are women blind?

[Riker29]

Hey Riker,

How about a crash course, or at least a couple tips for the fellas

Well, I won't get into details here. It takes a while, and it requires that a man be really ready to seriously learn something, and change the way he thinks about women and communicates with them.

I am not being evasive, I am just being honest. Its not about "say this line and get laid" (LOL - we laugh at those people who teach that crap).

Lets put it this way.

Women know that men respond to visual stuff - a lot. The overal sense of a man "being attracted" to a woman is VERY effected by what he sees. So, you see women making a big effort to maximize their looks. What they wear, how they wear it, their makeup, hair, etc. Women are TAUGHT how to maximize what they have so that it LOOKs more appealing.

What most men dont realize is that for women, (much more so than men) what they hear, feel, sense, are all AS (and in many cases more) imprtant to them than what they SEE.

So, if you take the time to learn how to speak well, communicate, not only HOW but WHAT to talk about, your overall "appeal" to women goes WAY up.

 

[Punt]

Riker,

Is there anyway to just get the text book?

 

[Sadist]

Yeah, basically communication skills. You need to maintain a lot of eye contact with women. And actually listen, even if you are repeating back to them clarification or a summary of what they said. Guys can hold conversations while playing basketball and really don't maintain a lot of eye contact, so this can be hard to do. So basically, talk less about yourself,ask questions about her and just be honest and straight with her.

 

[HansNZ]

However, a woman's overall asessment of how desireable a man is can, and in most cases is, based upon much more than just his looks.

Riker29 You forgot to mention that materialistic considerations are VERY important to women. How much money you earn, what kind of car you drive is given great weight. For a guy, if a woman is hot and has big breats then the boys are not too worried about whether she arrived in a BMW or an old Honda.

In my interractions with women i've been noticeably snubbed for being 27 and still at university. I currently spend a lot of time around gay men and have never had this problem. They seem far more interested in my large pecs, LOL.

 

[Riker29]

Riker29 You forgot to mention that materialistic considerations are VERY important to women.

Well it is AN issue, but not overwhelming. That is a quick way of her making an evaluation, and in a LOT of cases it can be overcome by the correct approach.

The thing is if you play the game their way, you play by their rules. Change the rules .. play a different game ...... and get results.

 

[HansNZ]

Just to be a bit cynical here, Often if you are well-adjusted Mr. Right you will scare women away. Most people (esp. women in regards to romance) like to make things difficult for themselves. In this sense an arrogant, stuck-up jerk (which is often confused with confidence by women) will get women swooning. Perhaps they are seeking to recreate a piece of their own confused emotionally repressed father, so Mr. Well-adjusted doesn't appeal.

Can I also suggest that if you stop using "techniques" to get women and be yourself instead - then you'll have more luck. It is often male anxiety around women which scares them off. You've managed to attract male friends, right? I rest my case. (NB: this isn't meant to be critical of what you are doing as some guys really do need this help.)

I grew up as an only boy in a family of sisters. It often strikes me how inept some guys are when they haven't had this contact with women. This is true especially of guys who have had only brothers.

Just my observations

p.s. If you really want to attract (some) women, tell them you're gay. You'll be fighting them off. For some women bedding a gay man is a huge conquest and boost to their self-esteem. (This really is true).

 

[Mighty P]

HansNZ

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sad thing is you're probably right, but..........

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that shit cracks me up.

 

[kunta]

Riker are you TJ Mackey from Magnolia....."respect the cock"

 

[genarr3]

Personality? Caring? Loving? Understanding? Friendship? Kindness? Smart? Funny? Offer a sense of security?

Exactly. This applies to the good ones at least. The kind that go for a guy because he has a nice car or hard abs, are exactly the kind you don't want. Not me at least.

 

[Polfa/Jelfa]

Exactly. This applies to the good ones at least. The kind that go for a guy because he has a nice car or hard abs, are exactly the kind you don't want. Not me at least.

My thoughts exactly.