Seems to me that the answer is simple. If you need clitoral stimulation, then have him suck on your clit. Really, the last time I checked, when going down on a woman most of a man's attention should be paid to the clit. That's how I do it. A little lick of the pussy just because it's fun and tastes good, but when I'm trying to get her off, or even just give her the most pleasure, I pay attention to the clit.