I stumbled around this as quick foreplay for years and never found a girl or woman that was really interested. I thought it was me. The first time was about 19 and the girl had the biggest bush in the world! I couldn't find anything.
UNTIL I was 40 years old and found a beautiful 21 year old blond from Belgium who LOVED to do and receive. She was orgasmic giving and receiving so my participation and pleasure really increased.