be an atheist at least she would be the tolerant kind I hope.
Religion is so personal I think almost no control over that. Its not really something I worry about too much.
That's exactly what I said. Is it better to make mistakes at 14 or at 30? I say its better at 14, you have more time to recover.
What was the reason that your best friends mom banned her from being friends with you?
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