Dammit Spatts!

[The Red Dragon]

The jealous girlfriend story

It's like when you compliment a woman and they say, "Oh, I didn't have time to do anything with myself today! My hair's just a mess, and all my good clothes were in the wash. Blah, blah blah..."

In my experience, when girls do this it's false modesty

LOL that's actually funny mike.

 

[spatts]

In my experience, when girls do this it's false modesty

Yeah, I call that insecurity.

 

[sk*]

My gf gets jelous over everything. I never even say anything positive to her about any girls, lol. She even gets jelous if someone looks at me or anything remotely similar, I just learn to not let it bother me.

-sk

 

[spatts]

You know, the one time I was rather posessive with a guy (and this was a LONG time ago, I was very young) he left me for another girl. This girl was always upbeat, always smiling, and always having lots of fun. She was a good student too, not fun like ditzy, but genuinely an enjoyable person to be around. I wouldn't have considered her better looking, and she was rather heavy-set too. She had something I didn't at the time...character. I learned alot from that experience. It doesn't matter how good you look, what you're wearing, etc..., if you are a jealous, contemptuous, insecure BIATCH, you're going to find yourself alone. She had the best smile, and it would shine no matter what she was doing or who she was with...I will always remember that about her.

 

[sk*]

I actually like it ithat my girlfriend gets jelous, it shows she cares. Usually the people that don't give a damn are the ones that will leave first, but obsessive can get a bit annoying ...

-sk

 

[spatts]

That hasn't been my experience at all. My experience has been that jealous/posessive = insecure, and insecure = high-maintenance problem. You can show you care and not be jealous at the same time. My husband doesn't oogle over me, and half the time when he sees another hot chic, it's because I pointed her out to him. He thinks that's funny, and he finds that sexier than if I had looked down my nose at her.

Everyone's different though, and different people have different tollerance levels. I like to be alone a lot. I would like to spend more time with my husband, but at LEAST once a day, I want ME TIME. I'm pretty selfish about it, and do my own thing a lot. I'll go shopping, go out to eat, go to a movie, go running, etc. He doesn't take that to mean I don't care. He just knows I'm not very needy. Physically needy maybe...

I digress...

 

[sk*]

That hasn't been my experience at all. My experience has been that jealous/posessive = insecure, and insecure = high-maintenance problem. You can show you care and not be jealous at the same time. My husband doesn't oogle over me, and half the time when he sees another hot chic, it's because I pointed her out to him. He thinks that's funny, and he finds that sexier than if I had looked down my nose at her.

I guess it depends on the person and what they prefer.

From my experience, the girls that were really secure with themselves won't get attached too quickly and usually don't give a damn if we break up or not ... they will just go find another guy or whatever.

I'm kinda happy that my gf is a little shy and not all that secure I guess. I have to admit, it would get annoying if she obsessed over every little thing ... a little bit is kinda cute though, imo.

I think sometimes there is a reason to be jelous, she always tells me that her last boyfriend always looked at every girl that walked by. I know I wouldn't wanna be with a girl that kept checking out other guys every second ...

Also, didn't know you were married. Thought you were in your early 20s?

-sk

 

[sk*]

Everyone's different though, and different people have different tollerance levels. I like to be alone a lot. I would like to spend more time with my husband, but at LEAST once a day, I want ME TIME. I'm pretty selfish about it, and do my own thing a lot. I'll go shopping, go out to eat, go to a movie, go running, etc. He doesn't take that to mean I don't care. He just knows I'm not very needy. Physically needy maybe...

Hmm, I like to have me time too lol. During me time I just work on my programming, work out, or once in a blue moon will watch TV. Everything else I love to do with her.

-sk

 

[spatts]

I didn't mean to put your girl down at all. There's nothing wrong with being shy or clinging to your man, especially if he likes it. It's the "don't look at anyone but me" type of behavior that throws up a flag for me.

I'm late 20's, married 7 years (as of August), one son (3 years old).

 

[sk*]

I didn't mean to put your girl down at all. There's nothing wrong with being shy or clinging to your man, especially if he likes it. It's the "don't look at anyone but me" type of behavior that throws up a flag for me.

I'm late 20's, married 7 years (as of August), one son (3 years old).

I know you didn't mean to put her down lol, I didn't even think of it like that.

I was just putting you down.

























J/K haha, something is wrong with me today lol.

-sk