Courtesy fucks piss me off....

[drgoodbody]

Re: Re: Wrong!

I realize that it was not thier failure to understand me - BUT MORE MY FAILURE TO UNDERSTAND ME... AND AN EVEN GREATER FAILURE ON MY PART TO VERBALIZE THIS TO THOSE THAT LOVE ME.

You are sooo right on their babe... I went to my cave and stewed like I sometimes do (she knows I'm a moody fuck, geez, I admit freely to that), and I prolly should have told her what is on my mind. This seemingly simple thing is so god-damn counter-intuitive for me that it hurts my head.

DrG

 

[notoriousQQ]

Maybe I'm mistaken because I skimmed this thread but are you seriously saying the problem is that you had a rough day and your wife wanted to have sex with you in the evening/night and that further upset you? Occassionally I'm tired or have had a long day, and believe you me, if my girl wants to have sex I'm more than happy to grab the lunch pail and put on the hard hat for some overtime. No better way to end a bad day on a good note than some fantastic sex and a toe curling orgasm.

Anyway, why would you assume it was "courtesy" sex as you call it. Maybe she just wanted to get laid, maybe she wanted to share some intimacy with you. And you get bent out of shape and attribute it to gear. Nice.

 

[Bikini Mod]

Re: Re: Re: Wrong!

You are sooo right on their babe... I went to my cave and stewed like I sometimes do (she knows I'm a moody fuck, geez, I admit freely to that), and I prolly should have told her what is on my mind. This seemingly simple thing is so god-damn counter-intuitive for me that it hurts my head.

DrG

Been there, done that. I HATE IT when I get like that. Want to fucking slap myself in the head. And I am not moody, but every now and then I am like a 2 year old; frustrated as hell, jumping up and down and no matter what I get even more pissy.

Take some time off, be by yourself and think... think about what it is that you NEED. Tell your girl, "I am sorry that I am being a TOTAL DICKHEAD - it is just that I DON'T FUCKING KNOW EXACTLY WHAT IT IS THAT CRAWLED UP MY ASS. I just need a little time to straighten my shit out and I will let you know when I figure it. Until then just ignore my sorry ass."



Funny thing, when you actually come out and admit this shit out loud, it usually clicks in your own head and you figure shit out thereafter... or not. BUT FOR HEAVEN'S SAKE DO NOT TURN DOWN THE SEX!!! THERE IS NOTHING LIKE SOME AWESOME ANGRY OR FRUSTRATED SEX!!!

Damn, I need to get laid.

*sniff*

 

[Bikini Mod]

I'm right there with ya on that but I'll gladly do that after the free sex, especiallly since my gf and I haven't fucked in well over a year.
(Think she has any chance of becoming the wife at this rate?)

Not trying to be a wiseass but why is she your girlfriend if you haven't had sex in over a year?

 

[drgoodbody]

Right, right.

Tell your girl, "I am sorry that I am being a TOTAL DICKHEAD - it is just that I DON'T FUCKING KNOW EXACTLY WHAT IT IS THAT CRAWLED UP MY ASS. I just need a little time to straighten my shit out and I will let you know when I figure it. Until then just ignore my sorry ass."

Well Kini, I'll follow your lead on this, but I'm likely not to be quite so self-deprecating when I say it.

Oh, and I know at least one pissed mofo that can help you out if you need some "AWESOME ANGRY OR FRUSTRATED SEX!!! " I'm sure you'd work the wrinkles right out of my forehead (I'm assuming you'd sit on my face of course )

DrG

PS: Yo notoriousQQ, yes 2g/wk of AAS makes my mood swings more dramatic. I don't rage or any such thing, but I am "moody-er" than my usual fucked up self.

 

[Bikini Mod]

Darlin' sitting on a man's face is THE ONLY place for me! LOL

But seriously if you don't tell her this stuff, resentment and hurt will understably build on her part. Don't let something so stupid fuck shit up if you guys have something good.

My bro-in-law can be EXTREMELY moody and my sis can be a REAL BITCH when she wants... (Can you tell how much I love them? BECAUSE I HONESTLY DO!) When they get in thier "moods" things work out best if they just own up to it and deal on their own so that the other doesn't feel like it was something that they did.

The downside to this is if you have a mate who takes shit out on you after a while you don't want to be around them....

My downfall? I get my panties in a bind, getting all fucking scared and clingy when I can't figure shit out. I have learned that when I get like this to just type a long crazy email and when I finally realize the insanity of it all, instead of hitting the SEND button like I used to (God help me) I just hit the DELETE button and call it a night. I got my frustrations and fears out, realized how fucking nuts I REALLY sounded and got over it LOL, and the other person didn't have to suffer through my insanity!

 

[Bikini Mod]

OO, that sucks....

Hope you both find a way out of that one soon.

You have my condolensces.

 

[drgoodbody]

The downside to this is if you have a mate who takes shit out on you after a while you don't want to be around them....

That's what I endeavor not to do --- i.e. don't be an ass and take shit out on the her. I was guilty of this in my 20's, but I learned by losing that you've got to find other outlets - that's what initially lead me to the gym BTW. Today, I guess I sometimes revert to that behavior because I'm so pre-wired and predisposed to do it.... and it's easy, although a thoroughly shitty way to act. Why, oh why are old patterns so fuckin' hard to break??

Alas, bestill me heart....

Darlin' sitting on a man's face is THE ONLY place for me! LOL

Sugar thanks for all the advice and you've certainly earned a permanent invite to dinner with me, where of course you'll be the main dish ... and the appetizer ... and the desert .... and the midnight snack ...and the.... well you get the picture.

DrG - "mellowing, but still disgruntled" (but trying to get gruntled )

 

[Bikini Mod]

Sorry Darlin' but I am all about the angry/frustrated sex!

LOL

 

[drgoodbody]

???

Sorry Darlin' but I am all about the angry/frustrated sex!

Kini, see my last post on page 1? Whaddaya think??

DrG