shirlene29

pretty sure MM just repeated what I said previously.

You explained it perfectly and I'm sorry. What you're describing is the feeling someone has when they've been robbed, particularly if it's a burglary. It's like the fire was a thief who violated your home.

I'm so glad you live in a good neighborhood, the generosity is mind boggling to me. Sounds like the only true good that can come of this is you might have some new family friends, and some people are having the opportunity to do some good for another.

Shirl, I'm gonna tell you something, and it's completely useless, in one way, but on another level, it's the ultimate truth:

IT'S ONLY STUFF.

Never forget that.

Replace what you need, cherish what is salvaged, and Who Gives a Shit about the Rest, seriously. I lost everything from the first 30 years of my life, with the exception of my son and about 30 photographs, when I divorced my ex husband. Honestly, I don't miss any of it, and the only reason I missed any of it at first was because of societal conditioning.

Your life and that of your partner, the love you share, the health of your children and your pets, that is shit you can't replace. The rest of it, fuck it.

IT'S JUST STUFF. You cannot replace love.

You can live without stuff, really, and when you stop giving it value, it becomes what it is: Flotsam and jetsam/clutter. Some of it makes your life easier, but for the most part, it's just a distraction. You REALLY don't need it. The truth is, Goodwill has an entire wardrobe for the whole family, and more than 75% of the stuff you need in a house for less than a few thousand dollars.

Your husband, your children, the child within you, those are miracles and blessings. The only truly good that can come out of this tragedy is looking at your life in a pared down fashion and embracing what is truly precious and what was truly nothing more than an empty space and/or time consuming distraction.

OH GODS, SHIRLENE!!!

I don't fucking get it. I'd be dancing a jig if my house burned down, seriously. It would thrill me to no end. I would come out ahead, seriously.

You actually fucking liked your house. No Fucking Justice.

I try to understand the reason shit happens in the universe, I try to find reasons, and the fact is, sometimes shit really does just happen.

I am so sorry for you family's loss.

you're not looking at the bright side. You got out of their with your most prized possessions, your children.

The rest is just stuff

wtf! you're the one who stomped out!

It's a good thing I became impatient after 12 minutes and came back to harass you. You posted to your own wall...

no apologies! Congrats btw! Boy or Girl or are you gonna be a hippie about it?

jeez....yeah I didnt visit the site at all til the other day. Sorry to hear that, really I am.