Confusing Sex Question

[SheDragon]

It dosen't happen in my house. I will admit, most of the the time the wife and my orgasm are timed pretty close together. I'm sometimes a little later. But it has definately been the other way around where I'll go before her(prob. b/c it had been a while) . In that case, I do whatever I have to to get her off. I mean, I love to orgasm, but I think I like to satisfy my baby just as much as me getting off Very important in my book.

yeah see...? why arent there more guys like you around?

 

[jenscats5]

no, i was just giving an example of "what if" it happened the other way around.. my question was why it happens to women all the time and it being "ok" to accept.. =)

Ah ok - so why is it acceptable that women don't regularly orgasm?? Cuz guys sure as hell wouldn't tolerate it.....

Good question!!

 

[SheDragon]

Sometimes stuff doesn't happen like in the romantic novels or porn flicks -- you work w/ what happens -- sometimes the guy just can't get off which is fine as well. I don't need the Big O to call it a fun time. For me the point is to enjoy the other person, make them feel good, not make them or me feel bad because "it" didnt' happen. Too much stress. It is what it is. The large preponderence of women don't get vaginal orgasms and that isn't very apparent if don't pay attention to "reality" -- I don't want my guy to make it his personal crusade to pound me until I O if its not gonna happen. I'll fake it before I'll sit there & get raw after 45 min & a very frustrated guy. There are better ways to explore & have fun & reach O. I'm all about having fun, making it mutually good and very intimate. Otherwise if I just need to get off, there's always Mr. Vibrator. Time spent w/ a SO is critically important to me and if its not fun, its not good. Don't make it somethign you "think" it should be vs. what it is.

Not sure if that's what you are asking, but that's my take on things. Whether or not u "O" does not define your ability to be a partner or if you are "good" or whatever. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. Sex is a part of life and it is impacted by your mood, your energy level, your stress level and and everything else. You just can't decouple it from all that and tie a whole bunch of other "performance stress" to it as well.

I understand that its hard for a woman to climax during intercourse, however theres other ways to please a woman..but what if your man 9 times out of 10 is the only one who cums and doesnt even show concern whether you did..

 

[jenscats5]

I understand that its hard for a woman to climax during intercourse, however theres other ways to please a woman..but what if your man 9 times out of 10 is the only one who cums and doesnt even show concern whether you did..

Well that's fucking rude and he should be beaten with a stick!!

 

[jafo]

Ah ok - so why is it acceptable that women don't regularly orgasm?? Cuz guys sure as hell wouldn't tolerate it.....

Good question!!

if this is the question ..the answer is easy ..most(real) MEN who genuinely care about there partner will do what they need to do to make sure there partner is happy (maybe not the big O but happy)

 

[jafo]

I understand that its hard for a woman to climax during intercourse, however theres other ways to please a woman..but what if your man 9 times out of 10 is the only one who cums and doesnt even show concern whether you did..

you are not with a man ...you are with a boy

 

[Deterass]

Most women only climax thru oral or manual stimulation to the clit.Tell him to lick the kitty!

 

[jenscats5]

Most women only climax thru oral or manual stimulation to the clit.Tell him to lick the kitty!

Some men simply don't "do" that.....

 

[jafo]

I would say the whole experience depends on how well both of you know your own body and if you are comfortable with who you are ..if you can let go in the bed room and your partner can do the same them you will find its not about the O ....its about having fun and enjoying each other

 

[dullboy]

Ah ok - so why is it acceptable that women don't regularly orgasm?? Cuz guys sure as hell wouldn't tolerate it.....

Good question!!

uh, cause you can't get pregnant unless we shoot?


dullboy has a weird mental block where it's difficult for him to finish when he's with a new partner. the funny part is that girls take that shit personally even though they've already wet the bed a few times.