cheeting question

[brickhouse]

I did a horrible thing. I went out last week, got complete shit canned and ended up sleeping with some girl I dont even know. I feel horrible. My friends all cheat on there girlfriend and its like no big deal to them. this is the first time I ever did anything like this to my girl and i am depressed now. its like I dont even ever want to go out again. any advise to help me out

 

[dimitrios]

Did you have fun??? Was it atleast a great peice of ass?? Shit faced, I think you should come up with another excuse. I have never cheated on any of my women I dated, but I would have to say that if you really want to tell her you should, if you don't want to tell her then don't. I guess that really helped you. Do you plan on staying with this girl for awhile? If your not really into her then just don't tell her.

 

[ShadowKnight]

I did a horrible thing. I went out last week, got complete shit canned and ended up sleeping with some girl I dont even know. I feel horrible. My friends all cheat on there girlfriend and its like no big deal to them. this is the first time I ever did anything like this to my girl and i am depressed now. its like I dont even ever want to go out again. any advise to help me out

Do yourself the favor of your moral lifetime. Tell her to her face that you did it. That way, when you see how crushed she really is, you know how bad you really fucked up.
Make sure you go without sleep for a few weeks dwelling on it . . . wondering if she is crying . . . asking yourself if your actions were well worth your new loss.

Then, the next time you feel like cheating on your significant other, remember how shitty you made someone else feel and know that your pain is miniscule in comparison to hers.

The worst thing is
not that you said
what you said;
not that you did
what you did;
not that you failed,
faltered,
or fell short -
the worst thing is
that you hurt someone.

SK

 

[Crazier]

You fucked up huge.

Doesn't sound like you'll be happy with yourself for quite a while.

Why did you do it?

Don't say, 'I was drunk.' As dimitrios said... he's been drunk, I've been drunk... we've all been drunk... but we haven't all cheated... so what is the REAL reason you cheated?

You'll have to be honest with yourself, before you can be honest with any of us.
--

 

[BIGBADBEN]

Dude while this is my first post here, and a little off subject for what I am really here for (getting more results out of my training). I will share something, take it for what it is worth.

If you care about this person, and do not believe she will find out (thats the double edged sword) You meet both these requirements..Do not...once again....Do not ever tell her!

I have been married for 14 years , married @ 18 & 17...well almost one year ago to date she had an affair...tried to comit suicide she felt so bad about it. And with dealing with it for a year now I can HONESTLY say I wish I never knew. there is nothing but pain...will you feel better by telling her...I doubt it..actually it will be worse.

Does my wife feel better by me knowing..I doubt this, she sees the pain in my eyes all the time.

If you have to tell her.....thats what the made death beds for

Best of luck..learn from mistakes

 

[bunnymt]

You fucked up huge.

Doesn't sound like you'll be happy with yourself for quite a while.

Why did you do it?

Don't say, 'I was drunk.' As dimitrios said... he's been drunk, I've been drunk... we've all been drunk... but we haven't all cheated... so what is the REAL reason you cheated?

You'll have to be honest with yourself, before you can be honest with any of us.
--

Agreed 100 percent. You are going to bear the consequences of your actions for a long time after this, depending on whether you stand up and take the heat for what you have done. These things do not go over lightly.
Being drunk is no excuse for cheating. I have been drunk and I always know what I am doing.
Maybe you are not as serious about her as you thought or maybe, like Crazier says, there is something that you are not being honest with yourself about.
Either way, time to do some serious thinking.

good luck.

bunny

 

[farmer2001]

If feel for you amigo..Do like the above posts state and dig deep to find the real reason you did this.. Dont even blame it on the booz.. As far as telling her, personally, I would leave that issue between yourself and the good Lord.

Psalm 141
2 Samuel 11

 

[dimitrios]

If feel for you amigo..Do like the above posts state and dig deep to find the real reason you did this.. Dont even blame it on the booz.. As far as telling her, personally, I would leave that issue between yourself and the good Lord.

Psalm 141
2 Samuel 11

Here is something else from the good lord





http://www.daweedking.com/genesis.html

 

[Longhorn85]

If you care about this person, and do not believe she will find out (thats the double edged sword) You meet both these requirements..Do not...once again....Do not ever tell her!

I agree, nothing to be gained by telling her. But she is not your wife, just your girlfriend. Relax.

 

[rnch]

how far did u go?

in the words of my married best friend/broly/partner in higher acts of foolishness: "lickin' ain't cheatin!"


hope you wrapped the lil' sucker!