I have a funny story about that actually. I had a play mate who decided one day that she was going to try and top me. When I got to her place, she was in full leather, with VERY high heels and a paddle. She started talking trash about how she was going to spank me etc. I told her I wasn't interested and to put the paddle away.
She kept on talking and demanding and getting closer. Then she made a critical error in judgement. She got close enough for me to reach her while sitting down. The end result was, it took her a couple of days to figure out how to sit down tenderly enough.