Please Scroll Down to See Forums Below Ok, wanted to get some advice from both the men and women of the forum on my little what I think is a problem. I recently got married a month ago. We dated for a little over a year, if this may play a factor... My wife has never been insecure about her body at all. Shes small build 5'2'' 105lbs she has a great body flat stomach with all the curves I can ever want. She recently tells me she wants to get breast implants. Now me personally I'm against it for a few reasons. First off she has big "B" to a small "C" cup size. They are perfect IMO. Now I know I do not have the right to tell her NO as it is her body and I'm not her owner. I've never been a fan of breast implants IMO they look well fake... I like natural. Another reason for not wanting her to get them is the extra attention she will receive... Now I know what your going to say... I'm insecure blah blah but truth be told I'm not, the reason I don't like the idea of the extra attention is because it seems to me that's why shes getting them. Not to get extra attention from but from other men which in my opinion I'm all the attention she should require. Believe me I give her plenty of attention every night!!! I have expressed to her that I love the way her breast look and wouldn't change a single thing about them. She says if I weren't happy with them I wouldn't tell her any how. I also think she will look rather unproportionate with size D cups being that she is a very tiny woman. Payment hasn't been discussed and I'm thinking I wont have any part in it. The question here is not due I ALLOW her to get them but should I be WORRIED? I think in any marriage it is important to take your spouses opinions very seriously, I wouldn't alter my body in any way that wouldn't please her.
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my wife just got some, she's about the same size as your wife you describe. I was fine with the way she was before the surgery but told her to do whatever she wanted and i'd support her decision either way. She's very happy with the results, and so am I.
You'd be surprised what they can do now. They look and feel very natural.
Sounds to me as if you don't trust your wife, or are a little insecure with yourself.
You'd be surprised what they can do now. They look and feel very natural.
Sounds to me as if you don't trust your wife, or are a little insecure with yourself.
no not insecure with myself... just dont see the point in messing up a perfectly good set of breast. I can understand women with smaller breast getting implants but Im sure some women would kill for the ones she has. Too bad I cant test drive a pair.... I think its more of the attitude of I dont care if you will hate them Im getting them anyway that bothers me the most... oh well
im with you. its fake. its not exactly safe. it doesnt look good. what is the point? you are the one she should want to look good for and you wouldnt like them.
i would have a big problem with it. i wouldnt demand that she didnt or threaten divorce or anything but i would let it be known that i was highly against it. and truthfully state your reasons and ask her not to do it.
needtogetaas
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Ya man post up the tits and we will be able to help. No tits no help bwahahahaa
Just kidding. Truthfully I feel the same way you do. WTF she need bigger tits for? she has a man already and you are happy with the..
Some numb numb or a woman will chime in with the its going to help her self esteem bullshit but give me a brake. The only kind of self esteem you get from a bigger set of tits is the kind to help you get a man. And she dont need that now does she.
If she was a model, or in a sport that bigger tits were a must then ok maybe. Other then that tell her she gets them done and its over. If she is trying to get another man then she will leave. if not then she will stfu and be happy with the tits she has.
needtogetaas
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next thing you know she will want to get Vaginal Rejuvenation treatments!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Vaginal Rejuvenation ™ – Vagina tightening surgery
Then whats that say man. If you are happy with her vag then she is just trying to make it tighter for some one else wtf damn!!!!!
Dont let her do it mang.
what if she asked you to stop taking steroids because she was happy with the way you are.
just playing devils advocate
my wife is a huge influence in my decison making. i am actually getting ready to attempt to come off perma.
i think any big decision should be made together.
I told her I didn't want her to get them and stated my reasons once again. Told her I wouldn't help pay for them and not to be surprised if I lose interest in that area. I don't take roids because I'm in the air force and get tested often... So that doesn't apply I do left everyday and take supplements. She has made the comparison to me lifting and what not and I can sorta see it but still don't think it's exactly the same.
I agree...all decisions of this caliber should be made together. I wasn't directing that previous post at you either, i just just playing devils advocate.
I agree...all decisions of this caliber should be made together. I wasn't directing that previous post at you either, i just just playing devils advocate.
i know.
i suppose the more important questions are :
are you guys planing or do you have kiddies ?
if its yes you want and will have soon then wait for sure.
if you already have and dont plan on more then do some research with her make it a couples thing, you will be surprised with what they can do. look at the tear drop style and a under the muscle procedure. if your thinking in your head these big round things then dont, the look so freakin good now and feel just as nice.
my 1.2 cents
are you guys planing or do you have kiddies ?
if its yes you want and will have soon then wait for sure.
if you already have and dont plan on more then do some research with her make it a couples thing, you will be surprised with what they can do. look at the tear drop style and a under the muscle procedure. if your thinking in your head these big round things then dont, the look so freakin good now and feel just as nice.
my 1.2 cents
BNG
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A couple thoughts from one who's wife has 'em.
If having kids, WAIT. Kids will change them and she'll have to have them re-done. Second, nerve damage. If she likes the nipple play she should think about loosing sensitivity. So after kids and having her nips chewed on I'd give the green light. I'm quite happy with the way my wife's turned out.
If having kids, WAIT. Kids will change them and she'll have to have them re-done. Second, nerve damage. If she likes the nipple play she should think about loosing sensitivity. So after kids and having her nips chewed on I'd give the green light. I'm quite happy with the way my wife's turned out.
That's too bad she doesn't like her boobs even though you think they're great. Some women just aren't happy with how they look, and want to look a certain way because they think that people will like them more. Or they think that they will like themselves more. (The old self-esteem argument-which is BS because self-esteem comes from liking yourself no matter what).
I can see getting them done if it's for your job...like if you are an actress, or a swimsuit model, or even in bodybuilding if you have like no bodyfat and all that's left is skin. If you are getting paid to look a certain way, well go ahead and knock yourself out.
But if you actually told her you don't like that, and she is getting it done anyway, I think that shows her to be a little bit insecure and vain.
But whatever, it's her body. But I think she should worry about what you think too. After all, you two are a team.
Why doesn't she spend the $10 000 or whatever it costs on something that makes you both happy? Or even just put it toward retirement? After all, when you're both 75, those boobs are going to be pretty well useless when they're surrounded by a whole lotta saggy skin and wrinkles.
I can see getting them done if it's for your job...like if you are an actress, or a swimsuit model, or even in bodybuilding if you have like no bodyfat and all that's left is skin. If you are getting paid to look a certain way, well go ahead and knock yourself out.
But if you actually told her you don't like that, and she is getting it done anyway, I think that shows her to be a little bit insecure and vain.
But whatever, it's her body. But I think she should worry about what you think too. After all, you two are a team.
Why doesn't she spend the $10 000 or whatever it costs on something that makes you both happy? Or even just put it toward retirement? After all, when you're both 75, those boobs are going to be pretty well useless when they're surrounded by a whole lotta saggy skin and wrinkles.
How long has she been insecure about her breasts?
If you guys are planning to have kids then I would suggest she waits tell after that as her body will change then boobs get bigger then go back to normal and start to look saggy that life.
The point someone made about why you go to the gym is an excellent agrument how would you feel if she told you not to that she liked you fat? Would you get fat and listen to her.
If you guys are planning to have kids then I would suggest she waits tell after that as her body will change then boobs get bigger then go back to normal and start to look saggy that life.
The point someone made about why you go to the gym is an excellent agrument how would you feel if she told you not to that she liked you fat? Would you get fat and listen to her.
pendit
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My wife and I had this discussion a few months ago. I told her to do whatever she thinks will make her happy. (Her tits got pretty trashed after 3 kids, I don't care though) We discussed the pros and cons. I think the biggest con with implants is they are temporary. Sucks to pay a ton of money just to end up having to do it again and again. Wife decided she's not interested anymore and is keeping what she has.
Saline implants need to be replaced about every 10 years however cohesive gel implants (aka gummy bear implants) rarely if ever need replacement. In fact they come with a life time warranty no joke.
pendit
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Damn, I guess I'll have to start the conversation back up.Saline implants need to be replaced about every 10 years however cohesive gel implants (aka gummy bear implants) rarely if ever need replacement. In fact they come with a life time warranty no joke.
its all up to her and the more you act opposed, the more she will convince herself she wants it. I'd be supportive and say "If you need to get implants to feel pretty and proportioned, that's what you have to do"....but if she has body dysmorphia and plans on getting these huge melons, its best if you oppose it and preferably find a female friend she respects to back your side up. I have implants because I was a small b or maybe a big a...I'm 5 2 with a tiny waist and a black girl booty, so a flat chest didnt flatter me at all in clothing. Maybe she feels the same. If you can't win this one, try to minimize the damage. Your new comments should be : the implants could be fine, but it would be a shame to ruin your cute little body with big, fake melons...you will regret it one day. .....guide her into a smaller implant size, something that looks natural. Also, after her consult, if she really is as big as you say, the implants would be what...150cc? the doctor may think its not worth it for such a small change and hopefully he shows it on his face. Good luck. I hope she stays natural looking. I'm now a large D with 300cc implants but I don't look fake at all...so there is hope her body wont be ruined.
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ALIN
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Tough call. If you have a good relationship and have trust I wouldnt worry about the extra attention. Women crave that anyway.
Ok I will throw in...
#1 - they never feel natural no matter how good the implant let's not split hairs on that. They may feel better than the ones of years past but if you have a particularly attraction to the feel of them then an implant is not the same.
#2 - Good points from Superqt...there are different ones that require different care later and will also make a difference on size/shape/feel.
#3 - Breasts sag over time due to ligaments not the breast fat tissue/size itself. In fact usually the smaller the breast the less age/time/gravity will create that situation. Also if you get a bigger implant at a younger age the likelihood of that "Sag" occurring as you get older increases. They can only anchor the darned things so much and ligaments are ligaments ... they stretch and lose elasticity with gravity and age.
#4 - Even the most confident woman has at some point had issues with her breasts, butt, etc - pick one of those things that guys and the social media focus on...women are complicated (and let's leave it at that as I doubt its pertinent to most on this thread).
#5 - They will NOT look natural as she ages...the natural shape of a woman's breast is to teardrop as they get older assuming all else is good (eg ligaments in good shape, etc)...having kids, etc will affect this as well but in the best of all worlds that is the natural shape of a woman as she enters late 30's and 40's. Implants look nothing like that - they are anchored and therefore keep that more bubble shape. I travel a lot and something I find interesting is the # of women in the US who are 35-45 and get the breasts done and opt for an implant versus in Europe where they are also getting "Work done" but they are just getting a lift. They maintain the teardrop and natural look and feel by doing so and only affect the issue of "Sag" (ptosis is the scientific reference for it).
#6 - In agreement with the fact you should not try to tell her she cannot do it anymore than you should be telling her she must do something. But also agree that in a partnership one would hope that candid conversation and sharing of opinions is a good thing and that often that process yields a much more grounded decision than one left to the devices of our own often completely biased "egos" (the human ego needs a check and balance...)
Good luck.
#1 - they never feel natural no matter how good the implant let's not split hairs on that. They may feel better than the ones of years past but if you have a particularly attraction to the feel of them then an implant is not the same.
#2 - Good points from Superqt...there are different ones that require different care later and will also make a difference on size/shape/feel.
#3 - Breasts sag over time due to ligaments not the breast fat tissue/size itself. In fact usually the smaller the breast the less age/time/gravity will create that situation. Also if you get a bigger implant at a younger age the likelihood of that "Sag" occurring as you get older increases. They can only anchor the darned things so much and ligaments are ligaments ... they stretch and lose elasticity with gravity and age.
#4 - Even the most confident woman has at some point had issues with her breasts, butt, etc - pick one of those things that guys and the social media focus on...women are complicated (and let's leave it at that as I doubt its pertinent to most on this thread).
#5 - They will NOT look natural as she ages...the natural shape of a woman's breast is to teardrop as they get older assuming all else is good (eg ligaments in good shape, etc)...having kids, etc will affect this as well but in the best of all worlds that is the natural shape of a woman as she enters late 30's and 40's. Implants look nothing like that - they are anchored and therefore keep that more bubble shape. I travel a lot and something I find interesting is the # of women in the US who are 35-45 and get the breasts done and opt for an implant versus in Europe where they are also getting "Work done" but they are just getting a lift. They maintain the teardrop and natural look and feel by doing so and only affect the issue of "Sag" (ptosis is the scientific reference for it).
#6 - In agreement with the fact you should not try to tell her she cannot do it anymore than you should be telling her she must do something. But also agree that in a partnership one would hope that candid conversation and sharing of opinions is a good thing and that often that process yields a much more grounded decision than one left to the devices of our own often completely biased "egos" (the human ego needs a check and balance...)
Good luck.
medi3val
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I know it's an old thread, but since it was bumped I will add my life experience.
My entire life, every couple I had ever met where the woman got a boob job, they divorced. Every. Single. One. So... along comes my turn. My wife and I were somewhat newly wed, and pretty happy. We'd been together for two years and she starts talking about boob jobs. She had tiny A tits, so it's somewhat understandable from her point of view, but this was my fetish. I like tiny tits. They make a woman look young.
Anyway, long story short. She gets the boobs, and within 18 months we're divorced. Coincidence? Maybe. Maybe not.
My entire life, every couple I had ever met where the woman got a boob job, they divorced. Every. Single. One. So... along comes my turn. My wife and I were somewhat newly wed, and pretty happy. We'd been together for two years and she starts talking about boob jobs. She had tiny A tits, so it's somewhat understandable from her point of view, but this was my fetish. I like tiny tits. They make a woman look young.
Anyway, long story short. She gets the boobs, and within 18 months we're divorced. Coincidence? Maybe. Maybe not.
I've had mine for 15 years (actually had them redone five years ago) Been happily married for 18 years and have no desire to cheat. I would say that it is best if both spouses are in agreement.
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keyholemole
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If my wife asked about implants 30 days into our marriage, I would consider the marriage a "don't count". Dude- she never mentioned this in the time you dated, and suddenly 4 weeks after your vows she wants a giant new set of tits? NOT normal, NOT acceptable, NOT gonna give a shit if you drop dead. You love her breasts- this is either for the boyfriend that she has, or expects to get with her new body. You aren't in the equation. She's psycho, and she's the weakest link. Bye-bye!
Gunslinger007
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Screw all that noise about it being "her body". Tell her "No" you won't allow it, because you said so, end of discussion. Tell her you are looking out for her best interest, give her some implant horror-stories, tell her you absolutely love her natural breasts and you wouldn't trade them for anything. Put your foot down and show you are the man in the relationship, and you call the shots, but also show her its because you care about her, and love HER body, not silicone sacs.
I feel the same way as you bro, my last two gf's have had model bodies, with average C-cups which I found to be absolutely perfect. And BOTH of them went on some dumbass kick about wanting to get implants. I shut that shit down, hard.
When you're in bed with her, make sure you let her know, in the heat of passion, how much her gorgeous breasts turn you on. Works wonders, bro.
Peace.
I feel the same way as you bro, my last two gf's have had model bodies, with average C-cups which I found to be absolutely perfect. And BOTH of them went on some dumbass kick about wanting to get implants. I shut that shit down, hard.
When you're in bed with her, make sure you let her know, in the heat of passion, how much her gorgeous breasts turn you on. Works wonders, bro.
Peace.
motorcyclegiant
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guy in my motorcycle club, his wife wanted them, he loved it, thought it was a great thing. After she got them, she started getting in shape, she got into fitness, total transformation. He talked her up constantly. (hes a big boy himself..competes in iron man/life guard competitions) Found out a week ago, shes been screwing around on him, and has been "dating" another guy for 6 months. Hes a great guy, obviously I dont know everything about him, but I know he seems to be a truly great husband/father. Made me think of this thread...wtf is the deal? Of the people I know, who have gone through divorce, all but one were "wife cheating". I dont get why so many women throw away their families and cheat?
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BNG
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I think women get bored with thier lives and start looking for little thrill.
When an attractive guy starts hitting on them and making them feel excited and it's excitement she doesn't feel at home it spells trouble.
Don't think getting the boobs is the trigger point. Getting new boobs on is part of the plan. They decided to cheat way before that. Divorce rate is over 60% or something so statistically about 6 out of ten peeps you know are headed that direction.
When an attractive guy starts hitting on them and making them feel excited and it's excitement she doesn't feel at home it spells trouble.
Don't think getting the boobs is the trigger point. Getting new boobs on is part of the plan. They decided to cheat way before that. Divorce rate is over 60% or something so statistically about 6 out of ten peeps you know are headed that direction.
PickMe69
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I would tell her you are against breast implants. Tell her that you'll support her decision but if it were up to you, you wouldn't have her do it. You'll have to live with those breasts for the rest of your life, so IMO you should be able to speak your mind about what you like and don't like.
I hate fake breasts and I refuse to date a girl that has them.
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No dude, that ain't know coincidence. She had the shit all planned! Your ex-wife must have been a babe when you all got married. Add the boob job and she becomes babalicious.
A woman likes to hear a man say, "You got a great set of tits", and they like the attention. I have a younger brother that married a stripper! You can't the "strip" out of the stripper.
Big 38dd titties and nice ass too. Ain't going to 90 last days.
The bitch gives my brother a STD and she's says he was the one fucking around. Divorced. What I don't like is when I see her from time to time, she has the fucking nerve to call me, "Brother-in-Law"
Dude, all women are fucking whores!!!
Wyo_Cowgirl
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Having plastic surgery isn't the cause for a break up or divorce, it's the lack of support for each other that causes it. With this being such an old post, I'm curious as to how the event went. Did she have plastic surgery? Did they get a divorce? (as that was what was insinuated would happen.)
Personally, I am on the fence with breast enhancements. I am a mom of 4, with 'saggy' breasts. I am still doing my research on this, as I don't want to make a poor judgment, especially one that could disfigure me more than just having saggy breasts. But on the other hand, I would love to have breasts like I did when I was 20-something, not 40-something. It's not like I can encourage my ligaments to increase their strength by just lifting weights. And for me, having one breast larger than the other has always been unattractive and embarrassing for as long as I can remember. (Yes, I do realize woman's breasts are different size, as the larger one is over the heart). I do have to say, it was nice to hear some of the comments from men who explained why they don't like 'fake' breasts. It's always good to hear reasoning, instead of just I don't like them. At least for me it is. Thank you for the food for thought. Still fence sitting.
Personally, I am on the fence with breast enhancements. I am a mom of 4, with 'saggy' breasts. I am still doing my research on this, as I don't want to make a poor judgment, especially one that could disfigure me more than just having saggy breasts. But on the other hand, I would love to have breasts like I did when I was 20-something, not 40-something. It's not like I can encourage my ligaments to increase their strength by just lifting weights. And for me, having one breast larger than the other has always been unattractive and embarrassing for as long as I can remember. (Yes, I do realize woman's breasts are different size, as the larger one is over the heart). I do have to say, it was nice to hear some of the comments from men who explained why they don't like 'fake' breasts. It's always good to hear reasoning, instead of just I don't like them. At least for me it is. Thank you for the food for thought. Still fence sitting.
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My wife's tits go from "saggy" to firm throughout the year. It depends mostly what she eats. I try not to impose my will upon her to stay on a certain diet. She continues to have a great shape and I still love those titties whether they are "saggy" or firm.
BrickWallBruce
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I think you should ultimately allow her but express that you strongly disagree. Don't physically stop her, but convince her that you don't want them changed. she's probly convinceable.
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Let her get the job done, then pimp her! lol
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I've read so many sob stories about guys with their women wanting to get a boob job. I like little titty women. 34 b or d and flat chested women. Any female That wants a boob job wants sexual attention and has a fantasy hard-on! Wants to be ganged-bang and shit! lol I'm glad my girlfriends aren't like that. A good movie or sitting down with a good drink works fine.
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Alum can tighten up the vagina. Some what of a dangerous substance though.
