Divorced peeps

[mrplunkey]

Damn. I was getting ready to try the MILF's too.

Don't. They're vastly over-rated.

Don't get me wrong either. There are some really nice MILFs, but it's like finding a needle in a haystack.

The train-wreck MILFs usually fall into a few groups:

1) The ones who tell you how sexually great they were to their husbands but still got cheated on. Guess what, they aren't that hot in bed.

2) The ones who spend 90% of conversational time telling you how they're in as good of shape and just as much fun as the young girls.

3) The ones who tell you how they are independent and strong-willed and did so well in the divorce or have such a good career themselves that they can't figure-out why they even want a man.

4) A woman looking for a "father figure" for her child(ren). These are the ones who go on and on about how they don't let their dates meet their children. Here's a hint: It's a test. Unless you profusely express and interest in meeting them very early-on, they'll decide you aren't kid friendly and are "just like the rest".

HTH,

Plunkey out!

 

[blueta2]

I don't have much to add cept to say; bad relationships are hard and starter over is hard, but in a bad r/s the pain never goes away....with starter over, the pain is intense but fades. Weigh the options and follow your gut
I know this is hard (hug)

 

[nangiggles]

Today he managed to interpret me falling asleep for 2 hours as my attempt to irritate him because I rarely fall asleep on Sundays. Yes let's all disregard I just worked night shift and sometimes do get fucking tired...

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[-SD-]

Today he managed to interpret me falling asleep for 2 hours as my attempt to irritate him because I rarely fall asleep on Sundays. Yes let's all disregard I just worked night shift and sometimes do get fucking tired...

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nice life

 

[mrplunkey]

Today he managed to interpret me falling asleep for 2 hours as my attempt to irritate him because I rarely fall asleep on Sundays. Yes let's all disregard I just worked night shift and sometimes do get fucking tired...

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You're in that phase where every little thing either one does irritates the other.

 

[bigbassturd]

You're in that phase where every little thing either one does irritates the other.

like you and redscam??

 

[mrplunkey]

like you and redscam??

That's RedScam the EF Cuckold(TM).

 

[smurf2]

Today he managed to interpret me falling asleep for 2 hours as my attempt to irritate him because I rarely fall asleep on Sundays. Yes let's all disregard I just worked night shift and sometimes do get fucking tired...

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What is so irritating about you sleeping? Your husband sounds like a fucking dick

 

[mistaballoonhands]

I'd call nan falling asleep on a Sunday a perfect weekend

 

[nangiggles]

What is so irritating about you sleeping? Your husband sounds like a fucking dick

He said I usually don't fall asleep on Sundays, that I should have waited until night as usual and I did it purposely just to annoy him... God phorbid its because I have no days off, work a full time job and nights on the weekends as well :/

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[WoodyO]

I was drunk by noon and slept most of the day.

 

[WoodyO]

You're in that phase where every little thing either one does irritates the other.

Looking back, that phase was about the entire 8 years of my marriage. The only good times was when we dated, or when she moved in with me prior to marriage.

 

[smurf2]

He said I usually don't fall asleep on Sundays, that I should have waited until night as usual and I did it purposely just to annoy him... God phorbid its because I have no days off, work a full time job and nights on the weekends as well :/

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Still dont understand why hed be mad about you sleeping. Kick him in the balls for me. I'm furious

 

[miplank]

Nan,

Your husband is a fucking douche bag. Real talk.

 

[nangiggles]

Still dont understand why hed be mad about you sleeping. Kick him in the balls for me. I'm furious

I dont get it either, pretty sure he's just looking for reasons to get pissy

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[wootoom]

All you do is complain about him...this is nothin but your fault if you don't leave. I'm sorry but it's the truth

 

[bigbassturd]

I'm so pissed

 

[miplank]

Shit just got real

 

[wootoom]

Sorry Nan you deserve better

 

[jdynasty]

Conflicts in any relationship are tough and hard to deal with. Hopefully, whatever decision you make, it is one that ultimately makes you happy.

 

[Dial_tone]

Still dont understand why hed be mad about you sleeping. Kick him in the balls for me. I'm furious

If you were really mad you'd be pacing.

 

[freakshow85]

Can't get over his paranoid delusions that you went to sleep with the sole purpose of annoying him. I've been here, and really, you both need to cut ties and never look back. It won't get better and you both have a long life ahead to live. This may seem like your world right now, but it's just another pebble along your path.

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[pdaddyII]

Can't get over his paranoid delusions that you went to sleep with the sole purpose of annoying him. I've been here, and really, you both need to cut ties and never look back. It won't get better and you both have a long life ahead to live. This may seem like your world right now, but it's just another pebble along your path.

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Can I Dr Phil?

 

[wootoom]

I think im on my way to Applebees

 

[wootoom]

PS im gonna pound this chick in my sig...jesus christ

 

[billfred]

Amy gets it.

lol... double joke there and I laughed on each account.

 

[billfred]

Look at me Jesus is my copilot!

Jesus take the wheel.

 

[Headholio]

like you and redscam??

LOL they are like a bickering old married couple, eh?

 

[orange2]

If you do divorce, dont date anyone until its over and the papers are signed

 

[zwhit]

If you do divorce, dont date anyone until its over and the papers are signed

if we want your opinion, we'll ask for it

 

[shirlene29]

my divorce to the slightly less scumbag ex took 2 and half years...there wasnt a fucking chance I was just stopping my life until it was final

 

[WoodyO]

My divorce is not final, but I have dated. I'm fairly certain the ex is already getting serious about somebody else too. I don't see anything wrong with going on with your life during the divorce.

 

[cindylou]

If you do divorce, dont date anyone until its over and the papers are signed

why

 

[wootoom]

If you do divorce, dont date anyone until its over and the papers are signed

Oh who the fuck do you think you are now?

 

[WoodyO]

Oh who the fuck do you think you are now?

Pretty sure that's Nan's limp-dicked husband poasting.

 

[wootoom]

Pretty sure that's Nan's limp-dicked husband poasting.

I was thinking that but I thought his name would be

"I'm cheating on her"

 

[bigbassturd]

I started dating other people before we even got married. Fuck waiting on divorce

 

[ceo]

Wtf does a 36 year old say/have in common with someone that is early 20s?

How would he strike up a conversation?

Like this (first 1:15):

 

[ceo]

It's not only the 20 something's you want it's the single or married 18-45 year olds that will fuck anything that moves shortly after starting conversation.

Fixed that for you bro. More realistic now.

 

[mrplunkey]

why

The thinking is three fold:

1) Until you are legally divorced, there are civil (and sometimes even criminal) statues against having "relations" with other people.

2) Everything you do or say during the divorce period is discoverable. Imaging being deposed and being forced under oath to describe the frequency and nature of your sexual experiences with your new partner.

3) A judge has to decide what's best for the children. If someone can't set aside their own desires, the thinking (sometimes) is that they may not be able to always do what's best for the children.

 

[shirlene29]

^^^ that all applies in my state and any attorney worth their salt gets it tossed right the fuck out ASAP

 

[bigbassturd]

I like 'em 18-80, blind, crippled or crazy.

 

[AFeedz]

I like 'em 18-80, blind, crippled or crazy.

You trying to bang Strongbow?

 

[bigbassturd]

Lolol!!

 

[mrplunkey]

You trying to bang Strongbow?

I thought that too at first, but he said: "I like 'em 18-80, blind, crippled or crazy."

If he had meant StrongMO, he would have said: "I like 'em 18-80, blind, crippled AND crazy."

Granted it's subtle, but it remains a salient point.

 

[-SD-]

I like to make salient points

 

[smurf2]

Whats the update? Nan, you still married? I hope the fuck not.

 

[nangiggles]

Whats the update? Nan, you still married? I hope the fuck not.

I actually just found out he's asking friends in CR for advise on going back and getting a job, apparently I'm not the only one wanting out... fuck...

 

[Headholio]

I actually just found out he's asking friends in CR for advise on going back and getting a job, apparently I'm not the only one wanting out... fuck...

Maybe he's thinking of taking you with him.

... Or maybe that gives you certainty that it is really over.

 

[nangiggles]

All you do is complain about him...this is nothin but your fault if you don't leave. I'm sorry but it's the truth

I know, no one is making me stay, I've chosen to, it's not all bad but I think lately it's not as good as it should be, I'm still thinking about what to do, wanted some input of peeps who have divorced to see what they think and how they decided when it happened to them.

@headholio, nope it said it was just him returning.

 

[smurf2]

Good, then you can leave and not feel guilty

 

[nangiggles]

I'm gonna wait a couple of days for things to simmer down and then I'll ask him if he wants to go back and how we should sell the house.

Oddly enough an hour ago he was mentioning joining the gym and soe other future things...

 

[zwhit]

I'm gonna wait a couple of days for things to simmer down and then I'll ask him if he wants to go back and how we should sell the house.

Oddly enough an hour ago he was mentioning joining the gym and soe other future things...

why are you going to wait? that's something that should be talked about asap, imo. are you considering moving back with him or is that just the way your post is coming across?

maybe I'm reading too much into this post but the communication seems poor between you two.

 

[wootoom]

I'm gonna wait a couple of days for things to simmer down and then I'll ask him if he wants to go back and how we should sell the house.

Oddly enough an hour ago he was mentioning joining the gym and soe other future things...

Don't wait Nan...just leave or it will continue....you're too nice I understand how you feel

 

[zwhit]

you're putting it off because it's hard. I won't tell you to leave but you gotta put your passive nature aside and talk to him

 

[-SD-]

Fuck this makes me so fucking mad im pacing so hard

 

[Headholio]

Nothing wrong with thinking for a day or two. Big decisions require serious thought.

 

[nangiggles]

why are you going to wait? that's something that should be talked about asap, imo. are you considering moving back with him or is that just the way your post is coming across?

maybe I'm reading too much into this post but the communication seems poor between you two.

We're not separated bro, I want to talk to my therapist before I do something, just to make sure I'm not being rash, also we just got some paperwork from his residency and our marriage that I need to address, leaving him would look really bad right now that they are challenging our marriage... what a fucking mess.

 

[miplank]

If he wants to go back to cr why does it matter if they're challenging it?

 

[miplank]

They pry know he's geigh and that's why they're challenging it.

 

[zwhit]

We're not separated bro, I want to talk to my therapist before I do something, just to make sure I'm not being rash, also we just got some paperwork from his residency and our marriage that I need to address, leaving him would look really bad right now that they are challenging our marriage... what a fucking mess.

I mean the fact that he's thinking about moving back to Costa Rica without you should be talked about sooner rather than later. if it were me, I'd have to know what that's about

 

[zwhit]

If you can't talk to your husband tell him to shut his fucking mouth and kick rocks back to Costa fucking Rica.

damn, I'm mad now.

 

[nangiggles]

If he wants to go back to cr why does it matter if they're challenging it?

Well it would look pretty bad if exactly when immigration tells us that our marriage doesnt look legit we decide to separate, it almost seems like we'd be admiting it was a sham and it hasn't been, not sure if that can get us in trouble

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[nangiggles]

I mean the fact that he's thinking about moving back to Costa Rica without you should be talked about sooner rather than later. if it were me, I'd have to know what that's about

Well I'm here talking about divorce too, talking about it helps me vent and try to get my head clear, maybe he's doing the same, maybe not, he seems to be toying with the idea, doesn't seem to have a concrete plan... Yet...

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[WoodyO]

I call dibs on Nan when she's single again.

 

[nangiggles]

I just casually invited to take a trip alone to CR... he declined, said they're understaffed at work -.-' to make matters great mom is staying with us for about a week

 

[EnderJE]

e-hugs, Nan.

 

[shirlene29]

group e-hug

I'm sorry you're having to sort this all out but I think you'll be better off when you do regardless of the outcome

 

[-SD-]

group e-hug

I'm sorry you're having to sort this all out but I think you'll be better off when you do regardless of the outcome

*irregardless

 

[wootoom]

*pure dirt*

 

[Dial_tone]

If you can't talk to your husband tell him to shut his fucking mouth and kick rocks back to Costa fucking Rica.

damn, I'm mad now.

Let's do some pacing...dueling treadmills right now, lehgo!

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[nangiggles]

group e-hug

I'm sorry you're having to sort this all out but I think you'll be better off when you do regardless of the outcome

It's been the most confused days I've ever had, his sister got engaged today and he's talking about us going to her wedding and stuff, maybe he was just venting before, maybe I'm overreacting, maybe not... I can't be sure so I'm still thinking it all through, I might mention selling the house to gauge his reaction

Nowadays people are so rash to just bolt on marriages, as many of you mentioned we have no kids, but to me that's actually harder, it means we have been together because we want to not because we had to. He has his bad traits but then again so do I. Gotta give it careful thought...

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[nangiggles]

I call dibs on Nan when she's single again.

I don't think I've ever even seen you before
There's a bunch of bros I'd like to hit up in here if I were single

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[-SD-]

I don't think I've ever even seen you before
There's a bunch of bros I'd like to hit up in here if I were single

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Thanks i feel the same way

 

[nangiggles]

Thanks i feel the same way

married bros wouldn't get a visit from the giggles fairy

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[pdaddyII]

Fuck what a cawk tease

 

[jdynasty]

lolololol

 

[WoodyO]

I don't think I've ever even seen you before
There's a bunch of bros I'd like to hit up in here if I were single

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Give me your #. I'll text you a cawk pic since I know that's all you care about.

 

[ceo]

Give me your #. I'll text you a cawk pic since I know that's all you care about.

sweet! number en route! YGPM!

 

[shirlene29]

wtf, you have my fucking number and I've never gotten a cock pic...so uncool

 

[zwhit]

It's been the most confused days I've ever had, his sister got engaged today and he's talking about us going to her wedding and stuff, maybe he was just venting before, maybe I'm overreacting, maybe not... I can't be sure so I'm still thinking it all through, I might mention selling the house to gauge his reaction

Nowadays people are so rash to just bolt on marriages, as many of you mentioned we have no kids, but to me that's actually harder, it means we have been together because we want to not because we had to. He has his bad traits but then again so do I. Gotta give it careful thought...

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why don't you ask him how he feels, directly? instead of asking him about selling the house and trying to figure out how he feels from his reaction?

I'd probably be a dick too if my wife was always trying to read my mind instead of just asking me what she wants to know.

 

[shirlene29]

shes not asking because shes afraid of the answer...no matter what he answers

I get it. It isn't productive but I get it.

 

[billfred]

*irregardless

lolz

 

[WoodyO]

wtf, you have my fucking number and I've never gotten a cock pic...so uncool

I can't send you one since your man snoops through your phone

 

[ceo]

cawk pic received. Thanks Woody!

Will be fappin soon

 

[orange2]

No i am not her husband, i just got involved with a girl going thru a divorce with young kids and an ex that is making everything as hard as possible and its been difficult. When we first met the divorce was supposed to be final in 3 months, well her idiot lawyer has a friend die 5 days before the court date so he cancelled court. 8 months later was as soon as it could be scheduled again, its been hell on her and it just has been difficult. The lawyer was 60 yrs old, old people die, he fucked up cancelling it for her.

 

[wootoom]

Cool story

 

[-SD-]

why the fuck would you get involved with a woman going through a divorce with kids

fucking noobstick, the poontang aint that fucking good

 

[jnevin]

No i am not her husband, i just got involved with a girl going thru a divorce with young kids and an ex that is making everything as hard as possible and its been difficult. When we first met the divorce was supposed to be final in 3 months, well her idiot lawyer has a friend die 5 days before the court date so he cancelled court. 8 months later was as soon as it could be scheduled again, its been hell on her and it just has been difficult. The lawyer was 60 yrs old, old people die, he fucked up cancelling it for her.

You must be one needy ass bish to jump into that situation.

 

[jnevin]

You must be one needy ass bish to jump into that situation.

No offense to bino, of course.

 

[smurf2]

No i am not her husband, i just got involved with a girl going thru a divorce with young kids and an ex that is making everything as hard as possible and its been difficult. When we first met the divorce was supposed to be final in 3 months, well her idiot lawyer has a friend die 5 days before the court date so he cancelled court. 8 months later was as soon as it could be scheduled again, its been hell on her and it just has been difficult. The lawyer was 60 yrs old, old people die, he fucked up cancelling it for her.

lol @ your gullible ass

 

[jdynasty]

lol @ your gullible ass

be nice, lol.

 

[nangiggles]

why don't you ask him how he feels, directly? instead of asking him about selling the house and trying to figure out how he feels from his reaction?

I'd probably be a dick too if my wife was always trying to read my mind instead of just asking me what she wants to know.

Actually I did, decided it was riiculous to suggest the house thing...

UPDATE:
Today his Dr. Tolf him his blood work showed T levels were 2600(so in a couple of months he went from 150 to 400s to 2600 ), he told me that explained why he's been in a bad mood lately(he admitting to being a bitch lately) .

On our way home from the dog park I asked him what the plan was since we clearly cant stand eachother anymore, he was clearly shocked and caught off guard but he was calm and non combative, pretty honest actually, said that he thought the T affected a bit but that he feels like I just dont give a fuck about his opinion on some things that I say or do, then mentioned how much it bothers him that I find the need to negate his right to be upset about something, to elaborate, usually he misunderstands shit so I try to explain my true intentions behind things, MY problem is that if I feel he doesnt believe I'll fucking go on and on on it and of course I get annoying, seems he wants me to stop that and just let him feel how he wants to feel, he then mentioned I'm a bit too mean because I contantly acuse him of being exagerated and dramatic for blowing things out of proportion (which i do, but he does get dramatic )

So he pretty much he asked me what my deal was and I told him I have no fucking deal, I rarely get mad, I've just been dodging his bitch fits (I didnt word it like that of course )

He also explained why he thought me falling asleep was mean, he did have a good point in the sense that he cleaned the pool and deck all weekend and since the weather was kinda shitty I just fell asleep and didnt follow through with our visitors to see if they were coming or not, I also didnt sleep the night before despite knowing we might have visits so I could have prevented falling asleep by having more discipline and sleeping the day before, specially knowing it was important to him.

He was right about some things I was right about others, let's see how the next couple of days go...

No offense to bino, of course.

Ohhh snap

 

[orange2]

How was i gullable? If you dont think dating a girl going thru a divorce is hard give it a try. Not going into anymore details but give it some thought before you jump into it.

 

[jnevin]

How was i gullable? If you dont think dating a girl going thru a divorce is hard give it a try. Not going into anymore details but give it some thought before you jump into it.

http://images.wikia.com/icarly/images/0/0e/Forever_Alone.png

 

[WoodyO]

Actually I did, decided it was riiculous to suggest the house thing...

UPDATE:
Today his Dr. Tolf him his blood work showed T levels were 2600(so in a couple of months he went from 150 to 400s to 2600 ), he told me that explained why he's been in a bad mood lately(he admitting to being a bitch lately) .

On our way home from the dog park I asked him what the plan was since we clearly cant stand eachother anymore, he was clearly shocked and caught off guard but he was calm and non combative, pretty honest actually, said that he thought the T affected a bit but that he feels like I just dont give a fuck about his opinion on some things that I say or do, then mentioned how much it bothers him that I find the need to negate his right to be upset about something, to elaborate, usually he misunderstands shit so I try to explain my true intentions behind things, MY problem is that if I feel he doesnt believe I'll fucking go on and on on it and of course I get annoying, seems he wants me to stop that and just let him feel how he wants to feel, he then mentioned I'm a bit too mean because I contantly acuse him of being exagerated and dramatic for blowing things out of proportion (which i do, but he does get dramatic )

So he pretty much he asked me what my deal was and I told him I have no fucking deal, I rarely get mad, I've just been dodging his bitch fits (I didnt word it like that of course )

He also explained why he thought me falling asleep was mean, he did have a good point in the sense that he cleaned the pool and deck all weekend and since the weather was kinda shitty I just fell asleep and didnt follow through with our visitors to see if they were coming or not, I also didnt sleep the night before despite knowing we might have visits so I could have prevented falling asleep by having more discipline and sleeping the day before, specially knowing it was important to him.

He was right about some things I was right about others, let's see how the next couple of days go...


Ohhh snap

So the source of his limp dick is your constant nagging?

 

[jnevin]

So the source of his limp dick is your constant nagging?

It's the circle of life.

 

[ceo]

see what kind of fucking clarity can come about just by simply communicating without bitching?

 

[mrplunkey]

Actually I did, decided it was riiculous to suggest the house thing...

UPDATE:
Today his Dr. Tolf him his blood work showed T levels were 2600(so in a couple of months he went from 150 to 400s to 2600 ), he told me that explained why he's been in a bad mood lately(he admitting to being a bitch lately) .

On our way home from the dog park I asked him what the plan was since we clearly cant stand eachother anymore, he was clearly shocked and caught off guard but he was calm and non combative, pretty honest actually, said that he thought the T affected a bit but that he feels like I just dont give a fuck about his opinion on some things that I say or do, then mentioned how much it bothers him that I find the need to negate his right to be upset about something, to elaborate, usually he misunderstands shit so I try to explain my true intentions behind things, MY problem is that if I feel he doesnt believe I'll fucking go on and on on it and of course I get annoying, seems he wants me to stop that and just let him feel how he wants to feel, he then mentioned I'm a bit too mean because I contantly acuse him of being exagerated and dramatic for blowing things out of proportion (which i do, but he does get dramatic )

So he pretty much he asked me what my deal was and I told him I have no fucking deal, I rarely get mad, I've just been dodging his bitch fits (I didnt word it like that of course )

He also explained why he thought me falling asleep was mean, he did have a good point in the sense that he cleaned the pool and deck all weekend and since the weather was kinda shitty I just fell asleep and didnt follow through with our visitors to see if they were coming or not, I also didnt sleep the night before despite knowing we might have visits so I could have prevented falling asleep by having more discipline and sleeping the day before, specially knowing it was important to him.

He was right about some things I was right about others, let's see how the next couple of days go...


Ohhh snap

With T at 2,600 how is he not screwing your brains out 3x per day?

I didn't even think it was possible to have levels that high and not go sexually nuts. I most certainly would.

 

[nangiggles]

With T at 2,600 how is he not screwing your brains out 3x per day?

I didn't even think it was possible to have levels that high and not go sexually nuts. I most certainly would.

Apparently I'm that much of a bitch

It's actually him who's usually nagging me. Apparently a good deal of it was my fault. Thanks for almost divorcing me bitches j/k

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